I Have a Question: I Need Major Advice Posted: 06-11-06 19:10pm
I am a 20 year old college student who has
recently 'came out' to my mother *biggest
accomplishment* ever....However, I have a
bigger dilemma. For the past couple of
years, I have developed strong feelings
for one of my good friends and I kind of
think or at least hope she feels the same
way as I do but I am not 100% sure. I
would really be thankful if someone could
give me advice about what they think about
her...
She is a year younger than me and has
never had a boyfriend, never been kissed
or never mentions that she would want a
boyfriend (even though all her friends
have one), used/still does always stare
at me and smiles, *none of my friends have
ever really done this to me which strikes
me as odd*, is not very 'girly'. She
recently told me that she doesn't want to
have kids someday. Also, whenever I talk
to her about my previous boyfriends, she
never really says anything or attempts to
give me advice. However, the other night
whenever I asked her if she was a lesbian,
she got all defensive and went crazy which
I am still confused about....*maybe she
was being defensive* :?
My mom thinks that she may be bisexual or
w/e...And my gut/insticts tell me that she
is but...
I really like her and I want to eventually
develop a relationship with her so it
would really be helpful if someone could
give me some advice about this situation
b/c I have never been in this situation
before...
Thanx bunches~
emily 20 missouri
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PassionFlowerLover
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2006 Posts: 23 Location: US
Posted: 09-05-06 15:21pm
Does she know about your sexuality?
Maybe if she knew about you she might be
able to admit that she is, if she is.
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light_of_zelda
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Earth
Posted: 09-07-06 23:53pm
You know, I am younger than you are but
almost the same thing happened to me. I
met this girl one day at school and I
thought she was so pretty... At first the
thought of being gay was frightening, so I
tried to forget... But over the years it
got stronger, and we both just realized
that we both love each other, and now we
are together.
Sometimes, you don't need to try and
figure out if the person you love is also
gay/bi. You just need to put yourself
out on a limb. Because if you want to
spend the rest of your life with that
person, they have to love and accept you
as much as you love/accept them. If they
don't, then (sorry to say) it's not worth
your love. And if she was being
defensive, and she loves you back, then
that's when you know you've got it made.
Basically what happened to me is that my
friend and I were play fighting like we
always did. It got a little further than
ever before and I just said out loud "i
don't want to change everything on you but
I have to ask... Are we gay?"
she laughed quietly, and said she didn't
know... But then we realized by then that
the answer was really yes.
Your feelings have worth; don't let them
fall to waste.
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