I would like to share mine too I think its
healing to just get things off your chest
i became engaged to my fiancee in october
of 05 I had been a virgin up until then
and really wanted to wait until
marriage...He not so much there was a lot
of pressure and I caved. A decision I
will never stop regretting. I became
pregnant a few days after my birthday. I
remember laying in the bed and I just new
I could just feel it I dont know how to
explain it but I knew. I tried to deny it
for a few weeks until I missed my period
in november I drove a town away and bought
a preggo test, I took it in the bathroom
and when I saw that plus sign I sobbed for
an hour. I dont know that I have ever
felt so scared in my life, I called my
fiancee who was so suppourtive I can
honestly say I dont know what I wouldve
done without him I was very suicidal
leading up to my abortion and he really
was able to keep me from doing anything
durastic.
The first time we went to the clinic I was
a wreck! Only to be told I was to early
to come back in two weeks
so the second time was even worse and
worse yet I had the worst morning noon and
night sickness. I had to wait hours for
my turn to go in and I remember how awful
it was hearing the suction of the machine
while I was waiting. I had anastetic so I
was out during the procedure, but they had
the blood and like tiny gummy parts left
out in plain sight from the other
abortions and the doctor was so rough. I
am having a hard time healing now but I
have faith that god will bring me though
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Birch
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Posted: 02-14-07 08:34am
Thanks for sharing your story, changed.
I hope that you find some kind of healing
soon. It sounds like you may need to see
a professional-therapist or clergy-to help
you out. There is also an abortion forum
for people who are really suffering-
google "pass abortion support" and it
should be the first link listed.
Best of luck!
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changed
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Joined: 14 Feb 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 02-14-07 22:54pm
Thanks birch I am going to seek
counceling. I really appreaciate your not
condeming me
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-15-07 00:35am
changed
wrote:
thanks birch I am going to
seek counceling. I really appreaciate
your not condeming me
hun, most of us here would never condem
you for how you feel about your choice, or
for making the choice!
I personally wish you the best of luck,
love, and life! I know with help, you can
feel good about yourself again, and accept
yourself, your choice, and how your future
is still bright, perhaps even brighter.
There was a reason for your choice; and
now it's done; and we all wish you
recovery and love for yourself, and from
others
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Birch
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Posted: 02-15-07 17:30pm
changed
wrote:
thanks birch I am going to
seek counceling. I really appreaciate
your not condeming me
i am glad you are going to get help;
abortion can be a really big deal and have
huge impacts on people-no one should have
to go through it alone.
Best of luck to you, and continue to post
on here if you feel like it.
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cherry88
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Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 05-02-07 08:33am
cant believe this is still going, i
expected it to have gone by now.lol
had alot of views too! oooo
glad to see its still going though
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Jules
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Posted: 05-02-07 13:24pm
Hello .Cherry, how's the pregnancy going?
Well, I hope!
But onto the theme of this thread, I think
it should be made a sticky so other
newbies don't need to be searching for it.
Some won't look through all the posts and
won't know it exists.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 05-03-07 10:45am
Kypros
wrote:
But onto the theme of this thread, I think
it should be made a sticky so other
newbies don't need to be searching for it.
Some won't look through all the posts and
won't know it
exists.
you know i thought exactly that as it
started to become more popular, plus i
think it helps with people who are seeking
abortions.
if i had the power to turn it into a
sticky i would
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meblonde01
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Re: Share Our Stories <3 Posted: 05-03-07 11:10am
cherry88
wrote:
Hey everyone thought id
starts a new topic cause jaime's is gettin
a wee bit cramped :p does anyone want to
introduce yourself properly and share you
story?? I wont start as no1 might not
reply.Lol
but anyone feel free to start...
Cherry88
I had an abortion when I was 18 years old.
It was awful and to this day I have night
mares over it. I don't think it should be
legal to have an abortion. It was so sad
to me. I often wonder how women can say it
did not bother them. I think they must
have a very cold heart. And I wonder how
many other women feel the pain of what
they did because they had a choice. I
never ended up having kids because I felt
I already had my chance and killed it.
Hey everyone thought id
starts a new topic cause jaime's is gettin
a wee bit cramped :p does anyone want to
introduce yourself properly and share you
story?? I wont start as no1 might not
reply.Lol
but anyone feel free to start...
Cherry88
I had an abortion when I was 18 years old.
It was awful and to this day I have night
mares over it. I don't think it should be
legal to have an abortion. It was so sad
to me. I often wonder how women can say it
did not bother them. I think they must
have a very cold heart. And I wonder how
many other women feel the pain of what
they did because they had a choice. I
never ended up having kids because I felt
I already had my chance and killed
it.
I'm sorry that your own experience with
abortion was a bad one, but you must also
realise that different women go through
different emotions, perhaps due to the
circumstances surrounding the decision to
have a termination. ABortion must be legal
because, although you personally had a bad
experience, not all women do, and you
cannot take away their rights because of
your past. Let the women themselves be the
judge of whether they feel what they have
done is right or not.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Re: Share Our Stories <3 Posted: 05-03-07 15:44pm
Kypros
wrote:
meblonde01
wrote:
cherry88
wrote:
Hey everyone thought id
starts a new topic cause jaime's is gettin
a wee bit cramped :p does anyone want to
introduce yourself properly and share you
story?? I wont start as no1 might not
reply.Lol
but anyone feel free to start...
