Why do people tell you to grow up if you
dont wanna talk about your feelings? I
mean, everyone has their own problems and
why should we "have" to talk about ones
problems? You "could" say its kinda
selfish because youre only talking about
you, right? Does it really matter if you
bottle them up and dont wanna talk about
them? Like I said, why should it matter?
It shouldnt imo, if you dont wanna talk
about your problems then dont, they are
yours and yours alone so just deal with
them yourself. Anyway what do you guys
have to say to this subject?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-19-06 08:24am
Telling someone to "grow up" just cause
they don't want to talk about their
problems is kind of lame. You don't have
to unload on someone just cause they want
to know your business. This is where you
have to find someone you trust....A close
friend or a close family member, someone
who won't "use" it against you when the
going gets tough. If these people don't
exist in your life (yet) then unloading
online is probably the safest way.
Even if people don't totally understand
where your coming from....And this is
difficult for the human mind to understand
everything fully, because of different
circumstances...The way we were brought
up, whether your family are supportive or
whether they're jerks, whether there is a
disability involved or neglect/sustance
abuse etc......People can give empathy.
Finding someone who empathizes with your
situation is probably what you
want...........Keeping it all inside leads
to thoughts of depression and even
suicide.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Re: Just Wondering Posted: 06-19-06 09:55am
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wrote:
why do people tell you to
grow up if you dont wanna talk about your
feelings? I mean, everyone has their own
problems and why should we "have" to talk
about ones problems? You "could" say its
kinda selfish because youre only talking
about you, right? Does it really matter
if you bottle them up and dont wanna talk
about them? Like I said, why should it
matter? It shouldnt imo, if you dont
wanna talk about your problems then dont,
they are yours and yours alone so just
deal with them yourself. Anyway what do
you guys have to say to this
subject?
i think it helps to talk about problems
because it releases stress about them but
u should be able to do this when u want to
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luvkittykats
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 69 Location: north carolina
I think when you say "grow up" it shuts
the person down and makes them not want to
share. I think learning to share your
feelings with a person or two that you can
trust is actually very healthy....In a
world that has so much negativity in it, I
fear that many young people are learning
to shut down and turn inward... Not a
good thing.
Sharing is good for the soul, (when one is
willing) and it reinforces communication
skills which are necessary in life,
family, relationships, jobs etc.
Bottom line, it's not what you tell
someone, it's how you tell them. If
someone told me to grow up and talk about
what's bothering me, I would find someone
else to share with!
