Brian, yes I did read your reply, thankyou
very much. I agree that maybe a day or
two on my own might be usefull. I just
wish this wasn't so very very hard.
Thankyou again for any response they are
appreciated.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-15-06 13:49pm
Hello.
I have had an aboriton, and I work in
clinics. Many women who have aboritons
say they want a family, but not for 5-10
years. Newly married couples have so much
on their plates already, that the stress
of a child can be too much for them. When
you are ready you are prepared for no
sleep for 8 months, and not being able to
work, and 200$ a week daycare.Having any
number of babies is a big step, but now
you are pregnant with twins.
I always say , do what is right for you
and your family. Can you afford twins,
health insurance diapers etc... All these
things do count...
If you honestly feel like in 5 years you
will be better prepared, the you will be
doing your new little baby a world of
good. Being prepared will help you feel
secure and happy, and your baby will grow
up securely as well.
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BuzzyBee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2006 Posts: 42
Posted: 06-15-06 13:55pm
I love the idea of twins and they have run
in our family but im worried if I abort
these then ill never be given twins again.
I live in the uk so we dont have health
insurance. I'm also scared of having the
actual abortion done. I think I may have
to have it done though and already im
gutted, absolutely gutted and I havent
even booked the appointment yet!! God im
so confused. Caught completely between my
head and my heart.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-15-06 15:35pm
Do you have a social services there that
you might talk to, or something like that,
they might be able to offer you some help
or at least give you someone to talk to.
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Fairy Godmother
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Brian Is Really An Angel! Posted: 06-15-06 16:01pm
Please read brians
response.................This is coming
from a genuine angel incognito! I totally
agree with every statement he has made. I
believe you are an emotional mess because
you already know the anwer..... You want
these babies.Life is not easy or cheap....
Its not about materialistic things such
as brand name diapers..........(once
you've used hand towels and bread bags
for diapers and plastic pants....You will
start to understand, practicality is how
you choose to address any situation. You
will have the support of friends and
family. If this "partner" doesnt' step up
to the plate, kick him out of the
game......He still has to pay support.
Its clear you want these babies, otherwise
you would have already done something
about it!
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 06-15-06 20:40pm
Easy now brian, I would read it but it
just seemed real boring to be honest. And
I think it would be better for her to hear
from a girl, wo has been through it.
Anyway buzzybee, it is totally up to you.
Everyone here has been in your position,
maybe not with twins but it doesnt really
matter does it. It was still an abortion.
Some girls regret is some girls think it
was the best decision ever. It is up to
you. I was torn between my head and
heart...And my boyfriends psycho mum. And
I listened to her unfortunately. But you
need to remmeber you are emotional and
your head is all over the place at the
moment, so you can follow your heatr but
your heart may not be the same as when you
were not pregnant. It is up to you. It
depends what you want first, and education
and carrer.. Or kids. Everyone will
respect your decision, but remmeber the
decision is yours.
Good luck x
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 06-15-06 22:08pm
cherry88
wrote:
easy now brian, I would read
it but it just seemed real boring to be
honest. And I think it would be better
for her to hear from a girl, wo has been
through it. Anyway buzzybee, it is
totally up to you. Everyone here has
been in your position, maybe not with
twins but it doesnt really matter does it.
It was still an abortion. Some girls
regret is some girls think it was the best
decision ever. It is up to you. I was
torn between my head and heart...And my
boyfriends psycho mum. And I listened to
her unfortunately. But you need to
remmeber you are emotional and your head
is all over the place at the moment, so
you can follow your heatr but your heart
may not be the same as when you were not
pregnant. It is up to you. It depends
what you want first, and education and
carrer.. Or kids. Everyone will
respect your decision, but remmeber the
decision is yours.
Good luck x
if you would read the post that "i" did
not type and realize that it was someeone
else that agreed with some of the points I
made, you might have a valid opinion.
