Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Need Advice For My Boyfriend~ Sex Question~ Help Plz* Posted: 01-14-04 07:24am
Hey guys.. . Hopefully u can help..
Okay, me and my boyfriend are having sex,
but sense I am newly pregnant (and yea..
At only 18 ) then we dont have
to use a condom... Anyhow, now that we
dont have to, he only ''lasts'' about 1
minute seriously, and never more.. Its
been like this about 8 times in a row~! I
thought it would get better but it doesnt
seem to be.. He said he cant hold back
because it feels too good without a
condom.. But at the same time we dont use
one cuz I know it doesnt feel half as good
with one on. (and remember we dont have
to worry about pregnancy) do u have any
tips on how he can hold back or last
longer, or anything I can do??? Thanks
alot* by the way, he is 21.. And hes
embarrassed.
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TBECK12
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2003 Posts: 62 Location: MICHIGAN
Sex Question Posted: 01-14-04 09:41am
First of all shame on you for thinking a
condoms only use is to protect agaisnt
pregnancy (obviously it didnt work to well
for you) it will also prevent your unborn
child from std's. If you arent sure your
partner is 100% monogomist protect
yourself and your baby. Sexual
performance should be the last thing on
your mind right now, but if you must I say
wear the condom, obviously it was better
that way.
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3101
Posted: 01-14-04 11:33am
Thats a bit harsh don u think? Maybe her
baby was planned-we cant presume
otherwise.I do agree through that u shud
use protection if you've slept with other
ppl b4 each other or either of u has an
infection or anything.
Ok karim,lots of guys find this I think
because the condom is sometimes designed 2
make the guy last longer.The sensation is
a lot different 2 him im sure because he's
no longer wearing something artifical.It
cud just b that he's enjoying this
experience a lot & that in time,when
he gets used 2 it,he wont come as
quickly.Maybe u shud sit him down &
talk 2 him about it because there r
techniques he cud use e.G. When he gets
close,he stops himself 4 a minute until
his arousal goes down slightly,
good luck & congrats on ur pregnancy
liz
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TBECK12
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2003 Posts: 62 Location: MICHIGAN
Pregnancy Posted: 01-14-04 11:52am
No I do not think I was harsh, the sad
face next to the comment gives me a clue
it was unplanned. I was simply trying to
get the point across that she has bigger
fish to fry then her sex life!!!!!
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 01-14-04 15:14pm
Thanks you guys~
and tbeck- I understand where your coming
from, but I do agree that it was a bit
harsh... Sex isnt my top priority right
now so I dont think thats fair for u to
say.. But just because im pregnant doesnt
mean I am going to stop having sex w/ my
boyfriend. We have both been checked for
std's, we went together last week because
for the reason of the baby as u said..
And im positive he is monogamus.. We are
together all of the time. .Basically
living together... Both of our tests came
out clean.
Thank you sparklypixie* but yes, the
pregnancy was unplanned, hes actually not
the father. Me and the father broke up
like 2 1/2 months ago and ive been with my
new boyfriend for a month and a half. I
admit, it was a little fast to be sexually
active.. But we both care about eachother
alot. Weve known eachother for a long
time. And hes actually been talking about
being a father later to the baby, sense
the real father doesnt want to be part of
its life. But thank you, what u said
makes a lot of sense, im sure with time it
will stop going that fast. But we mite
start using them if he cant hold back*
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TBECK12
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2003 Posts: 62 Location: MICHIGAN
Posted: 01-14-04 15:52pm
I didn't intend to make you think you were
not intitled to have sex now that you are
pregnant I just wanted to make sure you
understood that you needed to still be
safe. I hope your partner is monogomist,
but you can never be 100% sure. Just use
good judgement and take care of yourself
and the little person inside first and
foremost.
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Alleybutterfly
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 5 Location: Maine
Posted: 01-15-04 01:36am
Have you tried penis rings? Maybe that
would help him last longer since it would
be tight around the base of his dick as a
condom would be. It's worth a try it him
blowing to fast is a major problem for
you...Which I feel you. Who wants to be
left behind in the dust....But if you got
a good man he would help you out
afterward. Hang in there!!
Hugs,
alleybutterfly
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johnno
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2003 Posts: 11
Posted: 01-15-04 20:23pm
So doesnt he pleasure you after he has
ejaculated? If he does what is the
problem? He should be able to stop for a
second before he shoots away then carry on
again a little while after to prolong the
intercourse.
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ilovemybaby4life
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 23 Location: pennsylvania
Posted: 01-20-04 09:47am
What if he masturbated before sex it
should make him last longer tell him to
try it
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) then we dont have
to use a condom... Anyhow, now that we
dont have to, he only ''lasts'' about 1
minute seriously, and never more.. Its
been like this about 8 times in a row~! I
thought it would get better but it doesnt
seem to be.. He said he cant hold back
because it feels too good without a
condom.. But at the same time we dont use
one cuz I know it doesnt feel half as good
with one on. (and remember we dont have
to worry about pregnancy) do u have any
tips on how he can hold back or last
longer, or anything I can do??? Thanks
alot* by the way, he is 21.. And hes
embarrassed.
