we're having the abortion soon and i'm
worried about the surgical procedure. I
think thats the way we're going. It
sounds fairly simple, but I guess we'll be
there for awhile. I hear that it takes
like almost 4 hours to do everything from
paper work, exams, to the procedure.
We've chosen a planned parenthood abortion
clinic and I think they use a medication
that allows you to be awake but deeply
relaxed. I wish they'd put her totally
under so she doesn't have to experience it
or remember it, but there are also more
risks involved.
The only thing i'm worried about at the
moment are the risks involved. I know
they're very slim, but I can't help but
worry about them. The risks are blood
clots in the uterus, infection, very heavy
bleeding, injury to the cervix, and organ
damage. The last two have me most worried
because we're dealing with this totally
alone and have to be secretive about it so
her family and friends don't know. We
can't depend on them for any help.
I know the risks are very slim and that
she'll be ok, but I just wanted some
reassurance. She's the most important
person in the world to me and I would feel
absolutely horrible if something happened
to her. I wish we didn't have to go
through with this, but we don't see any
other choice.
Any comforthing thoughts of help guys?
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-27-06 10:46am
You cane asily go to another clinic and be
put to sleep..Planned parenthood is not
the only lcinic around. Some other
clinics have shorter wait times too! They
can also be cheaper...
click on your state and you can see all
aboriton clinics available to you..
You can find a place hat will put her to
sleep if you want..I have never had an
abortion at pp because I would rather be
put to sleep, and I don't like the longer
waits. I went to one private clinic that
had a 2 hour wait..
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-27-06 10:48am
It is going to be okay!!! The risks are
small with an early abortion!! She is
actually safer having an abortion than
carrying to term and having a baby.
Abortion is 10 times safer than pregnancy.
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sunshine424
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Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-27-06 12:09pm
Edit for non support
good luck to you both.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-27-06 12:25pm
This is a support forum..You cannot tell
people how they will react...
If she wnats ti have an abortion she will
most likely feel relief and be happy the
pregnancy is over.
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Birch
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Posted: 06-27-06 16:15pm
I had an abortion about a year ago at a
private clinic. They used a repiratory
inhalant that make me 'relax'. However,
I did pass out on the table. It was more
from my discomfort with the entire
situation than any pain I felt.
It took about three hours- about an hour
of waiting, an hour of preparatory things,
five minutes for the procedure, and 40
minutes of recovery. The prep stuff was
watching a video on the procedure,
discussing risks, taking a blood test (to
determine rh factor), a pee test, and
being interviewed.
General anesthesia puts her at greater
risks for more complications than the
inhalant "laughing gas". Don't do
general; it won't be painful and if you
are concerned about psychological problems
(being awake, remembering it, etc.) than
there are more worries under the surface
and they should be discussed.
I know it is a difficult decision and I
wish the best to the two of you. If you
would like to further discuss
post-abortion follow up, you may contact
me via pm.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-27-06 23:29pm
I do work in an abortion clinic...
General does have higher risks...But there
is also iv sedation...
And that pp they are going to offers a
deeper relaxation med which would be safer
than general.
I had general for all 3 abortions..
The general in a clinic is different from
a hospital, you will still breathe on your
own at a clinic..
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-28-06 09:35am
sunshine424
wrote:
edit for non support
good luck to you
both.
what is hilarious is that it was support.
I gave my advice and thoughts and because
they didn't live up to the pro-kill view,
it was "edited". Hah, I almost wrote get
a life, but I forgot that you all take
them and enjoy it!
How about being non-biased, even if the
opinion isn't like yours?
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-28-06 09:36am
carifairy
wrote:
i do work in an abortion
clinic...
General does have higher risks...But there
is also iv sedation...
And that pp they are going to offers a
deeper relaxation med which would be safer
than general.
I had general for all 3 abortions..
The general in a clinic is different from
a hospital, you will still breathe on your
own at a
clinic..
just curious as to how you look at
yourself everyday after 3 abortions and
working in a clinic as well? Who taught
you morals and decency of life? Ugh.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-28-06 12:07pm
Its up to her how many abortions she has,
and so what u saying someone who has had
thee abortions cant wok in the clinic.
