Not Pregnancy Related. Again. Hah. Posted: 06-08-06 01:59am
.I.T.S. A. .L.O.N.G. O.N.E.
B.E.W.A.R.E.
Well first off I think i'm going to stop
posting here because I have nothing to
talk about thats pregnancy related even
though I feel like I can identify with you
all a whole lot more than anywhere else.
I mean... I feel like we're a whole bunch
of girls who go out & has lunch &
talk about how we are & our lives,
but... Even I am starting to find it
annoying that I blab about unimportant
stuff... Exactly like i'm doing now.
(sorry)
but anyway... Another 'wanting an
opinion' topic but its not about health it
should be in the relationships forum but I
think I can get a much better answer here
since i've seen a little bit of
personality out of you all already verses
people I don't know at all.
My boyfriend proposed to me & I don't
know what to think. I said, yes, so
technically i'm engaged. I know he's the
person I want to spend the rest of my life
with, i'm crazy about it, and he's
extremely good to me. He's the perfect
gentlemen, smart, makes me feel safe...
Ect. I know you might be into the whole
'you can't love at that young' thing
but... I love him, and can't deny it.
I've been in relationships that were
strictly infatuation, not love what so
ever but this time... I just feel it, I
just... Know. .A.N.Y.W.A.Y. Should I
save engagement until i'm actually old
enough to get married, or let it be what
it is, and be engaged for two years.
We've only been together for about 6
months now, but his parents had only
.K.N.O.W.N. Each other for a month when
they tied the knot & have stayed
together for about 25 years.
Opinions? Oh, & please don't harass
me! I don't want to be told i'm stupid.
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Becky
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Posted: 06-08-06 03:06am
Hiya swetie how old are you? I got
engagaed at 16, married at 18 and had my
first babba at 20 and now i'm expecting me
3rd and i'll be 22 next month so I don't
think you'd be too young (unless your 10-
haha!)
congratulations. You know when you've met
'the one'
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_entomb
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Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 43
Posted: 06-08-06 03:09am
beckster06
wrote:
hiya swetie how old are you?
I got engagaed at 16, married at 18 and
had my first babba at 20 and now i'm
expecting me 3rd and i'll be 22 next month
so I don't think you'd be too young
(unless your 10- haha!)
congratulations. You know when you've
met 'the one'
i'm 15, 16 in 3 months.
Good to know i'm not entirely alone. I
just feel like i'm going to get a lot of
negative criticism from my family. But
you know what... You're right, you know
when you've met 'the one' & they can't
tell me how I feel.
So thank you!
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arcadia
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Posted: 06-08-06 03:34am
You are undeniably young- but .I've always
said that no matter how young you are-
love is love, &when you find it, you
know it. &.You should never abandon
it just because people drill you into the
ground for being too young. I'd say just
take it easy- don't make any weddings
plans, yet [as tempting as it may be],
&don't tell everyone &their cousin
that you're engaged. Wait it out, see how
the next few years go. Grow together.
You'll be surprised how much your
relationship changes [in a good way]! My
boyfriend &.I have been together for a
year &a half.. I'm 19, &he's 21.
We've known from the very beginning that
we're going to spend the rest of our lives
together. I remember our relationship at
6 months.. It's infinitely different than
it is, now. It takes a mature person to
be in a very serious relationship. So
just grow with him, &when the time is
right [&you'll know it], marry him.
Just wait a few years. At least 'til
you're 18. :)
&.Congrats, sweetheart.
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_entomb
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Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 43
Posted: 06-08-06 03:44am
Know exactly what you mean<3 I mean...
Our relationship has changed month to
month so I know it'll change as we get
older, but I think it can only get better
from here on out. I hope at least.
We're probably only telling anyone who
asks, close friends, parents, & older
siblings. I fear letting it out to my 5
year old sister because she tells her
daddy (different from mine) everything
& I wouldn't want him to know...
Awkward. Haha its funny though... She
actually told me that I was going to marry
'jonathan' (what she calls him, but he
goes by jon) awhile back. She loves him
to pieces. Haha I love it :]
anyway, sorry to ramble, but thanks for
the input! Definitely going to see how
it goes. For now, can't deny that I love
having a ring on my finger!
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MamiClaudia
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Joined: 27 May 2006 Posts: 319 Location: Gastonia, NC.
Posted: 06-08-06 08:07am
Beckster you must be in true love I am
jealous!!! =0(
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Becky
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Posted: 06-08-06 11:07am
mamiclaudia
wrote:
beckster you must be in true
love I am jealous!!!
=0(
haha. I am. Its the only thing I have
going for me at the moment. He is my
rock. He sticks with me no matter what.
I have a cancer scare going on at the mo
and he came straight home from work and
took the kids to my mil's house so that me
and him can spend some time alone.
We have only spent 3 days apart since we
got together. People say don't you get
sick of eachother, well sometimes we have
'disagreements' but nothing major and we
both have the same sense of humour 'a bit
risque' and are into the same things.
Sorry i'm rambling on now.. All love
struck lol
<edited for terrible spelling>
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-08-06 13:45pm
_entomb
wrote:
beckster06
wrote:
hiya swetie how old are you?