I am not in any way trying to convice this
woman to keep or abort her children. I
have absolutly no business trying to
convince her that because I am a christian
and would not want my wife to abort, that
I am the only right person on this
forum.
Unlike you trying to make her choose to
abort, she needs support and respect. She
needs to believe in the decision that she
makes, not the decision that you are
trying to convince her to make.
Regardless of gender, experience in life
can be shared by both genders and fair
unbiased opinion can come from a man.
Bee, please take your time over the
weekend and weigh out the positives and
negatives. They may well be even and you
will have to decide totally by your heart.
2 or 3 days will not make the difference
in your ability to abort. Please feel
free to pm and I will discuss in the best
way I can.
Good luck,
brian :)
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-16-06 00:31am
When you have an abortion they can put you
to sleep, so you would not feel the
crmaping associated with an abortion.
This is an important decision, it is okay
to take time and think, but you don't
wanna wait too long obviously.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 06-16-06 07:34am
tamadrummer
wrote:
i am not in any way trying to convice this
woman to keep or abort her children. I
have absolutly no business trying to
convince her that because I am a christian
and would not want my wife to abort, that
I am the only right person on this
forum.
Unlike you trying to make her choose to
abort, she needs support and respect.
She needs to believe in the decision that
she makes, not the decision that you are
trying to convince her to make.
Regardless of gender, experience in life
can be shared by both genders and fair
unbiased opinion can come from a man.
actually for your information I am not
trying to make her have an abortion you
donkey, I am giving her my opinion that is
what she is here for. She didnt come here
for people like you to start arguements.
You are not the only right person on here
atall, your wrong. If you dont like
abortions, go to the abortion debate
forum. Thats where haters are. You
belong there. This is an
.A.B.O.R.T.I.O.N. Forum in case you hadnt
noiticed its for people planning to/post
abortion. You dont fit into that
catagory. I dont see you posting all over
the pregnancy forums.
Yes you can give your opinion, but its not
nessisarily the one she needs. You have
no idea what its like cause
1)you have not had an abortion or been
pregnant so you havent been in her
position whilst eveyone else has. So you
have no diea how shes feels
2) most importantly your a bloke. You
cant even get pregnant and have an
abortion in the first place.
Its her body and her choice, she needs
people to relate to. And sorry mate, but
thats not you.
She actually appreciated having the non
sugar-coated response I gave her.
Like I said before, she needs to think it
through, its a life-changing decision.
She just needs to know the truth cause
sadly some people dont know the truth.
Ok.
End of dicussion.
Buzzybee you should have a chat with
carifairy, she knows everything you need
to know, shes been there and always posts
helpful posts. She is the best person
here to talk too.
Good luck again
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mama5603
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 135
Hey Posted: 06-16-06 14:11pm
I just hope you do what is best for you
and the babies I know some one who gave up
her baby and know she regrets it.......
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-16-06 17:09pm
Please, you people, this is a support
forum, if you want to fight and debate,
take it elsewhere, we are here to support
these people whatever their choices are if
you feel that you are unable to support
their decisions, whatever they be, just
back off, stay away or whatever.
The best to all of you!
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BuzzyBee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2006 Posts: 42
Posted: 06-19-06 03:20am
Hi I went away for the weekend to a really
quiet little caravan aprk by the seaside
to think. And I did, I thought so hard my
head actually hurt! And I thought I cam
to the decision that an abortion for me
was the right thing for me at this time.
As I like my life how it is and I still
have so much to work towards. But then I
went to my partners family bbq and his
two cousins both had their 2 year-old with
them, and they absolutely melted my heart
and made me completely rethink again! I
cant imagine being put to sleep and then
waking up knowing im wasnt pregnant. I
just dont know if I would be distraught.
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toja
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 34
Posted: 06-19-06 06:03am
Buzzybee, I am sorry for the question, but
from your last post I didn't really
understand whether you did an abortion...
U did, right?
