I'm with a wonderful man that I love very
much. We waited a long time to make love
due to my beliefs he was fine with it the
whole time. He had not had sex in 18
months, before we started making love.
The first time we
did he had a premature ejaculation, which
was fine I knew it had been a long time
for him so I didn't care, I was just happy
that he enjoyed it. But it was continuing
to happen, I still didn't mind but he
would get so upset with himself so I tried
to make him understand that it wasn't a
big deal to me that he needs to stop being
so hard on himself.
Well, two nights
ago we were again together 2 times. The
first time was the longest that it has
been and the second he ejaculated right
upon entering. So again I told him it was
fine, not to worry about it. I wasn't
just saying it I meant it. I love him so
much that it wouldn't matter to me if we
were ever able to make love again I would
still be with him. He finally, said we
needed to talk and so he told me it had
been happening for about 10 years now and
that it just irritated him to no end. He
thought that once he told me that I would
end things with him but thats not going to
happen, he is the world to me.
However, is there
something that I can do to help him with
this? I want him to be happy and not be
so depressed about it. I adore him and it
kills me to see him this unhappy. I told
him we would work through it together so
if anyone has any thoughts i'm willing to
listen. Its not only during making love
its also when I go down on him as well.
If anyone has any tips i'm all ears, I
want to help him so that he will not feel
like he is failing me because he isn't.
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philasheo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2003 Posts: 12 Location: vbva
Posted: 01-20-04 06:26am
It sounds as though you are reassuring him
regard his concerns about premature
ejaculation. What the two of you need to
do is work on this together. While
giving him oral make him aware you want to
know when he is getting ready to climax.
Don't allow him to climax though. Hold
his penis down at the base before he
climaxes. Do this until he doesn't feel
like he is going to cum. Then repeat the
process. Between the two of you you can
help him control his ejaculation. I
would recommend doing this orally first
then moving on. However; during
intercourse he feels like he is coming he
can hold onto to the penis at the base or
you can do the same. Another location
you can apply pressure to is the behind
his testicle sack. Applying pressure
there would help slow him down. Another
option would be to purchase a penis ring.
However don't use this for a long period
of time. I would suggest no longer than
15 - 20 minutes. You may want to
experiment. But you b/f may become too
dependent on the ring controlling his
flow. This is a problem which is cured
overnight and it takes time and patience
on the part of both. It sounds as though
you are very supportive. I wish you the
best of luck.
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LonnieMc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Covington, La
Posted: 02-10-04 16:09pm
I also suffer from the same problem. I
have tried different things in the past
like certain creams.
Awhile back I had a talk with one of my
doc's. He gave me a prescription for
zoloft 50mg. He told me to take one
about 6 hours before sex, and this would
help.
I know this is not the permante solution,
but it may help.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-16-04 01:56am
He can also work on it by himself. Have
him masterbate and not let himself cum.
Have him gradually increase the time that
he doesn't ejaculate until he is up to
like twenty minutes or more. This should
increase his stamina. If it is not a
medical condition then it can definately
be fixed. Work on it together and have
him work on it by himself. When you are
having intercourse and he is about to cum,
make him stop. Do not start again until
that feeling subsides. And if these
things do not work, and it is bothersome
to either or both of you, see a doctor.
But, do not stop assuring him that it is
o.K with you. Although, it is going to
bother him anyway as I am sure he loves
you and wants to please you, just keep
assuring him. Good luck!
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Alan
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2004 Posts: 1 Location: Myanmar
Same Problem Posted: 02-22-04 01:10am
Hi,
i'm also encountering pe but mine
is chronic. I can't differentiate myself
that it is a medical problem or
psychological factors. I've practised
alot to control ejaculation prematurely
though little improvement. I've tried
some desensitizing cream which works in
some way. But I haven't made love with a
girl yet.
However, it depresses me a lot
that I have no confidence to approach a
girl after all. I dun know why. What
should I do?
It 's not convenient for me to see a
psychiatrist now.There should be some
suggestions from urologist and
neurophysician also I think.
Pls suggest me what I should do.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-23-04 11:32am
I went to the above site out of curiosity.
Was that suppose to make sense??????
