This makes me want to cry it really does . . . *one of the reasons i'm posting it in it's own message instead of under my other message*. Please, give me your opinions . . . What should I do??????
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i want to be pregnant.
I know it sounds maybe kind of 'stuck up' and 'self centered' but I feel i'm ready for a child. I'm getting married to the man I love with all my heart next month, we are both in strong jobs (i'm in child care, I only make 8.50/hour at the moment, but it will be increasing soon - plus I can get a discount on taking our child(ren) there). My husband (to be) is a marketing consultant and makes $21/hour. He says it's too expensive and he's making me wait at least 4 years before even trying . . . It makes me so upset whenever I think about it. I don't understand what his problem is, but whenever I bring it up he always throws a fit . . . It's so fustrating!
I'm ready for a baby in our lives, I know what it intails (i've been with children all my life - my mom babysit since I was little), and we have the great support of our parents . . . . But it doesn't seem to be enough for him. He says "if it happens, then it does, but we aren't trying until *whatever the date was he had in his mind*". And if I quit my b/c and don't tell him in order to get pregnant and he finds out he already promised me how livid he'd be.
I can handle a baby and i'm ready for one . . . I want one so bad. I try to understand his concerns but everyone he has there's no evidence behind (the cost, the problems, etc . . . ) except for "well, *so and so's* *such and such* says . . .. "

i need support now . . . . I really do!!