Getting Abortion -- Please Help -- Scared to Death!

I personally believe that the sooner you have an abortion the better it is. I was 11weeks and had a surgical. I was under general anaesthetic so the actual procedure didn't hurt. Afterwards I was sore and had some cramping for a few days. Not trying to scare you as it's not the norm but the most painful thing for me was that I had an infection following (the anitbiotics clearly didn't work but I had an ius inserted a few days later so it's just as likely to have been that).

You can take pain killers which help with the cramping. The only sickness I experienced was morning sickness, nothing following the abortion.

I haven't had a medical abortion, I have had the second set of pills (causes the cervix to open) following a miscarriage (well, the embryo died and wasn't passing) as opposed to the usual d&c (long story as to why that happened, I digress, sorry). That was actual quite painful but I took pain killers and used a heat pack on my abdomen and it eased the cramps. Again, this didn't cause me to be sick but I had cramps following.
*this may not be accurate for a medical abortion as it wasn't technically one but thought i'd share that too*

i'm sorry you're scared, please try to relax. Make sure you have some support around and it'll make the whole thing alot easier.
Take care.
Mollie

Thank you so much for that....I don't think you know how much that helps me. I think I have decided not to have abortion by pill as I have read, it is a horrible experience altogether, with loads of pain and sickness and it takes hours so I will do the surgical.

Yes definately go the surgical route.. If you want a pain free experience try general(asleep) anesthesia, or the iv sedation that they offer.. I had that and my aboriton was totally painless.

I dont know what a sergical one feels like, but I hav had a early medical abortion(the one with the pills)i was 9 weeks. It did hurt, but I have a stong pain threshold. It is about 100 times worse than a period. Im not going to lie it will hurt. Its just an uncontrollable feeling, like when you have diorehhia but...Vaginal. Only advice I can give you is to have someone there. Put a dvd on. So you can keep you mind busy and distracted from the pain. Stock up on the painkillers and big sanitray towels you will need them. Also you might wanna sit on the toilet cause things can get messy if you just let it all come out in your pad. The pad wont be able to handle it. Good luck hun, know you have made the right decision *hugs* let us know how it goes p.M me at any time if u want.

I had a surgical abortion on the 1st june.. The people in the clinic were really nice and tried to make the procedure as comfortable as possible.

[did it hurt horribly?] - after the abortion when I came round from the anesthetic I had minor period cramps..Afterwards they offered toast and tea..
[were you sick, like throwing up?] I vomited once but when I told the nurse, she assured me it was normal..I was fine for the rest of the day. But the next day I vomited again, just the once and I was fine after.

[did you have severe cramping afterwards?] 2 days after my abortion I started to experience period-like pains and just assumed I was about to have a period. The day after, I had contractions in my womb..Ive never felt pain like it, and I was vomitting. In the end I had to go to hospital to get some tests and to be put on a drip..Im feelin better today, but I still dont know the cause of it.

No way am I trying to scare you, and I dont regret having the abortion. I just wish that they would have warned me this may happen instead of telling me id b fine to go to work the next day!

Good luck

Hun I can get personal about this but I know many girls who have had abortions.. Actually 5 of my friends and I was with them through the whole thing..

One thing I want to ttell you is this" make sure this is what you want to do, that there are no other choices..

When you terminating a pregnancy you are going against the body. Doing something with something that a body normally wouldnt do.. This causes pain.. Kinda like when you get a cut.. It hurts because its not supposed to happen.. Anyhow I wish I could tell you it wont hurt and you wont be upset but you most likely will.. 4 outta the five of my friends had pretty bad experiances and wished they kept the baby..

I hope that things go really smooth for you and that it is a complete abortion with no problems..

Good luck but really make sure this is the choice you are going to make..

Myself and others I know have had abortions and I don't know a single person who did not think it was a big mistake to have it. You have feelings for many years afterwards that never really go away. People really don't tell you about this part of it - and it is bad.