I don't want a whole lot of negative
feedback & most definitely do not want
to be called stupid but what are your
opinions on this:
i'm 15, & am in a near 6 month (short,
I know) relationship with the man I
already know I want to spend the rest of
my life with. He's 18. I'm absolutely,
no doubt about it, head over heels in love
with him. He treats me extremely well
& is everything i've ever looked for
in a man, though i'm only nearing 16. I
have an amazing connection with him.
& I know he loves me. He recently
proposed to me, I said yes, but wonder if
I should tell him, yes i'll commit to him
but we should let things play out for the
time being & save engagement until i'm
actually old enough to get married, or
should we let it be exactly what it is, an
engagement?
Like I said, don't need to hear your
'you're stupid, you can't be in love at
15' remarks. Just some criticism lacking
the rude aspect of it.
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everglide
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Apr 2006 Posts: 13 Location: Kent
Posted: 06-12-06 03:24am
Hmmm, I dont think the decision people
will come out with will matter to u as you
said you dont want people opions on the
matter, so thats clearly saying you
basically made up your mind already,
however I will comment on both.
If he really does love you and you love
him, then tbh it would really make no
difference to be engaged now or in 3 years
or so, however dont get married till ur 18
maybe older and the youngest.
But there's there fact does he actually
love you? I dont kno ur full story
however based on to wot ive seen with
mates etc, lots of my girly mates wen they
were u age back in the day :p dated 18 yr
olds etc, and they said they loved each
other and lasted 9-10 months, did I love
you, marry me and wot not, then they would
end. So tbh id be almost suprised if it
did work out, but this isnt most cases, it
could work out and you could be very
happy. Which I wish you are.
So, if it is love it wont make any
difference on engagement age(however dont
actualyl get married till ur a bit older
*as stated above*) and beware it could
just be words and you could be very hurt.
It may seem perfect now.... But alot can
happen and at a younger age things can
matter alot more
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 06-22-06 05:38am
Personally, I think you should just wait
it out till your at least 16. It's great
that you have found love at such an early
stage in your life, so well done, but you
need to just slow down the pace. If he
accepts this, and waits for you, then he
is a definite keeper.
:)
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 07-17-06 14:51pm
I think you should wait.Your way too young
and people change.You cold love him now
but it doesn't mean it will last.You need
to wait it out and see if he is willing to
stick with you through everything.6 months
is not even possibly enough for you to
know.Trust me,when I was 16 going on 17 I
got engaged to a guy I had been with for 5
months.By 7 months I realzed I wasn't in
love with him and I broke it off.I have
been with my now boyfriend for almost 7
months and not even thinking of
marriage.We are still getting to know each
other.Do you guys live together?I suggest
you live together before deciding to do
something like that.Trust me,that makes
all the difference.If it really is
love,you'll stay together but if not be
happy you didn't get married just yet!
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 07-17-06 15:09pm
I kind of agree with the others as it does
kind of sound like you have made up your
mind. I know that in several states, you
would be classified as jail bait and if
you really love him, you would not want
him to get into any trouble, would you!
I used to think that I was very much in
love at your age but it never worked out
and I am so glad I never gave into him and
had sex with him! How do your parents
feel about the whole situation, do they
know the whole truth? Just be careful
whatever you decide as their are a lot of
guys out there that will promise you
everything just to get one thing and it is
sooo not worth it!
All the best!
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mama5603
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 135
Posted: 07-17-06 15:13pm
I would say yes but stay togther and wait
it out till your 18 by then you should
know if that is who you wanna marry