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BuzzyBee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2006 Posts: 42
Posted: 06-19-06 06:57am
No no I didnt. I was just saying I cant
imagine it happening. I havent had
anything done at all.
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toja
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 34
Posted: 06-19-06 07:08am
buzzybee
wrote:
no no I didnt. I was just
saying I cant imagine it happening. I
havent had anything done at
all.
you are very very strong woman :) I would
support you in whatever decision, but this
time I support you even more :wink:
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 06-19-06 07:18am
buzzybee
wrote:
no no I didnt. I was just
saying I cant imagine it happening. I
havent had anything done at
all.
by not doing anything you have done alot!
Neither road is easy, to be sure but you
have chosen the road with less moral
pitfalls and more financial pitfalls.
You can do anything you want in life, you
are obviously bright enough to get into
medical school and do well enough to be
going back for another year. I know it
will not be easy to stay in school but if
you want it, you can do it. If you feel
that you can take a bit of time off, than
do that too. :)
please do not feel that I am patting you
on the back and all the while judging you.
Like I said from the start, your decision
to do what you want to do is totally up to
you and there is no way on earth I could
ever pretend to know how you are feeling
and what you are experiencing.
Just remember to take your folic acid 1000
mcg/day and take care of yourself first
now! You have to be the #1 person in your
life from this point on, if your partner
is having a hard time with this, you do
not need to be feeling bad or "confused"
for him or even show compassion. He owes
you the right to take care of yourself in
the mannner you see fit.
If he chooses not to be a part of the
pregnancy, he may realise at the end of
the pregnancy there are going to be two
little babies that regardless of his
attitude, he is responsible for. You make
him accountable and make medical school no
less difficult for him than it will be for
you.
Good luck and best wishs,
brian
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Fairy Godmother
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You Go Brian Posted: 06-19-06 10:29am
Brain, your mother must be super proud of
you! You are going to make some lucky
lady a fine man some day!!!!!!!!!!!
Jenny, listen to your heart......You
really don't have to make a choice.....You
can have both, your babies and your
career!!!!!!!!
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Re: You Go Brian Posted: 06-19-06 14:31pm
fairy*godmother
wrote:
brain, your mother must be
super proud of you! You are going to
make some lucky lady a fine man some
day!!!!!!!!!!!
Jenny, listen to your heart......You
really don't have to make a choice.....You
can have both, your babies and your
career!!!!!!!!
thank you for the kind words once again.
I am 33 and I am married and have 1 child.
Little brian jr.
Hopfully buzzybee is doing ok. Remember
that it is ok to be confused and to sit
and try to figure this out even though you
feel that you have it all together.
Nothing good comes easy, and for you it
may be difficult for a long time. If you
believe in god and you pray, this is the
time to really lean on god and ask for his
guidance. Your answers from him may be
very different than what we may think
those answers would be.
Good luck and again, best wishes for
you!
Brian
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 06-19-06 19:32pm
lmao so original. Maybe this should be in
the debate forum cause brian and fairy
godmother are obviously against
abortion.
Women who come on here to talk about their
abortion dont need this.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 06-19-06 21:24pm
They don't need anyone to say that the
choice is up to them and there will be
support for them with either choice that
they make?
Again I ask, did you read anything or are
you so bent on abortion that reading is
beyond your ability to comprehend?
As far as 2 or 3 days not making the
difference, if she is 24 weeks and 3 days
it sure will make the difference but if
she is 6, 7, or 8 weeks and 3 days it will
not make the difference in a doctors mind
if she chooses to abort.
As far as my personal opinion, sure I
don't like abortion but as I have said
before, it is not even a thought in my
mind to stop a woman from excersising her
right to life or abort. I vote against
abortion rules getting stricter and I feel
it is not the governments business to stop
a woman from doing what she wants to do in
that regard.
As far as attacking me because I am a
christian, have at it. Doesn't really
make a bit of difference in my personal
relationship with god.