I got engagaed at 16, married at 18 and
had my first babba at 20 and now i'm
expecting me 3rd and i'll be 22 next month
so I don't think you'd be too young
(unless your 10- haha!)
congratulations. You know when you've
met 'the one'
i'm 15, 16 in 3 months.
Good to know i'm not entirely alone. I
just feel like i'm going to get a lot of
negative criticism from my family. But
you know what... You're right, you know
when you've met 'the one' & they can't
tell me how I feel.
So thank you!
have you gotten into any
fights yet?I mean a real serious one?What
do both of you want in the future?Where do
you want to live?Will both of you have
jobs?Do you want children/does he?Just
somethings to think about
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_entomb
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Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 43
Posted: 06-08-06 14:00pm
melissa_20
wrote:
_entomb
wrote:
beckster06
wrote:
hiya swetie how old are you?
I got engagaed at 16, married at 18
and had my first babba at 20 and now i'm
expecting me 3rd and i'll be 22 next month
so I don't think you'd be too young
(unless your 10- haha!)
congratulations. You know when you've
met 'the one'
i'm 15, 16 in 3 months.
Good to know i'm not entirely alone. I
just feel like i'm going to get a lot of
negative criticism from my family. But
you know what... You're right, you know
when you've met 'the one' & they can't
tell me how I feel.
So thank you!
have you gotten into any
fights yet?I mean a real serious one?What
do both of you want in the future?Where do
you want to live?Will both of you have
jobs?Do you want children/does he?Just
somethings to think
about
we've had two serious fights. But the
only things we ever fight about are small
& its when i'm .P.M.Sing like crazy...
Which he understands. Our fights never
last for more than an hour.
Our future: we want to get married when
i'm 18 after I graduate, then move in
together. He's going to work while i'm
in college (& working as well i'll
have my cosmetology license by the time
i'm going to university). We both want
to live in tempe, where he's moving soon,
where the college I want to attend is
located--- arizona state university.
Which is only about 15 minutes where I
live now. Yes we will both have jobs.
We both want one child but will be happy
with what ever we end up with, less...
More. We don't want to have a child
until i'm nearing graduating from college.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-08-06 14:26pm
Ok : ) glad you thought about it all.Now I
only suggest you grow with each other for
a little longer before you tie the knot!
: ) good luck!
_entomb, life changes day by day, and is
very unpredictable. Nothing is
guaranteed, so you go with your heart.
Like beckster, I met my husband at
16...... Engaged at 17...... Pregnant
with my first son weeks after our
engagement. Believe me, it's not easy but
if you truly want it, you make it work ;)
in september we will celebrate 9 years ;)
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-08-06 14:45pm
Good lord mich! That seems so long but
your young!
Personally the person I was when I was 15
is so different than the person I am now.
Erik proposed to me a while back, and
even now at 17 I know I don't know enough
about myself or the world to know what it
is I want yet. So I said no. I told
him we have so much time, we're so young,
why rush it. If it is true love it is
not going anywhere, so there is no reason
to hurry it.
Everyone is different. Maybe you know
yourself really well, and what it is you
want. Maybe you feel safe and there is
no doubt in your mind. If I was you and
that was the case i'ld still give myself a
lot more time, because like I said, if it
is true love (the only kind of love you
want if you are getting married) then it
isn't going to leave you behind.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-08-06 14:55pm
tanyaface
wrote:
personally the person I was
when I was 15 is so different than the
person I am now. Erik proposed to me a
while back, and even now at 17 I know I
don't know enough about myself or the
world to know what it is I want yet. So
I said no. I told him we have so much
time, we're so young, why rush it. If
it is true love it is not going anywhere,
so there is no reason to hurry it.
Everyone is different. Maybe you know
yourself really well, and what it is you
want. Maybe you feel safe and there is
no doubt in your mind. If I was you and
that was the case i'ld still give myself a
lot more time, because like I said, if it
is true love (the only kind of love you
want if you are getting married) then it
isn't going to leave you
behind.
very well said tanya!
Jerrid told me once (when he was drunk
lol)that if he asked me to marry him and I
said ne he would kick me out,lmao.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-08-06 15:03pm
I'm so proud of you tanya!!! I love you
to death god
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_entomb
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Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 43
Posted: 06-08-06 15:31pm
Thanks for the input again you guys.
Definitely going to stay engaged. My
heart .A.N.D. Mind tell me its the right
thing to do. I really cannot even get
into it because I don't know how to
explain it. I love him more than words
can tell.
I, actually, as odd as it sounds, feel as
if I know myself very well. I searched
for the person I am & want to be for a
long time. I wasn't in the best family
most of my life & it forced me to grow
up fast & become very independent.
That only helped me know what I wanted out
of life. As for time-- I feel as though
time is prescious because I .D.O.N.T.
Know if I have all the time in the world,
or if he does so i'll live in the moment.
I know that if I were to tell him no,
he'd still be by my side. But I think
i'm ready for this. Infact, I know.
:] you can all disregard this topic now.
Its unimportant!
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-08-06 15:33pm
You don't have to leave! Lol i'm here and
i'm not pregnant either. Just stay, it's
fun.
