I am getting out of a marriage of 13 years
with 3 kids - I have only been with 2
other men other than my husband...So not
real experienced.... Thing is - husband
cheated on me 4 yrs ago while I was 5
weeks pregnant - I took him back even
after he told me she was better than me,
told me I was fat (4'10 and around 130 -
abdomen fat from babies) etc. Well now
that the baby is older, and I have time to
look at my life - I realize I cannot get
over what he did and still does (takes sex
while I am asleep on sleeping aids). So,
here I am in my 30s with no self esteem in
my sexual life whatsoever. Any help to
get over this?
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 01-14-04 11:43am
Huni,u need 2 get out of this marriage 4
ur sanity.How can u stay with a man who
sed those things 2 u? I know u probably
love him,have been 2gether 4 a long time
& have kids 2gether but soon enough
hes gonna begin to ruin their lives.A
husband is meant 2 love u,rspect u &
stay with u & he does none of
this.Huni,if u dont get out of this now
whilst u can see his faults,u never will
do & you'll be stuck in a
loveless,sexless marriage 4ever.
U need 2 get some confidence back &
realise that he cannot take that away from
u.U need 2 put youyrself & ur kids
first-a father who treats their mother
like that isnt a good place 2 grow up
in.Do have have any family or friends who
can help u out? Maybe u cud c a
counsellor 2 help u 2 deal with this.Its
not going 2 b easy 4 u but u need 2 sit
down & decide what u really want from
ur life.Your young & u have so much
more life 2 live
i sincerely wish u good luck & if
possible,please let me know how ur getting
on.Im here 2 talk,
liz x
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allusivepond
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 452
Posted: 01-14-04 18:17pm
I agree with sparkly how could a man do
this to his wife let alone his children.
A husband should always respect his wife
and it sounds like u deserve so much more
than you are getting, and what gives him
the right to make love to you while you
are obviously not in the mood theres words
for that. Sparkly is right you need to
sit down and figure what is more important
to you and what you want from this life as
im sure what you are getting aint what you
deserve.
I hope everything works out for you and
you realise you are better off without
this man. There is a saying "you never
know what you got till its gone" maybe it
will ring true for him.
Good luck
from someone who cant wait to have a jelly
bean all of their own
