Ok I just have a quick question. Does
marriage really work? I hope that one day
I will get married and the thought of
being proposed to gives me
goosebumps....But are there really any
happily married people out there? I mean
couples who have been together for 10+
years with no cheating? Does wedded bliss
exist? I hear all these stories from
people about how their spouses are no
longer interested in them sexually or
emotionally and how drastically the
relationship changed after they got
married. Or the spouse cheated. It's
almost enough to make me not want to ever
get married. Every engaged couple wants
to believe that their marriage will
work...But I guess what i'm asking for is
proof. I'd like to hear from
someone...Anyone who's marriage is going
strong. I'm not an angry girlfriend or a
jaded wife. I'm not even engaged. I'm
just a girl in a wonderful relationship
that may or may not lead to marriage and
i'm simply craving some support to the
idea that the way things are now can stay
that way. Thanks.
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Emma2
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Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 4406 Location: Montreal, Canada
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Posted: 06-08-06 12:21pm
Not to sound negative or
pessimitic..Nothing is ever good for
always. I doubt even if there was any
cheating most people wont admit to it.
Marriage is hard and it is not a
fairytale!
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 06-12-06 00:13am
No one can promise that everthing is going
to last the way that it was through the
beginning. I like to say the "honeymoon
faze" there is nothing like the beginning
of a relationship. The courting, romantic
dates, the kind gestures, the touch and
feel, and the words that you exchange with
eachother in the beginning. These in time
weather your dating for a long time or
married seem to fade. Marriage is an oath
that you take by law and by religion.
That doesn't mean that things will remain
as well as it did at the moment in which
you get married. A long lasting marriage
depends on you and your partner, if you
two really cosintrate on what is important
to maintain a healthy marriage it could
last a life time. Open and honest
communication from beginning to the end
about everything the marriage will remain
strong in the sense that you will stay
together. But for the most part the oh
and the aw of the relationship seems to
fade away but most of the time you don't
even see that happen it's called flowing
"stay with the flow" so if there is true
happiness through the dating process and
you feel it in your heart that he is the
true one then you make the choice from
there. Hope this helped. Heather
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Anbrowing
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Puerto Rico
From Experience Posted: 08-01-06 19:35pm
Marriage is really hard and i've only been
married for a month. So I think that
pretty much says so. But even though it
its hard, it could last forever,it may not
be a fairy tale but there is something
called true love. I have a
used-to-be-classmate whose parents have
been together for more than 50 years now
and if you see them,it's like they were
married yesterday. It's incredible how
the talk about eachother. A big plus in
their marriage is that they have god as
the head of their family. They're really
christian and I think that when you have
god in your live and you really have this
high level of spirituality,it helps to
keep a marriage strong and to grow
stronger. I think the fundamental of a
good marriage is:
god,love,comunication,respect.
