I've orgasmed many many times (followed by
the 'shakes,' fast heartbeat, sweat,
etc.Etc.Etc), but there is one thing I
haven't experienced, and i'm not sure if
it's a 'normal' thing or something made up
for porno:
i've never ejaculated.
Now, I don't see why a woman would
ejaculate...I mean, we get wet to allow
the penis to enter all nice and
everything, and then the man shoots to get
the sperms up in the v.I.P. Area so the
female gets pregnant. It's just natural
stuff.
And yet, i've heard of this. And now my
boyfriend of a year wants me to ejaculate,
and I really don't know how to do it, or
even if I could. There are times where
there is no way he's going to cum, and so
he'll work and work and work until I
ejaculate. But since I never do, we both
wake the next day all swollen. I'm
fairly sexually active (with my guy and
myself) and I know what gets me off. I
just don't ejaculate.
Does anyone know if it's abnormal to not
ejaculate if you're a woman? I feel so
broken....
Thanks!
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 06-09-06 05:42am
Don't worry. As far as i'm concerned the
vast majority of women have never
experienced female ejaculation. I was
intrigued by that long post about how to
make yourself squirt, and I tried it, and
it didn't work :)
i don't know anyone who it ever has worked
for. Every woman is different and
perhaps it is possible for some, but
untill I see it for myself I remain
somewhat of a sceptic.
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Da Vinci
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Posted: 06-09-06 22:55pm
A lot of women have so many troubles in
life to worry about (society, abuse, crazy
men lol) that they forget to let
themselves go during sex
fiona05 if you tried the g-spot orgasm
alone, i'd suggest getting a trigger point
massage, and if that isn't available get a
deep tissue one, then try it again...If
you get that pee feeling you're close.
Oh yeah...Do lots of kegels!
If you still get nothing...Pm me :)
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questionsihave
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I Have a Question Posted: 06-10-06 00:09am
Do you think that male or female
masturbation is more satisfying and if you
dont mind saying so why is that your
opinion? :oops:
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 06-10-06 09:05am
da vinci
wrote:
a lot of women have so many
troubles in life to worry about (society,
abuse, crazy men lol) that they forget to
let themselves go during sex
fiona05 if you tried the g-spot orgasm
alone, i'd suggest getting a trigger point
massage, and if that isn't available get a
deep tissue one, then try it again...If
you get that pee feeling you're close.
Oh yeah...Do lots of kegels!
If you still get nothing...Pm me
:)
answer me this then:
1) when we use the term g spot, what are
we actually referring to? I've read
plenty about where the gspot is, but
nothing on what it actually is. Is it
hypersensitive erectile tissue? Is it a
muscle? What is it about this particular
area that could cause a woman to
ejaculate?
2) where does the ejaculate come from? A
gland? What?
3) what is contained in the ejaculate?
Thanks
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Da Vinci
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Joined: 03 Jun 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 06-10-06 12:13pm
Fiona05: the g-spot is acutally inside
the tissue underneath the urethra.
There are paraurethral glands (on either
side) of the female urethra. This area
enlarges during sexual stimulation and
swells during orgasm. It's sensitive
tissue but unlike the clit, it doesn't get
as hypersensitive during orgasm so you can
"reuse" it almost right after orgasm.
It is apart of the urethral sponge. The
ejaculate that comes from the skene’s
(paraurethral) glands is not urine, but a
thin clear fluid containing glucose and
prostatic acid. This chemical makeup is
much more similar to semen (without
sperm), than it is to urine.
The male and female genitalia are the same
up until 6 weeks of pregnancy...Heck they
are still the same, but different...I'd go
into this further but i'm sure you all
already know this.
Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Orgasms Vs. Ejaculation Posted: 06-10-06 21:50pm
Here is a bit more on the subject......
Females ejaculate? Yes, they do. We’re
talking about a gusher of fluid spurting
out of her vagina as she comes. Actually,
to be more accurate, the fluid comes
squirting out of her urethra. Don’t let
this gross you out, though; it’s not
pee! Female cum is a clear, odorless
liquid produced by a small organ called
the “female prostate,” or urethral
sponge, which is located between the
urethra and vagina. The fluid it produces
just happens to come out of the pee hole,
but...So does guys’ semen, right?
