Hey guys, i'm new here. I don't know if
anybody has posted this situation before
(too anxious to look >_<), but, I
wanted to know if I could be pregnant.
Last week, and the end of the week before,
I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend.
We did have condoms, two kinds, but
neither fit him each time. (one he got
from his friend, and the other I took from
a box my brother bought for himself - both
had fine expo's and seemed 100% ok)
anyways, when you get in that mood, you do
stupid things. During last week, and the
week before that, we had unprotected sex 3
times. None of the times he ejaculated.
The first time we did it for about 30
seconds, second time we did it for maybe
two minutes and the last time maybe for a
minute. After each time I got worried
about being pregnant, but apparently I
have little self control... Considering
I did it again. Anyway, I want to know
if it's possible that i'm pregnant. I
don't remember when my last period was (i
also am forgetful... I used to write it
down on a calendar). I'm pretty sure
i'm close to ovulation. Thing is, i'm
pretty sure he pre-cum came out, and I
heard you can get pregnant from that...
But only if he had ejaculated recently.
He barely ever masturbates (he has no door
on his room), and he pees like a maniac
because he drinks a lot of fluids. Would
there be a chance that enough sperm could
have possibly made it out his urethra, and
into me through his pre-cum, and made it
to an egg? I just think that the chances
of sperm being in his urethra in the first
place to be very little, but i'm still
worried. I'm really upset about this,
and I just want to know what's going on.
I'm too afraid to go out and buy a test
(i'm only 16), but if worse comes to
worse, i'll have to.... So anyway, i've
been looking up symptoms for very early
pregnancy, and i've been having some weird
cramps. They started when I started
worrying though, so it could be just
stress. They don't last long, only maybe
15 seconds of it on and off for about 2
minutes. That's happened for the past
few days. I have no bleeding or
spotting or anything though. I've been a
little hungrier than usual, but that could
also be stress (end of the year finals for
me in school). And I get painful pangs
in my ovaries, mainly my left one, but
that could just be a cyst (i get those
often). Please, if anybody has any
feedback, I would love some asap. Should
I be really worried? Should I calm down?
I'm really messed up about this...
Please help. :cry:
Ok well you need to try and relax, hun..
Stress could mess up your cycle even more
and make your period late.. But if you
miss your next period you need to take a
pregnancy test because whenever you have
unprotected sex there's a chance of you
getting pregnant, even if he didn't cum.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-19-06 13:36pm
Ok.Anytime you have unprotected sex,you
can get pregnant.Just because he didn't
cum .I.N you doesn't mean you arent'
preg.Its called pre cum and ity .C.A.N get
you preg! Take a test and from now on
don't be stupid,use protection!
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 13:48pm
melissa_20
wrote:
ok.Anytime you have
unprotected sex,you can get pregnant.Just
because he didn't cum .I.N you doesn't
mean you arent' preg.Its called pre cum
and ity .C.A.N get you preg! Take a test
and from now on don't be stupid,use
protection!
i know all that. And I know I was being
stupid, but like I said, when you (or at
least just me) get in that mood, you all
of a sudden think that it's such a small
chance that it can't happen. Until
afterwards, where I end up worry my butt
off. But explain to me, what exactly is
in pre-cum? Does the sperm in it come
from an actual gland, straight from it?
Or does pre-cum only contain sperm if it
carries it from a previous ejaculation in
the urethra? And we did plan on using
protection, but neither of the condoms fit
him.
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-19-06 13:50pm
Boys never want to wear a condom and
they'll often find any excuse not to. If
the condoms he had and you had were not
sufficient, then he should have gone out
and bought some that were. Insist on this
one crucial point, please. Have enough
respect for your own body to take care of
it. ;)
now, yes, pre-cum can contain sperm. The
length of how long each 'act' was, whether
2 minutes or 4 hours, doesn't matter in
the reality of what 'could' happen. You
can get genital warts if his penis rubs up
against your vagina - even if it only does
it once and very lightly. Sperm can get
loose if he is inside you for a fraction
of a second. That doesn't make pregnancy
very likely ~ but you should feel very
fortunate if you aren't pregnant and
remember this fear and always, always,
always make your partner wear a condom.
There isn't any reason not to. If he
can't 'steal' any from his friends that
fit him, have him go buy some.
Good luck! Take care of yourself and be
careful!
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 13:58pm
ingi
wrote:
boys never want to wear a
condom and they'll often find any excuse
not to. If the condoms he had and you
had were not sufficient, then he should
have gone out and bought some that were.
Insist on this one crucial point, please.
Have enough respect for your own body to
take care of it. ;)
now, yes, pre-cum can contain sperm. The
length of how long each 'act' was, whether
2 minutes or 4 hours, doesn't matter in
the reality of what 'could' happen. You
can get genital warts if his penis rubs up
against your vagina - even if it only does
it once and very lightly. Sperm can get
loose if he is inside you for a fraction
of a second. That doesn't make pregnancy
very likely ~ but you should feel very
fortunate if you aren't pregnant and
remember this fear and always, always,
always make your partner wear a condom.
