I'm Sick And Tired of Being Sick And Tired. Posted: 06-28-06 05:19am
Hi everyone, I have an 18 year old
daughter who has bi polar (2) and
borderline personality disorder. Home
life is pretty horrific and I spend half
my life feeling sick - waiting for the
next eppisode, drama, police knocking on
the door, or ringing, the next broken
knuckles or black eye that she will walk
in the house with, and this is usually
after dissappearing for a few days. And
the other half of my life is fixing up the
destruction that she leaves behind. On
top of this I have a 13year old whom
luckily takes most of the upheaval in her
stride, and a husband who is a shift
worker. I am desperately trying to stay
on top of my job, but if I am really
honest with myself, I am not always coping
to well. My 18 will not do much at all if
anything, and associates with 15 years
old, and is probably arround 14 - 15 years
emotionally, and my 13 year old is around
18 years emotionally, its like they have
done a swap.The 18 year old is on
medication and although she is now able to
sleep and has stopped cutting her wrists,
it really dosnt help with the mood swings,
any way I can ramble on for hours, but
what I am trying to say is that, I am so
tired and sick of being on the same merry
go round and it never seems to change, I
have no life, and then I feel guilty
because I feel this way, its just a never
ending cycle. We have finally got her
into a youth mental health facility which
she visits once a week, which is great,
but only today we had to take her to
hospital in the emergency dept and she
started carrying on that she was the only
one sick and there was nothing wrong with
anyone else, now you have to imagine this
was full voice (and a loud one at that) in
a packed out emergency dept, I just wanted
to curl up in a ball and die :oops: . Are
there anyother mums who can relate to
this. I would give my last breath to my
kids, but I dont know how much more I can
cope with, now I feel guilty again.
|
Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-28-06 08:25am
You did her a great favour by helping her
get in the youth mental health
facility.............Now you can try to
get more time there or elsewhere. Being a
good mom is also knowing when to let
others help you, there's organizations out
there that a designed for just
that........Being a worn-out burnt-out mom
isn't doing her or the rest of your family
any good. The 13 year old needs you, your
hubby needs you and you need to take care
of yourself. No guilt, your doing a great
job, hang in there mom!
|
clasylady
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2006 Posts: 6 Location: ontario
This Could Help! Posted: 08-06-06 12:53pm
Hi
I have just read your problem and I might
be able to help in some way.
First would be to get all the toxic
chemicals out of your home and I mean the
different cleaners and other proudicts
you use. Do do this I would like you to
please cantact me has I do have some great
info and testimoials I could show you.
So please feel free to contact me.
I hope I can help
edit
|
yogahoneybunny
Supporter
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 880 Location: Strumica, Macedonia
Thanks: 4
Thanked:0
Posted: 08-07-06 05:03am
You might try seeking a support group...I
know that there is one in the u.S. Called
coda (co-dependents anonymous), or
al-anon. I understand that your issue
may not be dealing with a chemcial
addiction, per se...But you seem wrapped
up into your daughter's life so much that
you do not have one for yourself. These
12-step progams can teach you how to
create some distance in your love. Feel
free to pm me if you want some more
info.
Peace.
|
accatt2204
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Long Island NY
Posted: 08-22-06 20:05pm
I'm so sorry for that. I am 15 and was
just diagnosed as having bipolar disorder,
following a diagnosis of ocd, my father
also suffers from bipolar 2 disorder. I
agree completely. Its so difficult to be
in this situation, and puts such heartache
into you, when you have to see your
daughter deal with this and other
disorders. I really wish I could help as
much as possible, I know so many others in
similiar situations and they and their
families suffer incomprehensibly. The
best you can do is be there and help the
remainder of your family, because I think
many parents underestimate their value and
how much they have already helped their
children, and all they have done for them.
If you can find long term treatment
centers it is the best option. I dont
have full information for this but please
hold on. The burden of these mental
disorders can seem unbearable, but family
support is incredibly important, but help
other members of your family as best as
possible. <3