While some women may experience
ejaculation naturally in the course of
intercourse or other sex play, most
require some concentrated stimulation of
the g-spot. Massaging the g-spot causes
the urethral sponge to become engorged
with fluid, which is then expelled during
orgasm. And, as with an orgasm,
ejaculation also requires the woman to
“let go.” before ejaculating, the
woman will feel as though she is going to
pee. However, it is nearly impossible for
her to urinate while coming, because the
muscular contractions of orgasm close off
the bladder and prevent the passage of
urine.
As she gets closer to coming, she will
start to feel as though she has to
urinate. That’s the cum beginning to
flow into her urethra. In order for her
ejaculate, she has to relax, let go, and
push down and out with the same muscles
she would use as if she were peeing. It
may be hard to overcome the impulse to
hold back, but you can reassure her,
again, that if she is coming, she will not
pee.
Instead, as she comes and pushes the fluid
out, she should feel extra intense
orgasmic pleasure, and you should be
rewarded with a spurt of nectar that may
range from gentle gush to a drenching
spray.
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xxxfrankxxx
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kegel Posted: 04-07-08 13:32pm
describe kegel
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Granps
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Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Kegel Posted: 04-08-08 00:41am
xxxfrankxxx
Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises (pronounced "kaygel") are
a series of simple exercises you can do
anywhere, any time. Stuck in traffic? TV
too boring? Just start Kegel-ing! You will
not regret it, especially if you are
pregnant, just had a baby, if you have had
lower abdominal surgery, if you want to
spice up your sex life, or if you are a
male and experiencing Erectile Dysfunction
or you just want to last longer - Kegels
will help.
Our pubococcygeal muscles (P.C.) act like
a sling, suspended from our pubic bone in
front to coccyx or tailbone in back. These
muscles support all your pelvic organs,
bladder, uterus, and bowel. Sphincters are
rings of muscle that circle your anus,
your bladder, and the vagina.
As a result of pregnancy, surgery,
menopause, bladder infections, or simply
aging, muscle tone decreases. And you know
that old expression - if you don't use it,
you lose it!
So, you may laugh, cough, do aerobic
exercises, and you spurt small amounts of
urine - very embarrassing. Or you may be
stuck in traffic, get home, put your key
in the lock, and suddenly, you've gotta
pee - like, now! You crotch-clutch and
dribble in your rush to the bathroom.
You've got a problem.
Before you go to the doctor for treatment
for incontinence or resort to adult
diapers, you can take charge with Kegels.
There is an easy way to tell which muscles
you should exercise - try to stop the flow
of urine when urinating. If you can stop
the flow when tightening your PC muscles,
you will know that you are contracting the
correct muscles. (Although this is a good
check for accurate Kegel technique, it is
not recommended that you regularly perform
these contractions while urinating.)
Here are some exercises that are helpful:
Sit on a hard chair; lean forward and
tighten all your sphincter muscles, anal,
vaginal, and urethral, in succession,
front to back; hold the squeeze for one or
two seconds; release, then contract from
back to front.
If you are in a line-up at the store, you
can squeeze all your PC muscles and lift
up. You will notice that when you do this,
you tuck in your tailbone and tighten your
abdominal muscles at the same time. That's
a good thing. Now, gradually release the
muscles slowly, one by one.
Here's one they call The Flutter. You
contract all the PC muscles quickly, and
then release repeatedly.
Another one: Squeeze your PC muscles
briefly for a count of five; hold; then
squeeze harder, and hold for another five
seconds; then squeeze as hard as possible
and hold again for a count of five. Then,
slowly reverse the process, releasing a
little, holding for five, repeat, until
your muscles relax completely.
As with any exercise program, start
gradually. When your muscles begin to
strengthen, increase the number of Kegels
you do every day and the length of time
you hold each contraction.
By making Kegel exercises part of your
daily routine, you will improve urinary
control (both women and men), as well as
vaginal tone. In males, the additional
blood-flow to the genitals due to
exercising also helps with erections.
Granps
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heybaybee
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Posted: 04-08-08 15:29pm
My boyfriend was fingering me and I dont
remember the feeling of having to pee but
then I felt like I *tinkled* it felt like
a light fluid like the consistency of pee
but it didnt smell like it. I asked him if
he noticed and he said no but I get VERY
VERY wet down there so was it possible
that i ejaculated but not that much?
