I just want to thank everyone that has
posted their views and opinions, and I
know that everyonoe will not agree with me
and my way way of life, but I want to say
that in no way am I bragging on him I just
want everyone to understand that when I
love someone I love them and not what they
have to do for money I just wish everyone
would realize that he is a human being and
that he has feelings just like you and me,
he would tell you if he could go back to
day one he would have never sold drugs the
first time that he would rather be
homeless and starving on the streets, I
know that in time it will get better, all
I know is how im feeling in this moment
and im hurting really really bad inside, I
just really wanted to post here because I
really dont have anyone else to talk to so
I appreciate all the posts...
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tigresacanela24
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 06-10-06 09:06am
~**rayne**~
wrote:
i just want to thank
everyone that has posted their views and
opinions, and I know that everyonoe will
not agree with me and my way way of life,
but I want to say that in no way am I
bragging on him I just want everyone to
understand that when I love someone I love
them and not what they have to do for
money I just wish everyone would realize
that he is a human being and that he has
feelings just like you and me, he would
tell you if he could go back to day one he
would have never sold drugs the first time
that he would rather be homeless and
starving on the streets, I know that in
time it will get better, all I know is how
im feeling in this moment and im hurting
really really bad inside, I just really
wanted to post here because I really dont
have anyone else to talk to so I
appreciate all the
posts...
i don't know your bf personally so I can
say how sincere he is about
regretting his lifestyle. But I can tell
you that I dated someone that sold drugs
once. I didn't know about it until I had
been with him awhile and he said the exact
same things. He didn't mean them and I
had to leave him bcuz that wasn't a
lifestyle that I wanted for myself. I
didn't want to be arrested or harassed by
police for someone that I was dating.
Not worth the trouble...
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MamiClaudia
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2006 Posts: 319 Location: Gastonia, NC.
Posted: 06-10-06 14:34pm
Im sorry about your situation. You have
alot of important decisions about your
life ahead. By the time he is able to
come back into your life you are going to
be almost 40. If you think it is worth it
to wait and stick by him things will not
be easy. You devoted alot of your life to
this person, and it sounds to me they were
dishonest. And even if they were not
dishonest to you about what they were
doing, the buisness itself it dishonest
and I personally dont think you should be
trying to build a family around something
like that. Especially a drug like that...
That is serious. I hope everything works
out but it sounds like to me he wasnt
thinking about you and the family you were
trying to make with whathe was doing. Do
you think if he spent that time in jail he
would come out a changed man or get sucked
back into the trade of big money and
hustle? You only get to live this life
once and 15 years is a long time to wait
for someone. I hope you have alot of
trust and alot of will power. Maybe it
would be better to eventually go your
seperate ways, but to stick by your man as
a friend, you are going to need time to
think and recoperate from the relationship
and what has happend wether you are going
to stick with him or not. Im sorry. For
15years... It must have been alot of the
stuff. I know you love him, but you need
to think about you.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-10-06 15:44pm
You have to follow your heart and do what
you feel is right at that time, it is your
choice. It is not your fault and please
do not blame yourself, I am not walking in
your shoes and you can change your way of
thinking today tomorrow, six months to
five to 10 years from now, the thing of it
is is to not just sit there, you still
have a life to live so you need to live it
if you were to meet someone else in the
meantime, that is what will happen as
noone knows what will happen by the end of
the day or tomorrow so why worry about
what will happen 5 to 10years from now and
don't give him any off the promised that
you do not know if you cannot keep because
even though you may still love him, I am
sure that the respect is not the same!
Their are other forums on her about
relationships, if you would be more
comfortable but I do know that I am here
for you as well as some of the others!
Do you have children by him?
The best to you!
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~**RaYne**~
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2006 Posts: 33
Posted: 06-11-06 10:33am
Well, I just got to talk to my fiance for
the first time since he has been gone and
he is in good spirits and he has a
positive attitude about everything. He
said that he is really glad that he got
caught because he was so tired of living
that life. I asked him something that I
think I have never asked him before and
that is why was it so hard to stop living
that life and he said that he has been
living that way for almost 20 years and it
has became such an addiction, kind of like
a drug addiction, he said he has quit on
and off and he always ended up relapsing.
I finally get to see him wednesday, when
he goes for his court appearance, he said
that he is ready to make a plea and get it
over with. I told him that I dont know
what our future holds, but I told him that
I will always love him and I promised him
that I will always be by his side and that
I will do anything I can for him. I want
to thank everyone for their encouraging
words, it really has helped me having
someone to talk to. :d
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