Its her body not yours. And why ask
questions like that? Why come and read
these topics if all your going to do is
nit pick at people. And try and cause a
fight.
Quote]just curious as to how you look at
yourself everyday after 3 abortions and
working in a clinic as well? Who taught
you morals and decency of life?
Ugh.[/quote]
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Hi there I dont want to be mean and please
dont feel I am, an abortion is a big thing
and I really hope you have thought it all
threw, I had one at 17weeks as the nhs
made me wait on a list for 6weeks, and it
wasnt a plecent expiernce and I definatly
wont go through it again.. As I had to
give birth to my baby... As there wasnt
a surgen there for me to have the
surgical.
The risks are extermley low. I got give
antibiotics after my abortion to stop
infection.
Anyways good look with ur choice.
finch
wrote:
hey
we're having the abortion soon and i'm
worried about the surgical procedure. I
think thats the way we're going. It
sounds fairly simple, but I guess we'll be
there for awhile. I hear that it takes
like almost 4 hours to do everything from
paper work, exams, to the procedure.
We've chosen a planned parenthood abortion
clinic and I think they use a medication
that allows you to be awake but deeply
relaxed. I wish they'd put her totally
under so she doesn't have to experience it
or remember it, but there are also more
risks involved.
The only thing i'm worried about at the
moment are the risks involved. I know
they're very slim, but I can't help but
worry about them. The risks are blood
clots in the uterus, infection, very heavy
bleeding, injury to the cervix, and organ
damage. The last two have me most
worried because we're dealing with this
totally alone and have to be secretive
about it so her family and friends don't
know. We can't depend on them for any
help.
I know the risks are very slim and that
she'll be ok, but I just wanted some
reassurance. She's the most important
person in the world to me and I would feel
absolutely horrible if something happened
to her. I wish we didn't have to go
through with this, but we don't see any
other choice.
Any comforthing thoughts of help
guys?
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-28-06 14:52pm
jaime_elms
wrote:
its up to her how many
abortions she has, and so what u saying
someone who has had thee abortions cant
wok in the clinic. Its her body not
yours. And why ask questions like that?
Why come and read these topics if all
your going to do is nit pick at people.
And try and cause a fight.
Quote]just curious as to how you look at
yourself everyday after 3 abortions and
working in a clinic as well? Who
taught you morals and decency of life?
Ugh.
[/quote]
look jaime, I did not say she could not
work in a clinic after having 3 abortions,
so make sure you read things right before
you open your mouth. I was wondering how
she could work in a clinic, period. How
do you make abortions your living?
F**ing sickening. Yes, it is her body
and she is free to make the decision to
give birth to the baby or kill it, and she
chose to kill three. I believe in karma
and if karma is real, what she did will
not go unnoticed. I don't care if you
like this opinion or not. And I also
don't care if you cannot face reality.
As for starting a fight--please. I have
a life, so I do not feel the need to do
that. But I do have the right to express
how I feel about this topic, as all who
come here do. People who have been
coming here for a long time will tell you
that I speak my mind, so if you do not
like it, I might as well tell ya now to
back off, because if you want the truth,
that is what I give. If you cannot
handle it, sit back and hush. ;o)
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-28-06 14:55pm
Quote]just curious as to how you look at
yourself everyday after 3 abortions and
working in a clinic as well? Who
taught you morals and decency of life?
Ugh.[/quote][/quote]
its the same thing! Jus sounded quite
mean the way u said it. I can have my
opinion 2. And I have
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-28-06 14:57pm
Also abortion isnt my living, I have had
one. One that I didnt want to have okay!
So back the medical question off...
Yes it is sickening..
(quote) how do you make abortions your
living? F**ing sickening.(quote)
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Finch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-28-06 15:09pm
Sunshine424, I appreciate your views and
respect them as your own, but I don't
think they were the advice that I was
looking for. You should have respected my
views, and that of everyone elses here on
the forum, and not have posted anything.
Your own personal crusade against abortion
may be valid in your mind, but others may
not share that same sentiment. You fail
to understand that cultures, people,
beliefs, etc are all different and vary to
person to person.