Cherry88
I had an abortion when I was 18 years old.
It was awful and to this day I have night
mares over it. I don't think it should be
legal to have an abortion. It was so sad
to me. I often wonder how women can say it
did not bother them. I think they must
have a very cold heart. And I wonder how
many other women feel the pain of what
they did because they had a choice. I
never ended up having kids because I felt
I already had my chance and killed
it.
I'm sorry that your own experience with
abortion was a bad one, but you must also
realise that different women go through
different emotions, perhaps due to the
circumstances surrounding the decision to
have a termination. ABortion must be legal
because, although you personally had a bad
experience, not all women do, and you
cannot take away their rights because of
your past. Let the women themselves be the
judge of whether they feel what they have
done is right or
not.
gotta agree with you 100% there kypros.
meblonde01 im sorry to hear that you had
such a bad experience too, i dont think
anyone enjoys it. but at least you have
shared and this is the best place to do it
if your
still having nightmares about it, talk
about it. get it off your chest. it
haunted me too until i opened up, now i
feel i can talk about it ...
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Jules
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Posted: 05-04-07 01:29am
I'm sorry about your loss, .Cherry
I think Tazzy is the mod on this forum so
perhaps she'll read this and make it a
sticky - I think that's a very good idea.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 05-04-07 08:50am
PurestGreen
wrote:
I'm sorry about your loss,
.Cherry
I think Tazzy is the mod on this forum so
perhaps she'll read this and make it a
sticky - I think that's a very good
idea.
thats ok hunny, i can talk about it. ive
had enough time now
i have asked tazzy several times, so now
its just up to her. oh and isnt carifairy
a mod now? i havent been here in sooo long
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MaineGirl76
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2007 Posts: 21 Location: Maine
Posted: 07-07-07 04:49am
First off, let me start by saying this is
a wonderful site. Here is my story~
I had my abortion May 31, 2007. I'm 31
and been in a commited relationship for 15
years. We have always been careful when
it came to birth control. We had both
talked about having kids someday in the
future, but never really decided for sure
if and when we wanted them. I have had
serious problems with depression for many
years and it has really taken a toll on
our relationship. He doesn't understand
(and doesn't try too). Well anyway, one
night in the "heat of the moment" we
started making love without a condom,
after a few seconds I pulled away and told
him to put a condom on in which he did.
Needless to say I was worried about
getting pregnant and could not wait until
my period, but low and behold it never
came. I had cramped some like I was going
to start but them never did, I was in deep
denial. I finally couldn't stand it no
longer and went and got a home pregnancy
test, I took it when I got home and got a
faint line so I took the second test that
came in the box and same thing happened
with that one. At this point i kept
saying to myself that I wasn't pregnant so
I went and got the first response early
pregnancy test and took that one as soon
as I got home, and yep you guessed it
positive. I was so upset because I knew I
wasn't ready mentally or physically.
I didn't tell my BF because I knew he
would want to keep it and abortion to him
is out of the question. So I called my
local Family planning Clinic to get a
another test done which came back positive
of course, I made the abortion appointment
that day for the following week. I went
in and had the abortion by myself, I had
the surgical one done and here they don't
put you out at all, you are fully awake
and alert! It didn't take that long but
to me it seem liked forever. I haven't
told anyone because my family is against
abortion and my friends are as well. So I
have been dealing with all this alone,
from worrying about being pregnant, to
finding out I was pregnant, to having the
abortion and my recovery and it has been
so hard. I am now having my first period
since my abortion and it is very heavy and
painful. I don't regret my decision and
know that it was the right thing for me to
do, but I am soooooooo glad I found this
website and this forum, it has been so
helpful and I'm glad I finally got to
share my story. Thank you!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-07-07 11:11am
We are glad you are here and finally
receiving support! We all care and we're
glad to hear you're doing okay
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MaineGirl76
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2007 Posts: 21 Location: Maine
Posted: 07-07-07 12:58pm
Thank you so much. You all have been so
helpful. I have been lurking on this site
for a couple weeks and can't believe how
helpful and caring everyone is. I have
always been pro choice but always told
myself that I would never have an
abortion, but you never know how you will
react or feel until you are in that
situation, thats why I'm so glad I found
you all.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-07-07 13:20pm
You are very welcome here. I am glad you
have found some support.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 03-25-08 13:02pm
MaineGirl76
wrote:
Thank you so much. You all
have been so helpful. I have been lurking
on this site for a couple weeks and can't
believe how helpful and caring everyone
is. I have always been pro choice but
always told myself that I would never have
an abortion, but you never know how you
will react or feel until you are in that
situation, thats why I'm so glad I found
you all.
thats so nice to hear. are you still about
on ehealth?
so the second time was even worse and
worse yet I had the worst morning noon and
night sickness. I had to wait hours for
my turn to go in and I remember how awful
it was hearing the suction of the machine
while I was waiting. I had anastetic so I
was out during the procedure, but they had
the blood and like tiny gummy parts left
out in plain sight from the other
abortions and the doctor was so rough. I
am having a hard time healing now but I
have faith that god will bring me though
if your
still having nightmares about it, talk
about it. get it off your chest. it
haunted me too until i opened up, now i
feel i can talk about it ...
