Hey everyone, I am 18,13 weeks pregnant..
But anyhow.. I am in a major dilema..
See.. I am like 98% sure that ryan (the
ass) is the father.. See I was ovulating
when I had sex with him.. My last period
was oct.14th and I had sex with him from
the 22nd through the 7th of november...
But then.. We broke up.. I started
drinking alot.. I was goin through alot
of bad health question. . Got kicked
out.. Anyhow. I met this other guy,
shawn like 2 days later. .And sad to say
I slept w/ him (when I was drunk the first
time) we stayed together for only a
month.. Anyhow I found out I was pregnant
on dec.4th.. I had sex with shawn around
the 16th of november I believe through the
3rd of dec....Thing is, I doubt it is
shawns, because I never had my period yet
and never had it in nov... Plus, I wasnt
ovulating at that time cuz I slept with
him just after I was supposed to start my
period..But im worried cuz like what if I
was goin to start my period say on
nov.17th. .But then I slept w/ shawn and
got pregnant? ?!? I know I sound like
such a promiscuous person.. I really am
not. .I got myself into a bad situation I
know. See, the reason I told ryan it was
his was because I went to the doc and they
said I got preg. At the end of oct. Most
likely and they said I was about 6 weeks
based on my last period etc.... What do u
guys think??? I think it would more then
likely be ryans because of the time period
etc but im freakin out still. .When I get
my ultrasound in 7 weeks and they measure
it, how exact can they be on when it was
concieved? I think I know in my head and
heart that its prolly ryans.. But im so
scared cuz now everyone knows.. And how
could I come out and tell them different!?
I hope u dont all think terribly of me
now.. I had to get it off my chest.
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 01-15-04 18:34pm
Kari, first of all no one, absolutely no
one thinks terrible of you. We have all
made our mistakes and it was really brave
of you to come out and tell us about this.
I understand your
concern but from what you've said it seems
that it would be ryan's baby unless you
are not as far along as you thought. They
measure an approximate date of conception
by looking at your cycle's length and then
counting from the first day of your last
period. I know your concerned but there's
really nothing you can do now. Just wait
it out until the baby is born and get a
paternity test. It seems like neither of
them is going to be in you and your baby's
life so really the only reason you need
one is for child support and visitation
etc. Best of luck and don't worry about
it for now
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 01-15-04 18:40pm
Thank you so much for your support it
makes me feel so much better!!
But wait a minute. .I thought when docs
measured from the ultrasound and give u a
new real due date they can tell within
days when u concieved??? Does anyone
know? ?
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 875
Posted: 01-15-04 19:11pm
When I was pregnant they said since I had
regular periods they could determine that
way but they do make sure by measuring the
size of the baby. However sometimes this
can be misleading because I know people
who's baby's have been much larger then
normal at a certain developmental age.
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 01-15-04 19:44pm
i dont know what to do. . I know theres
not anything I can do really. . But now.
.Im just praying to god it is ryans..
Even tho hes an ass. .Im pretty sure its
his. .But like... Ugh I dont know what I
would do! Im so scared!@ ive already told
everyone.. His parents.. Mine. .My
grandparents. .Thats the worst part. .If
they find out it could be someone elses.
.I dont know what would happen.-. I hate
myself so much right now I cant even put
it into words. At least the ultrasound
mite settle me a little more if they say
it was concieved when I was w/ ryan too...
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caracook
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 464 Location: Richmond, KY
Posted: 01-15-04 23:12pm
I'm not judging you first off. I for one
have had the alchohol sex encounter once
or twice. Maybe you should have waited to
tell everyone. I hope that ryan the ass
is the father and everything works out ok.
And, if it's not too personal, why is
ryan an ass?
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 01-15-04 23:48pm
Because as soon as I told him he changed
and was a jerk to me and had nothing to do
w/ me becuz I wouldnt get an abortion~
.But the reason I told everyone was cuz I
live w/ my parents.. So of course
everyone asks who the father is. .And the
docs told me to say ryan because based on
my last period and when I was probably
ovulating, that ryans most likely it.
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tiggerkitty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 1 Location: pa
Posted: 01-16-04 01:20am
I feel bad for you and the baby that you
will have to go through the trouble with
the father he sounds like a real loser and
is probably better off to not be in yours
or the baby's life you can raise it just
as well if not better. We have all had
our bad times and the best you can do now
it hold on to your future with your child
he/she will be the one there for you know
matter what. you sound like a
strong person and you will be just fine I
have 2 children and each were unexpected
but they are worth every minute. Good
luck
I understand your
concern but from what you've said it seems
that it would be ryan's baby unless you
are not as far along as you thought. They
measure an approximate date of conception
by looking at your cycle's length and then
counting from the first day of your last
period. I know your concerned but there's
really nothing you can do now. Just wait
it out until the baby is born and get a
paternity test. It seems like neither of
them is going to be in you and your baby's
life so really the only reason you need
one is for child support and visitation
etc. Best of luck and don't worry about
it for now 