There isn't any reason not to. If he
can't 'steal' any from his friends that
fit him, have him go buy some.
Good luck! Take care of yourself and be
careful!
he went out of his way to ask his friend
for one, extra large ones. We thought
those would fit, and they didn't. The one
I got from my brother was just normal with
spermicide. And he didn't say "forget
about the condoms", I actually brought up
the idea (like I said, I don't think when
i'm like that. I have to learn to
>_<), and he agreed. And I do have
enough respect for my body, I just
sometimes do not think. We did go out of
our way to get condoms, but apparently
that didn't work out.
Still, nobody has explianed to me *where*
the sperm in the pre-cum comes from. Is
it directly from the epididymis, where the
sperm is stored? Or is it picked up in
the urethra from previous ejaculations?
(i want to know, because if it is picked
up from previous ejaculations, I do not
have to worry, considering he barely ever
masturbates, and he pees like crazy all
the time because he drinks so many fluids)
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-19-06 14:00pm
Like ingi said,take care of yourself and
be careful in the future.You don't want an
std or an unwaqnted pregnancy hanging over
your head.Take a test and tell us how it
comes out!
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 06-19-06 14:00pm
Ok i'm fed up of working out simple cycles
for people who don't bother to search.
You answered your own question.
You had unprotected sex therefore there is
a risk of you getting pregnant - had you
bothered to read the stickies, or click
the search button that would have provided
you with an answer.
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 14:07pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
ok i'm fed up of working out
simple cycles for people who don't bother
to search.
You answered your own question.
You had unprotected sex therefore there is
a risk of you getting pregnant - had you
bothered to read the stickies, or click
the search button that would have provided
you with an
answer.
wow, I guess I found the queen of the
internet guys!
Listen, i'm panicking in my head right
now. Reading other people's situations
isn't going to help me much. I've spent
long enough on the internet on teenwire
and other sites reading other people's
stories, so I came to a f.O.R.U.M where
people can respond back to y.O.U.R
personal situation. Yes, I realize I can
be pregnant, but look at my situation, and
read my post. I can bet you it's not the
same as everybody elses. The only things
I am really asking are: is it very likely
i'm pregnant? Where does the sperm in
pre-cum come from?
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Ingi
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Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8925 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
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Posted: 06-19-06 14:12pm
discochick
wrote:
he went out of his way to ask his friend
for one, extra large ones. We thought
those would fit, and they didn't. The
one I got from my brother was just normal
with spermicide. And he didn't say
"forget about the condoms", I actually
brought up the idea (like I said, I don't
think when i'm like that. I have to
learn to >_<), and he agreed. And
I do have enough respect for my body, I
just sometimes do not think. We did go
out of our way to get condoms, but
apparently that didn't work out.
Still, nobody has explianed to me *where*
the sperm in the pre-cum comes from. Is
it directly from the epididymis, where the
sperm is stored? Or is it picked up in
the urethra from previous ejaculations?
(i want to know, because if it is picked
up from previous ejaculations, I do not
have to worry, considering he barely ever
masturbates, and he pees like crazy all
the time because he drinks so many
fluids)
well somewhere on ehealth the other day
someone was talking about '...If he peed
inside her...' it would 'kill' the sperm.
Hahaha! No. But it would be mighty
gross.
Apparently, you know all your own answers.
Since i'm wrong about you
respecting your body enough to have him
wear a condom. And all of us are wrong in
telling you that there can be sperm in
pre-cum. That, no, isn't always washed
out when guys pee. The only realy way to
prevent that sperm from getting inside you
is to use a barrier method - and, guess
what that would be? Right. It's condoms!
Woohoo!
Also, i'd like to see the guy who 'barely
ever masturbates'. Sweetie, they do it
all the time. That doesn't mean they are
gonna tell you about it.
Well, good luck with whatever it is you
have going on.
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Ingi
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Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8925 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
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Posted: 06-19-06 14:13pm
I also like the idea of .Kia as .Queen of
the .Internet!
Should we vote on it?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-19-06 14:16pm
Aye or nay? I say aye!!!! Lol
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 14:18pm
ingi
wrote:
discochick
wrote:
he went out of his way to ask his friend
for one, extra large ones. We thought
those would fit, and they didn't. The
one I got from my brother was just normal
with spermicide. And he didn't say
"forget about the condoms", I actually
brought up the idea (like I said, I don't
think when i'm like that. I have to
learn to >_<), and he agreed. And
I do have enough respect for my body, I
just sometimes do not think. We did go
out of our way to get condoms, but
apparently that didn't work out.
Still, nobody has explianed to me *where*
the sperm in the pre-cum comes from. Is
it directly from the epididymis, where the
sperm is stored? Or is it picked up in
the urethra from previous ejaculations?
(i want to know, because if it is picked
up from previous ejaculations, I do not
have to worry, considering he barely ever
masturbates, and he pees like crazy all
the time because he drinks so many
fluids)
well somewhere on ehealth the other day
someone was talking about '...If he peed
inside her...' it would 'kill' the sperm.
