Ok I am sorry to hear that but what does "it wasnt very consensual" mean. It either was or it clearly wasnt. If you were raped you should report it and get tested for pregnancy and std's.

I wasn`t raped, well I knew the guy, just I wasn`t very willing to do it, ok here`s the story, I am 17, I will be 18 next fri(23rd) and my mom is seeing this guy for about 6 years now, his eldest son who is 16 almost 17, well when he sleeps over he sleeps with me on my bed, for about 4 months now when he sleeps with me he likes to touch me on my breasts and my butt and that place too...I don`t like it and I tell him to stop but he just tells me to shut up and we just get on with it. I`m just really scared to tell anyone especially my mom or my grandma beacause i`m afraid my mom her boyfriend will break up or something so I always kept my mouth shut, not thinking it would escalate, he kept touching me in those places. Wednesday(14th) night he was touching me, and then he got on top of me and pulled my pants down, took them off and stuck it inside me, no condom...He doesn`t have any std`s because he is a virgin....I`m not sure if he ejaculated inside of me or not, it lasted about 2-3 mins and I pushed him off of me and ran to the bathroom, I was bleeding and crying...I want to tell my mom because it is the right thing but I don`t want to hurt anyone or mess anything up....Me and him haven`t talked for well now about 2 days.....I`m afraid that fi I continue to sleep in my room something like that will happen again, I sleep on the couch now and i`m so sick, i`ve been crying and throwing up just being sicked out of what i`ve done, I dont know what to do...I`ve told close friends and my cousin, but I want to tell my grandma or my mom....I`m nervous and scared and confused out of my mind....

Why would your parents let a 16 year old boy sleep in your bed with you? If you do end up pregnant they shouldn't be mad, it'd be partially their fault, what did they expect to happen? Just so you know that is rape, you didn't ask for him to do that to you and he told you to shut up so he could do it some more.. You need to report it. Don't be scared just because you dont want your mom and his dad to break up, you shouldn't let him get away with what he did to you. Sleep on the couch from now on to prevent it from happening again and if he tries something like that again claw his face. Im not even kidding do it, and then kick him in the nuts.. That'll teach him.

You need to do something about this, even if you aren't pregnant you didn't tell him he could do anything to you... Do something about it before he does it to someone else!

Good luck =)

Thank u so much hcobrunette06 i`m gonna keep trying to let it out to my mom, she isn`t here now and I have a feeling her and her boyfriend broke up anyway....Not because of me but something else I guess....But his son is comming over tonight and my mom said he can sleep over....I`m going to a friends house for awhile and then i`m sleeping on the couch....Thanks for the help and anyone else`s tips will be greatly appreciated....One more thing, if I do end up pregnant...Isn`t he practically considered my step-brother?

Why don't you sleep at your friends house? Or go home and beat the s*it out of him lol

seriously please tell your mom, shes going to love you no matter what happened... And hopefully you all can do something about his behavior, its horrible.

Keep us updated :)

Confused...
I been in ur situation. I have been raped twice in my life. Once by a total stranger, I was 14 and once by, whom I thought, my "friend, I was 15. I never told anyone. I had all this anger and depression built up inside of me, and it just hurt my mother because she knew somthing was wrong. I had to go to the doctor and put on depression meds. I always kept myself locked up in my room, carboarded all of my windows so no sunlight came in. I was a very depressed child. Two years ago I fianlly told my ma, im 22 now. She freaked out and said she wishes I would have told her when it happened. I too wish I would have told her sooner. Im not saying it will make you feel 100% better, but it does help. Please dont keep this botteled up inside. Its not worth it!!


Alexa

Thank u to everyone else, sandralynn and alexa84, your replies are really helpful, I want to tell my mom more than anyone in the world, it`s gonna be hard and difficult....But I am going to try my hardest. She`s still gone, she went out to the bar but I am gonna try and ask her nicely to go somewhere with me like some place alone and nice that way I can talk to her privately ya know? Does that sound good?