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Granps
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heybaybee - boy friend fingering you Posted: 04-08-08 16:56pm
More information about fingering, climax
& the G-spot
We have both ends of the spectrum here -
couples who devote the entire weekend
trying to find the elusive G Spot; then we
have females who are all upset because
they think they pee'd the bed during sex,
and are so embarrassed they are reluctant
to get into sex again for fear they flood
the bedroom!
Anatomically, the G Spot cannot be found
as such; it is believed to be a small
spongy pad that wraps around the urethra.
If that pad is stimulated through the
vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can
be very exciting.
The G Spot is a small area, (about 1 inch
diameter) inside the vagina, up about an
inch and half to two inches. Appropriate
stimulation will cause the female to take
a deep breath and push down real hard.
Most women describe the sensation as
feeling they want to urinate - they have a
powerful urge to "bear down", same
sensation of pushing when delivering a
baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and
push right down to their bottom.
During G Spot orgasm, a large amount of
fluid may suddenly gush out through the
urethra. It is difficult to estimate how
much fluid is expelled. I have heard
amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts.
The G Spot fluid is colourless, (urine is
yellow), it smells sweet like clover,
(urine smells like urine), it does not
stain the mattress, (urine certainly
does).
Every woman who has experienced G Spot
orgasm has a different way of getting
there. But there is a common thread
through their stories. Usually it happens
when:
- she is in a high trust relationship
where she does not worry what she looks
like, sounds like or smells like; she is
confident.
- she is very, very sexually aroused. She
has possibly had one or more orgasms just
prior to reaching G Spot orgasm.
- she reaches a certain point and she just
has to push down.
- she can feel the fluid spurting out and
it feels wonderful.
- after that orgasm, women will tell you
they feel completely depleted, they can
hardly walk to the bathroom.
- it the best sex possible.
Some women say they have easy G Spot
orgasms with one partner and unable to get
there with another. Some women are able to
stimulate themselves to G Spot orgasms,
others just can't.
Some women get tired of having a
perpetually wet bed, so they take a green
garbage bag, cut up one side and across
the top. Open it up, then take a
flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin
it to all four corners of the garbage bag.
Then roll this up lengthwise and put it
just under her side of the bed, within
easy reach. Then if she decided that
"tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna
stop me now", she reaches under the bed,
rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her
partner knows what that means, and away
they go.
Take the pressure off yourself. Some
females ejaculate on a regular basis, some
can make it happen, for others it is an
amazing accident, and some women just do
not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and
enjoyable and satisfying if you do or
don't hit that elusive G spot.
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bumblebee11
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Posted: 04-14-08 22:56pm
disposablefeelings... I have the other
problem I squirt when he fingers me but
cant orgasm. For me to squirt he puts his
fingers in facing up and does the "come
here" motion with his fingers... gets me
every time.. I used to be embarrassed
about it but then I found out he is crazy
about it. If you could help me find a way
to orgasm that would be great! Seeing that
we have opposite problems! Thanks
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-14-08 23:21pm
Orgasm normally comes from the CLITORIS,
not the g-spot. Try stimulating your
clitoris! You need to masturbate, girl!
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bumblebee11
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Posted: 04-15-08 06:05am
I do!! I use my vibrator and I love it!
But I can't seem to orgasm with my
husband! That is what I really want. I can
only go with my vibrator but if I manually
stimulate myself it doesn't work.. any
suggestions?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-15-08 08:58am
I'd suggest masturbating with only manual
stimulation to get orgasm that way first,
however it may simply be too hard to
achieve.
There's no rule saying you can't use a
vibrator during sex!!
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jjuicytangerine48
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Orgasms Vs. Ejaculations Posted: 05-13-08 14:53pm
Hey ladies, listen up!
I am soon to be 49 years old and had never
ejaculated until 6 months ago! We use all
types of toys during sex. He used to say
"I want to see it" and I'd say "see what?"
I did a google search on female orgasms
and read that during clitoral or just
beneath it stimulation, a woman should
relax her body and let it happen, go with
the feeling, don't be afraid and know that
it is not pee. At our next encounter I
did just that. Now I squirt all across
the room. I call it my double whammy
because during the clitoral orgasm I let
go and the fluid releases. I could do
this all night. He loves it and so do I!
I'm a big girl now!!