Hahaha! No. But it would be mighty
gross.
Apparently, you know all your own answers.
Since i'm wrong about you
respecting your body enough to have him
wear a condom. And all of us are wrong
in telling you that there can be sperm in
pre-cum. That, no, isn't always washed
out when guys pee. The only realy way to
prevent that sperm from getting inside you
is to use a barrier method - and, guess
what that would be? Right. It's
condoms! Woohoo!
Also, i'd like to see the guy who 'barely
ever masturbates'. Sweetie, they do it
all the time. That doesn't mean they are
gonna tell you about it.
Well, good luck with whatever it is you
have going
on.
no no no, I realize that there can be
sperm in pre-cum, that's why I am worried.
I just want to know how it gets there.
And thing is, he would masturbate all the
time, but think about it. His mother and
stepdad are right across the hall from
him, and he has no door. Plus, if he were
to do it in the bathroom, that would be
nearly impossible, considering he has a
small bathroom, and I guess it's not a
rule of the house, but nobody stays in
the bathroom longer for 5 minutes. And I
asked him if he does it in the shower, he
said no, for some reason he just can't do
it in there. So he might get a chance to
maybe once a week at most, when he's left
alone in his house for long enough.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-19-06 14:21pm
Aye!!!!!! Hail queen kia :p
is that how it goes?
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 06-19-06 14:34pm
Google is my friend.
Oh and since the average condom can fit
over a person head (don't ask) then he
must errrrrr be one big boy
condoms go through so much testing
including being blown up to incredible
sizes to test their breaking point :)
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 14:38pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
google is my friend.
Oh and since the average condom can fit
over a person head (don't ask) then he
must errrrrr be one big boy
condoms go through so much testing
including being blown up to incredible
sizes to test their breaking point
:)
i had a lot of trouble rolling it down, I
kept rolling, but it stopped after an inch
or two, and he said it hurt. When I took
it off, I could tell it was cutting off
circulation, since the head was purple all
of a sudden. And yes, you can fit it over
somebodies head... But can you roll it
over somebodies head? Nope, you need to
stretch it out completely, which would
compromise the reliability of the condom,
which I did not want to do even in the
least. He is big actually, but that's
besides the point.
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 14:40pm
So anway, does anybody know where exactly
the sperm in pre-cum comes from? Straight
from where sperm is stored, or is it
collected in the urethra? I've heard so
many different things from random sites on
the internet, but none from actual people
who spend time on a health forum. I'm
giving you guys a lot of credit, do you
know where it comes from?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 06-19-06 14:47pm
discochick
wrote:
so anway, does anybody know
where exactly the sperm in pre-cum comes
from? Straight from where sperm is
stored, or is it collected in the urethra?
I've heard so many different things from
random sites on the internet, but none
from actual people who spend time on a
health forum. I'm giving you guys a lot
of credit, do you know where it comes
from?
my guess is that it comes
from the same place it does when he
ejaculates.I doubt it is collected in the
urethra.After a guy has sex he has to pee
sometime right? And its usually more than
once,so in that case it would get washed
out.See what i'm saying?
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 06-19-06 14:49pm
The sperm is in the fluid that is secreted
to lubricate the inside of the urethra
within the penis.
Umm so you didn't want to compromise the
condom so you decided to have unprotected
sex - uh go figure.
Still it's noteworthy that it takes one sperm
to fertilise an egg during the average
male ejaculate there is approximately a
teaspoon of seminal fluid packed with
sperm (i know it always seems like there
is more than a teaspoons worth), within
that small amount can be well over 250
million spermies!
If you don't know when you last period was
I can't even begin to surmise when you
high fertility may be
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DiscoChick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 10
Posted: 06-19-06 15:01pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
the sperm is in the fluid
that is secreted to lubricate the inside
of the urethra within the penis.
Umm so you didn't want to compromise the
condom so you decided to have unprotected
sex - uh go figure.
Still it's noteworthy that it takes one sperm
to fertilise an egg during the average
male ejaculate there is approximately a
teaspoon of seminal fluid packed with
sperm (i know it always seems like there
is more than a teaspoons worth), within
that small amount can be well over 250
million spermies!
If you don't know when you last period was
I can't even begin to surmise when you
high fertility may
be
hey, like I said, when I get in that mood,
I don't think. If you were to ask me now,
I would say no way. And yeah, I
know it takes one sperm to fertilize an
egg... But millions are ejaculated
because not all make it past the "hostile"
environment inside a woman. (as it was
once put in a documentary I saw a while
back) so i'm hoping the chances are on my
side: maybe there wasn't sperm (or not a
lot) in his pre-cum, maybe he didn't
pre-cum, maybe if there were any, they
weren't mobile, or died, maybe I wasn't
ovulation. Put your self in my situation,
i'm worried like crazy. And of course it
was partly my fault, I know that. I feel
dumb enough already... Your goal
shouldn't be to make people feel dumber.
It should be to give them information.
You seem to be a higher power on this
forum, so why be rude/condescending?
(maybe i'm reading your posts wrong, i'm
panicking right now, like i've said
before)
