Possibly Pregnant With An Exboyfriend..fun Posted: 05-30-06 23:51pm
So i've gotten myself into a very horrible
situation...And i'm going to try and say
this as eloquently and as to-the-point as
I can make it...So bare with me...
My long-term boyfriend justin and I had
been trying to have sex for about 2 weeks
at the end of april.
I say 'trying' because I am
incredibly pain intolerant, which
doesn't help with the whole penis-vagina
thing...
So basically, we would always have to stop
before he'd cum because i'd be in
excruciating pain. I realize there's a
slim to none chance of getting pregnant
this way, but there was no protection, and
I know my body pretty well, so there's got
to be a logical explanation for this...
We broke up 2 weeks ago, due to a
misunderstanding on his part, but since
then, we had still stayed close even
though we weren't dating. We got a
little closer, in my opinion, and I
thought we might even try to work things
out, but he said he didn't want to be with
anyone just yet.
After a while, he finally told me he felt
too hurt from the break-up(because he has
emotional/physical abuse issues with his
mother, and those memories were somehow
brought up by the break up) and he didn't
want to be around me anymore.
So he talked to his parents/friends/anyone
who would listen about it and now everyone
is convinced i'm evil and horrible just
because he can't deal with me being
around.
So the fun part happened this weekend!
I was randomly joking around with one of
my guy friends about me being pregnant,
and he sort of laughed it off and said,
"well, when was your last period little
missy?" and then it hit me. I couldn't
even remember when my last period was,
which means it was definitely more than a
month ago. I told him the last time I
remember having one was in mid-april,
right before me and justin were having
sex...And we both sort of sat there in a
wonderful mix of shock and complete
disbelief....
So now i'm getting a pregnacy test this
weekend, and only a select few of my
friends know about any of this...But I
have no one to talk to really.
Since I can't have contact with justin,
i'm completely torn on what I should
do...I mean, i'd want to know if there was
a chance my ex girlfriend was
pregnant...But I don't want to put more
stress on him than he already has...
Can someone please help? I just don't
know what I should do or who I should talk
to or even if I should be worrying...
So please, if anyone could just talk to
me, it'd be wonderful...
<3
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 05-31-06 01:08am
Its perfectly normal to be worried hun..
What I would do in that siduation is take
the test and tell him if I was, theres no
use in worring him about it to if your
not... Are your periods even regular?
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kissofangel20
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Posted: 05-31-06 05:50am
My main concern is why your having pain
during sex......That's shouldn't be a
painful experiance. Have you had
yourself checked cause some std's will
cause the pain. You need to go to your
Dr...Have the blood test for preg. Done
and then have yourself checked to see why
sex hurts you. If it is neg. Get on some
bc and next time make sure he puts the
hood on his soilder. But you need to
find out why it is hurting like
that...There could be a huge problem.
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DylanJacob
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Joined: 17 Apr 2006 Posts: 559
Posted: 05-31-06 07:19am
Some people do have pain yes, but not as
muc as you described, i'd get it checked
out hun...
And also - yeah well, just chill and take
a test and let us know how it goes. Good
luck. =)
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linuxChique
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Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 05-31-06 12:38pm
Just test. There is better than a
"slim-to-none" chance that sex with no
protection and pulling out can lead to
pregnancy. We've seen it over and over
again. You're right to be worried, but
only a test will tell. Let us know when
you get the results.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 05-31-06 13:11pm
I agree with the other posters, there is
no reason to stress your ex out anymore
than he already is without knowing for
sure if your pregnant. Apparently he
isn't too stable and you don't want to
send him over the edge before you know
because if you hit him right now with 'i
think I am preggers' he may just crash
because of his emotional problems. Just
relax til the week end and take the test
and if it a -ative test there is no need
to bother him.
As far and the pain your having you may
need to go see your obgyn because that
much pain (as you described) isn't normal.
If you don't have an std, then your
muscles may be too tight and they may have
to give you some excersizes to help loosen
this up. But there may be other things
that may cause problems that would cause
so much pain.
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Lisebabe23
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Joined: 30 May 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-02-06 20:31pm
Well, I took a test and it says i'm not
pregnant, but my obgyn says it still may
be too soon to tell...So even tho the test
says it's negative, the answer may still
be positive....
Which, I must say, sucks.
Lol
there's no other way to put it.
It just sucks.
so now I have to wait a few weeks to see
if I still feel any symptoms...Or if I
start my period...So, this week should be
much fun...
Thanks for the feedback guys!!
You're great...
^_^
<3
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Mabel
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Posted: 06-02-06 23:35pm
lisebabe23
wrote:
well, I took a test and it
says i'm not pregnant, but my obgyn says
it still may be too soon to tell...So even
tho the test says it's negative, the
answer may still be positive....
Which, I must say, sucks.
Lol
there's no other way to put it.
It just sucks.
so now I have to wait a few weeks to see
if I still feel any symptoms...Or if I
start my period...So, this week should be
much fun...
Thanks for the feedback guys!!
You're great...
^_^
<3
your gyno didn't do a blood test? Weird.
Since that would be a definitive answer
right now as to whether or not you are
pregnant. And if you had sex the last two
weeks of april, then even a urine
pregnancy test should have come up
positive by now.
I wouldn't wait a few weeks for symptoms,
i'd get a blood test!
