I Don't Know What to Do... Posted: 06-19-06 17:31pm
Hello. I am 4 weeks pregnant, I just
found out that I was pregnant on june 15,
2006. 4 weeks ago from this past
saturday, I had sex with someone that I
met through work. I was really interested
in him, and I thought he felt the same
way. Now I am carrying his baby and he
does not want me to go through with the
pregnancy, but does know that I do have a
choice in the matter. I have been
fighting with myself since I found out
that day, on whether to go through with
pregnancy or to have an abortion. Inside
my heart, I know that I want to keep this
baby. Yet, the father and I are only
friends, and there is no relationship. I
do have strong feelings for him but
nothing in return. This makes my decision
so much harder because I would hate to
bring a baby into this world under these
circumstances. That being said, I still
do not want to kill the baby that is
inside of me, it is a part, a half of me
and I just can't destroy him/her. I am so
scared and distraught, I have never had to
make a decision like this before. I would
just like to have some advice on what many
people think I should do. I'm pretty sure
I want to keep this baby, but is that the
right thing to do? Please help.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-19-06 22:06pm
If you want the baby, than yes it is the
right thing to do.
Adopotion is always an option if you
cannot afford a baby, because children are
not cheap, and if you cannot give a baby
the life it deserves, than someone else
can.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-21-06 05:10am
I dont know, I mean is there people in
this that can be hurt> does he have a
wife or gf, and do u have a partner, if
not then keep the baby. I mean its half
ur baby too. If u do want to abort, do it
asap. As the procedure will be alot
easier. Choice is urs hun, only u can
decide
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toja
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 34
Posted: 06-21-06 13:37pm
Drake2006,
i've heard one wise comment today related
with the issue of unplanned babies and
abortions. They said, the life isn't a
movie where you can just cut wrong takes
and move on. So, if you cannot change
circumstances (obviously you cannot
disconceive), you have to change your view
towards it. Generally speaking, the baby
is positive and not negative thing, and if
you want to keep it, it means you are
positive looking at the issue. I was the
one who looked negative and did abortion.
I don't regret but I wish I hadn't have
this negative experience. It is up to you
to decide. Listen to your heart honey....
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-21-06 15:34pm
I feel pretty much the same way that
.Cairifairy does, it is your choice and
you must do what you feel is the right
thing to do.
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