I really really need help on how I can
make a guy realise that he doesn't have
the power over me he thinks he have.
We've been having a bit of a fling for the
last 8 months and started sleeping
togetehr a couple of months ago. He's a
total person and all my friends hate him,
but everytime im drunk I still end up
getting together with him.
I founf out last night tho that he tells
all my friends that all he has to do is
click his fingers and I will come running
- i.E., whenever he wants sex he can come
to me coz he knows I will give it to him.
The gfuy is on a major power trip and
seems to think that he has all this power
over me, but in reality, all I want from
him is sex and I dont really care about
him at all emotionally.
How can I make him realise this and bring
him back down to earth a bit and make him
relaise that it is mutual using of each
other??
The other thing I dont understand is the
fact that hell always initiate
conversations with me, got jealous last
night wen another guy bought me a flower
when we were out and was embarrased by the
fact that I told all my frends that the
last time we had sex he only lasted 5 mins
- he then retaliated by telling them all
that he has me wrpped around his little
finger - I just dont no wat to make of the
guy. Please help me, please!!!
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 06-06-06 06:06am
Sounds like your friends don't like him so
they are making him feel bad and he is not
being give any other alternative but to
retaliate with some comment that he
probably doesn't even mean to be
derogotory to you.
I don't know, but it just seems to me that
if you were having the problems that they
want you to think you are having, you
might know about them without your
"friends" telling you so that you know you
are having problems.
Talk to him, obviously if you are sleeping
with him, you need to be able to talk to
him. If you speak to him about what your
friends are telling you, not in an
accusitory manner. The reason I say that
is you simply do not know how your friends
are treating him, if they are treating him
like he is an fool and he doesn't deserve
you and he ....... (i dont know what else
they can do to him but they sound mean) he
has no other choice, he has to say
something hurtful to them. You are being
played by your friends and they are what
will try to make or break your
relationship with this guy. If you don't
like him but like the sex, tell you
friends to back off, if you like him and
the sex, tell your friends they are on the
verge of pushing you away. It simply
isn't right for them to do this!
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 07-17-06 14:28pm
I don't know if its all your friends.I
know a guy who acts the exact same way and
when things started going wrong(not as he
planned) he would start making things up
about htem like they're psycho or
something.I would stop sleeping with
him,trust me it would probably be one of
the best decisions you ever made.It could
get real ugly and i'm sure you could find
another piece of a$$
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Emma2
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 4406 Location: Montreal, Canada
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 07-17-06 15:17pm
Why do you need to justify yourself to an
arrogant fool like that? Just dont call
him and ignore his attempts that is the
best way to make someone come off thier
little cloud and burst their bubble!
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rhondawms
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jun 2006 Posts: 30 Location: usa
Posted: 07-17-06 15:56pm
Melissa and emma are right stop sleeping
with him ,it would be in your best
interest to do this.
