I'm still in a dilemma about how to tell
my parents...Did any of you girls find it
awkward being arounf your parents while
you were/are pregnant?? Because once I
start to show I think its going to be
super awkward!
I'm kinda stressed out about what to do...
I recently got a letter in the mail
saying i'm accepted to a college starting
in january... And my parents know about
the acceptance letter. But I really don't
see the point in going at all, since I
will have the baby soon after that. My
mom keeps nagging me to confirm my
acceptance, but i'm not ready to tell her
I won't be going....She'll be crushed.
I want to go, but I know its just not
practical to start college right before I
have a baby... The money could be better
spent elsewhere. Has anyone ever gone
through college and had a baby at the same
time? I;m just so confused... I want to
get an education, but my boyfriend makes
good money (with only a highschool
education) and I don't think I will have
the time....Help!
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 06-26-06 23:52pm
Well once you break the news it wont seem
as ackward...But you should really
consider telling them pretty soon because
the sooner the better...They might even be
more disappointed if you hold off...But as
for the school thing ....Umm I was in high
school when I had my son and im still
going to college and all ...You shouldnt
drop your life just because your having a
baby--plus what if your babys father and
you dont end up spending the rest of your
life together--where will you get money
...And not being mean or no offence but
when you have a job outside of hs without
some kind of schooling ....Its not very
stable ...You could get layed of or fired
at anytime..And you need to have back up
if that ever happens to your man...I think
you should consider telling your parents
and making plans for your future before
you make a big mistake and ruin yours and
the babies future...Not being mean just
telling it like I see it..And I mean this
all out of total niceness because I had to
be told the same things...But as for going
to college ..You could always wait till
the next semester or even the next
year...But make sure you do go because it
would be the best thing for you and baby I
promise!
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chrissy721
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 817 Location: Somewhere out there
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 06-28-06 11:00am
You might want to do a search on posts
too. Ashley (i think it was ash) had
this problem a while back and we gave her
lots of advice. When she finally did
tell her parents, it went alot better than
she expected and they were real
supportive. Hope that'll help some.
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BabyGirl05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2005 Posts: 47 Location: NJ
Posted: 06-28-06 11:08am
I wrote my dad a letter put it on the bed
then left the house to go to a friends
house. But in the letter it said to give
me a call when u cool down or dont give me
a call and ill return the next day. By
the time I told him I was already 5 months
and he said he knew something was up so he
wasn't that mad. Now he's proud to show
him off, so he took the whole a lot better
than I thought.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Re: What to Do... Posted: 06-28-06 12:01pm
I did I hated it! I didnt know what to do
when I was sat down I felt they where
looking at me all the time. I hated it.
I thought they where disctsted with me.
And im 19. I dont have my baby anymore, I
had a termination for many reasons. But I
didnt like being pregnant and living at
home. , I totally understand what u
mean[quote="sophie585"]i'm still in a
dilemma about how to tell my parents...Did
any of you girls find it awkward being
arounf your parents while you were/are
pregnant??Quote]
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Sophie585
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 141 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-29-06 21:46pm
Yeah at this point in time i'm sooo glad
i'm not living at home... I'm really
thinking I should just put college
off....The money could be so better spent
elsewhere...And i'll be able to work more
and save more before I have the baby...And
I still haven't told my parents :s....I'm
thinking on waiting until i'm maybe 3
months along...I don't really know why but
to me that seems like a reasonable
time...Thanx for the advice girls!
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prettygirlygirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2006 Posts: 213
Posted: 06-29-06 23:42pm
I think three months is very reasonable.
Most people wait until that time anyway,
since at the three month mark the risk of
miscarriage is reduced.
Good luck, you have a lot of tough
decisions to make. Is there anyway you
could tell your parents before you have to
respond to college? Maybe you would be
able to work something out with them. You
may be surprised at how much help they can
be.
