If Your Thinking About Having Sex For the First Time. Posted: 05-29-06 02:23am
Many people hear to wait until your
married to have sex. This statement goes
out to all the girls and guys who are
contimplating on whether to have sex for
the first time or not to. From
experiences of my own hear me out.
Girls:
you may be intimidated by the rise
of the controversy brought up by teens and
parents on whether to start having sex or
not to. Then again comes the push of peer
pressure put on by your boyfriend. Don't
be pressured. It's hard, oh so very hard
not to, but you must stand your grounds
and morals. They will tell you that sex
is not such a big deal. The ones who tell
you that have not been in the shoes of a
girl who has just seen the blue strip on
the hpt(home pregnancy test). When your
put in that situation you'll find out that
you should have waited. That you should
have said no. But it's too late. That
pit feeling in your stomach won't go away.
That comes back every time you look at
your parents in the eye. It only gets
worse until you decide to talk to them
about it. After that, they lose trust in
you. Your life that you had is over.
When your married you atleast know that
the person you have sex with is a person
that will stay with you even when that
blue line comes up. When you are married
and in love is the right time to have sex.
Guys:
sex is the one thing that you are
trying to get through when your a teen.
Your mind is set on losing your virginity
with the hottest girl in school. You'll
do anything. Tell them lies and reasons
about why to do it. You'll be happy and
acheive a large bravado feeling that you
will in turn brag about to your friends in
a sense of relief up untill about two
weeks when you meet back up with that girl
and she looks you straight in the eyes,
and you ask her "what's wrong?" she drips
a tear down her eye, and puts your hand on
her stomach. In that split second your
heart droops into your stomach, and your
there wondering why in the world didn't
you wait. You don't want that for you,
for her, or for your concious. I know
this from experience. It's the worst
feeling in the world, and I hope that
another teen boy never goes through that.
I am here not to preech about what
is wrong and right, but to only advise and
help. Do the right thing for yourself and
your significant other. Think then act.
If you need assistance go to a friend or
parent. I'm sure they can help you with
their personal experiences as well as
their good will.
I'm a boy. I was fifteen.
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 06-22-06 19:18pm
Thats one thing I haven't accomplish yet
in my life
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tiffanyg
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2006 Posts: 27 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 06-23-06 14:22pm
iwishiknew
wrote:
thats one thing I haven't
accomplish yet in my
life
what is that loosing your virginity or
talking about it?
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 06-23-06 21:57pm
Yes losing my virginity..I have no problem
taking about it at all
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tiffanyg
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2006 Posts: 27 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 06-23-06 23:17pm
Oh I just didn't know what you meant i'm
sure it will happen when the time is right
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 07-01-06 18:49pm
tiffanyg
wrote:
oh I just didn't know what
you meant i'm sure it will happen when the
time is right
yeah I hope so..I have be waiting a long
long time..And being 28 yrs old its really
hard not to think about it.
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-15-06 23:02pm
Okay danny nice advice but by complaining
about friends pressuring people into
thinking how great it is, you're doing the
exact same thing by pressuring people to
wait until they are married. You are
right, it's a moral and self decision.
Some people pick the wrong time, others
pick the right time.
I'm a girl, I was 15.
And yes, I heard all the people pushing it
on others, and yes i've had friends who
have gotten pregnant. But I wasn't
waiting til I got married, I was waiting
until I found someone I loved. Who I did
at the time, and still do. No we are not
together anymore, but that is one thing I
will never regret. We had complete love
and respect for each other and it was a
great experience.
It's totally a personal choice based on
morals and beliefs. I believed i'd wait
for someone who respected and loved me, as
much as I them, and I did. So what if I
was 15, I was ready. I knew that. I
didn't regret or feel guilty at all. It
brought me and him closer and even though
it's been some time since those days, we
still respect each other and love each
other on some level, because things like
that are undying.
Everyone is aware of the risks and chances
they are taking by having sex, but you
can't tell them it's going to be horrible,
and scare the living day lights out of
anyone who's been thinking about it. They
should have unbias opinions, or they won't
form their own.
Let the kids do what the kids are going to
do. Std's happen, and pregnancy happen.
Not just to "unmarried careless teens". A
huge amount of marriages fail, horribly.
And i'm sure the people leaving them could
also regret waiting for someone who wasn't
worth it, or wasn't "the one".
Please think unbias, especially when
shooting out advice.
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heather200718
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Aug 2006 Posts: 14 Location: elizaville
Hello Posted: 08-15-06 23:07pm
I want to have sex for the first time and
im going crazy wat should I do should I
have sex or what