We had the abortion and it went well. She
experienced some cramps and that was about
it. She's feeling much better and we're
both relieved to have done it.
The time in our lives wasn't appropriate
to have a child and we all would have gone
through some very rough times had we not
have done it. I think it would be foolish
to not have this abortion, especially when
we can have kids in just a few years from
now when we're prepared and the child is
planned, wanted, and expected.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-28-06 15:15pm
Im gald it all went well for you!!! Least
u can concentrate on your relationship
now, and grieve together and be there for
one another. I understand how u feel. It
was alot harder for me. As I was 17weeks
when I had mine. Im gald you both decide
it was the right thing. Least you can be
ready next time. And have everthing u
need to provide for a baby..
finch
wrote:
sunshine424, I appreciate
your views and respect them as your own,
but I don't think they were the advice
that I was looking for. You should have
respected my views, and that of everyone
elses here on the forum, and not have
posted anything.
Your own personal crusade against abortion
may be valid in your mind, but others may
not share that same sentiment. You fail
to understand that cultures, people,
beliefs, etc are all different and vary to
person to person.
We had the abortion and it went well.
She experienced some cramps and that was
about it. She's feeling much better and
we're both relieved to have done it.
The time in our lives wasn't appropriate
to have a child and we all would have gone
through some very rough times had we not
have done it. I think it would be
foolish to not have this abortion,
especially when we can have kids in just a
few years from now when we're prepared and
the child is planned, wanted, and
expected.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 06-28-06 19:42pm
finch
wrote:
the time in our lives wasn't appropriate
to have a child and we all would have gone
through some very rough times had we not
have done it.
and through some very good times too.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 06-28-06 19:51pm
I do agree with you !!!
nightangel73
wrote:
finch
wrote:
the time in our lives wasn't appropriate
to have a child and we all would have gone
through some very rough times had we not
have done it.
and through some very good times
too.
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-28-06 20:07pm
jaime_elms
wrote:
also abortion isnt my
living, I have had one. One that I
didnt want to have okay! So back the
medical question off... Yes it is
sickening..
(quote) how do you make abortions your
living? F**ing
sickening.(quote)
<
span class="postbody">
i was not talking about **you** making it
your living, I was referring to carifairy.
That is where she works. Therefore, that
is what she does for a living. (duh).
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sunshine424
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Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 06-28-06 20:12pm
finch
wrote:
sunshine424, I appreciate
your views and respect them as your own,
but I don't think they were the advice
that I was looking for. You should
have respected my views, and that of
everyone elses here on the forum, and not
have posted anything.
Your own personal crusade against abortion
may be valid in your mind, but others may
not share that same sentiment. You
fail to understand that cultures, people,
beliefs, etc are all different and vary to
person to person.
We had the abortion and it went well.
She experienced some cramps and that was
about it. She's feeling much better
and we're both relieved to have done it.
The time in our lives wasn't appropriate
to have a child and we all would have gone
through some very rough times had we not
have done it. I think it would be
foolish to not have this abortion,
especially when we can have kids in just a
few years from now when we're prepared and
the child is planned, wanted, and
expected.
how do you know that in a few years she
will be able to have children? Do not
assume just because she was pregnant once
means she for certain will be again.
One pregnancy is not a guarantee for a
second, third, so on and so forth. In
fact, some woman only become pregnant
once, or never at all. If the time was
not "appropriate", you should have taken
steps to prevent it happening in the first
place, so the abortion never had to be
considered. That is what the smart
person would have done. The moral
person. But nah, why do that when there
is abortion right? How will you feel if
she never becomes pregnant again, even if
she sought fertility treatment? I bet
that baby may cross her mind once or
twice, or a thousand times. Don't
assume because it has not affected her
yet, it never will. A decent person
will regret an abortion at least once, at
least once. It was her flesh and blood
for petes sake, and yours. The baby
you may have one day may make you think of
the one you never did as well. Because
let me tell you, if the day comes and you
do have a child you decide was worthy
enough to live, that baby will be the love
of your life, and then you will think back
of the one you let go......Sad, don't you
think?
