This makes me want to cry it really does .
. . *one of the reasons i'm posting it
in it's own message instead of under my
other message*. Please, give me your
opinions . . . What should I do??????
-- insert message from other post*
i want to be pregnant.
I know it sounds maybe kind of 'stuck up'
and 'self centered' but I feel i'm ready
for a child. I'm getting married to the
man I love with all my heart next month,
we are both in strong jobs (i'm in child
care, I only make 8.50/hour at the moment,
but it will be increasing soon - plus I
can get a discount on taking our
child(ren) there). My husband (to be) is
a marketing consultant and makes $21/hour.
He says it's too expensive and he's
making me wait at least 4 years before
even trying . . . It makes me so upset
whenever I think about it. I don't
understand what his problem is, but
whenever I bring it up he always throws a
fit . . . It's so fustrating!
I'm ready for a baby in our lives, I know
what it intails (i've been with children
all my life - my mom babysit since I was
little), and we have the great support of
our parents . . . . But it doesn't
seem to be enough for him. He says "if it
happens, then it does, but we aren't
trying until *whatever the date was he had
in his mind*". And if I quit my b/c and
don't tell him in order to get pregnant
and he finds out he already promised me
how livid he'd be.
I can handle a baby and i'm ready for one
. . . I want one so bad. I try to
understand his concerns but everyone he
has there's no evidence behind (the cost,
the problems, etc . . . ) except for
"well, *so and so's* *such and such* says
. . .. "
i need support now . . . . I really
do!!