This angers me off, and it's not even me. I know it's all been said already, but I want to reiterate: just because you know him doesn't mean he didn't rape you. Women are raped by men they know all the time. Heck, there are some women who have been raped by their own husbands. You didn't want it, you told him to stop, he did it anyway. That's rape.

I don't want to worry you more, but I feel I should point out that you don't know he doesn't have stds. Just because he told you he's a virgin doesn't mean he is, and just because he told you he doesn't have stds doesn't mean he doesn't. His actions have already shown that he's not trustworthy.

And, yes, I definitely think you should tell your mom. Don't be afraid. You haven't done anything wrong; you're the victim here. Personally, I think you should have ripped his penis off the minute he whipped it out. But, trust me, I know how you feel. I've been there. It was a guy I knew, he started something, I told him to stop, he didn't, and I just shut my mouth and waited for it to be overwith. It's easy to think it's your fault; that you "let" him do this to you. But it's not true. "no" means "no," and he's the one to blame here. But your mom needs to know what kind of people she's letting into her home. And you need to tell her that she shouldn't be letting random guys sleep in your bed. I can't believe she does that in the first place.

This is so messed up why keep it to your self tell your mom asap dont wait any longer..I was raped when I was 12 and he was 16 and he said if I said any thing he would hurt me guess how it got out he told a family friend and that how it got to my mom I was so scared to say any thing to any one.But my mom called the cops and they came out and talked to me I was crying an crying he said he would hurt me if I did say any thing but I told every thing that happen he was drunk..This happen at a family reuion I went with my sister it was her boyfriend that did that to me.. Us 3 slept in the same tent..And he only got 5 year of probatison and was sent to a boys capm for it..And still year after that he still followed me every wear I went when ever he seen me he was so obsesed with me..I have not seen him in 3 years think god..So keeping any thing like this from your mom is not good..And I am happyley married too


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Oh my gosh!! .Lalee that`s how I feel, like it`s all my fault, I want to tell my mom but then I just wanna act like nothin happened. On the 29th of june I am going to las vegas for vacation to visit my close cousin, u can call us sisters, she knows about what happened, and she will take me to go get a test or to the doctor. I don`t think I am pregnant but if I turn out to be, well I will have no choice but to tell my mom. See me and my mom don`t really talk much, about stuff like that. Me and my mom don`t have a very good relationship, but I tell my cousin(sister) everything, and I tell my grandma everything too. I think my grandma will know before my mom. But does anyone know any good strategies or tips on how to tell my mom that I really don`t have a good relationship in talking about stuff like this? Anything will help.

.Map, I am so sorry about what happened to u, I would be so scared if that happened to me oh my gosh I can`t even imagine how u felt, horrible people out there I swear, but if anyone has any information or tips or advice for me, i`m gonna be 18 on june 23rd and i`d like to know more about stuff like this, and just make some older lady friends and all that so i`m prepared and everything. Thanks!♥
♥sarah♥

Hey girls!! I told my mom today, well she was drunk lastnight and we were arguing and fighting and I told her when she aint drunk to talk to me cuz I had somethin to tell her. She came in my room this morning and woke me up and asked me. I ran up here to the computer printed out all these posts and everything and threw it at her and said "theres the truth" I slammed my door and put the covers over my head and cried. She came in my room sat next to me cried and asked me why I didnt just tell her. She said she wasnt mad or anything and shes taking me to the doctor. She said he is not allowed in my room anymore nor is he allowed at my house. She is telling his mom and his dad, whom she was going out with but not anymore, and she said it was rape and she wants to call the cops but she isnt going to. Thank u girls for all your help!! Don`t be strangers though please. I will let u all know when I go to the doctor and what they say. Thank u all once again for helping me through this. It was hard but a relife. =]
♥.Sarah♥

Im very proud of you sarah!!!

Good for you, girl. :) i'm glad you're feeling better.

What in the hell? Your mother should be smacked for letting her bf's son or whoever he is in ur bed....What is wrong with this picture..Alot.