Zanny
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Money Troubles.. =(
Posted: 06-28-06 14:43pm
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Ok so I haven't got a job, and i'm living
at home at the moment.. But I dunno how
much longer that's gunna last. I live in
the middle of nowhere and I depend on my
parents or my brother for transport. This
is a problem for me trying to get a job,
coz they're unwilling to drive me anywhere
on a regular basis. The buses round here
come like once every 3 hours and I haven't
got the money for public transport
anyway.
My parents stopped my allowance when I
left college, and said they won't give me
any more money til I get a job.. And i've
already explained the problem with that.
My boyfriend lives far away from me, and
only earns enough for him to live off so I
can't depend on him for money. Most of my
friends are off to uni soon and will live
in student accommodation, so they're
sorted, and some of my friends are quite
well off so can afford big fancy
apartments.. This is really getting to
me, because they just don't understand how
miserable I get when I talk about it to
them.
The only advice I get from them is "get a
job" and i've tried explaining how hard
that is.. The only thing I can think of
doing is selling my stuff.. I have an
apple mac laptop which I only got in may,
and I reckon I could get about £700 for
it... And I have a car (i can't drive yet
but it was a present from my parents)
which I could get a couple of hundred
pounds for.. That won't be enough for the
baby, but it's a start.
I'm dreading my dad finding out i'm
pregnant, i'm sure i'll get kicked out of
my house.. Which leaves me with no
options at all.
I just dunno what to do =(
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-28-06 14:47pm
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I think it's time to sit your parents down
and tell them. There is all kinds of
support for young mothers. What about
babysitting for the summer (to get some
extra $$ and practice-) good luck!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 06-28-06 14:49pm
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'mm guessing you don't have a liscense?If
I were you I would drive the car to get
your liscense,find a job as close to your
home as possible and save(of course you'll
have to get tags and stuff for it) but it
will give you a start.Sell your computer
if you want,it will give you a start on
things and you can take it from there! I
wish I could help : (
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Zanny
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Posted: 06-28-06 14:51pm
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No, I was having driving lessons, and my
parents were paying for them.. But
they're refusing to now.. And I can
drive, but not competently enough to take
my test.. I need to do my theory test and
stuff too, which I can't afford.
I've decided.. Money sucks =(
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-28-06 15:05pm
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Sounds like you should talk to your
parents about how, exactly, they expect
you to get a job when you cannot get to a
job everyday - yet you have a perfectly
good car sitting there going unused
because they won't help you get your
liscense.
You have to step up and start doing things
for yourself. If you want to get a job,
take the first step to getting that job.
Like getting your driver's liscense. Work
on that first.
How far along are you? Babies don't need
a lot of stuff. When I had my son, we
survived on practically nothing for a
baby. It can be done. Work on steps to
make you self sufficient now.
Good luck.
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Zanny
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Posted: 06-28-06 15:11pm
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I'm 17 weeks now.. The baby is due in
december. I know i've still got a while
before the baby comes, but I get very
depressed and I can't help thinking about
money and the problems i'm gunna face.
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-28-06 15:16pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | i'm 17 weeks now.. The
baby is due in december. I know i've
still got a while before the baby comes,
but I get very depressed and I can't help
thinking about money and the problems i'm
gunna face. |
sweetie, that is all a fact of life now.
Best just take little steps towards the
future. I know this is going to sound
harsh, but when you had sex and got
pregnant, this is what the consequences of
that were.
I'm not being judgemental and I do know it
is hard. I've been there. Done that. I
was 15 years old when my mom told me I
could no longer live with her. Thankfully
my boyfriend took me in, or i'd have been
living on the street. Not that living
with a drug addict was that much better -
but at least I wasn't sleeping under a
park bench!
Now is the time to pick yourself up and do
what you have to do to move yourself
forward. Being a parent (my son is older
than you are now), I can say I would be
livid if my son quit college and came home
to live and didn't do anything at all. I
would see that as him being lazy. In this
life, you gotta do what you gotta do, and
it is going to be an uphill battle for you
now.
If your parents don't know you are
pregnant, you need to tell them. At 17
weeks you are almost halfway there.
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Zanny
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Posted: 06-28-06 15:24pm
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I know.. My mum knows i'm pregnant, but
my dad doesn't. I just dunno what i'm
gunna do, my boyfriend still lives with
his mum and his sister, so I can't live
with him.
There's a couple of pubs near my house so
I could see if they're hiring people for
the summer there.. Then at least i'd have
a source of income.
I just wish I could talk to my parents
about all this.
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Posted: 06-28-06 15:52pm
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I know this may sound a tad harsh but it
really isn't intended that way and i'm not
sure how else to word it :?
But basically your situation isn't going
to go away.
So the sooner you action rather than
stress over the sooner you can relax
knowing you are sorted.
Right now your mom is in a very difficult
place, she is keeping something from her
partner.
Your parents love you, they may be
misguided in how they express that
sometimes but then parenting doesn't come
with a handbook unfortunately.
The sooner you get this pregnancy out in
the open the sooner everyone can relax,
and at 17 weeks if you don't tell him soon
- you'll be having some explaining to do
when the bump shows itself.
Tell them you wnt to get a job but that to
get a job you need to be able to secure
transport to and from.
I notice you are in the uk - motorway
services are always hiring people and they
provide transport.
Also see if there isn't a milward-brown
near you - they usually run a mini bus too
and the work is dead easy for good pay and
they know that people are usually going to
be with them short term anyway, although
someone did go from nothing to associate
director in 6 years, so there is
opportunity to develop.
Here ya go email them a cv
hr [at] uk [dot] millwardbrown [dot] com
it's just market research
or look around/ask around/yellow pages to
see if there are any other market research
places in your local area many of them
provide mini bus transport.
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Posted: 06-28-06 16:41pm
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Personally i'ld look for a bedroom I could
rent somewhere in town. If people are
renting out single rooms they often do it
very cheap. Maybe go to a couple
churches and post on the bulliten board
that you need to find one bedroom to rent.
If you get any responses just explain
your story, and tell them once you are
living intown with them you will be able
to find a job because things are close so
you can start working immediatly and be
able to pay by the end of the first month.
If you can do this, start working, find
a one bedroom to rent, you could start
saving up, and looking into finding better
employment and preparing yourself for the
baby. A lot of times you can get
goverment support, so maybe look into
that. And don't be ashamed either if it
comes to that, aslong as you know you are
going to do better for yourself and not
rely on it forever. Or maybe you can
find someone you can share a two bedroom
apartment with, pay half the rent for your
food, and then once you have something
going on for a while look into you and
your boyfriend getting a place and such.
And figuring out if you could finish
school. I know this is hard. Me and
erik are lucky because my dad, his mom,
and my mom all said we could live with
them. Then all we'ld have to do is pay
for groceries and anything the baby would
need and we can finish school and save up
because we wouldn't have to be paying
rent. It really sucks that your mom
isn't helping you out. I know in ontario
where I lived they have goverment housing
where they charge you rent according to
how much you are making. Me and erik
were going to look into that and if you
have something like that going on in your
town you should too. I feel bad that
your family is being so crummy. I really
hope things work out for you.
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Kia
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Posted: 06-28-06 17:09pm
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| tanyaface
wrote: | | and figuring out if you
could finish
school. |
i'm guessing she is done with school lol
here we finish compulsory high school at
16 (.G.C.S.E's).
You have the option to do 6th form or
college then uni but school is finished at
16 lol
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 06-28-06 19:26pm
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| kia_breizzze
wrote: | | tanyaface
wrote: | | and figuring out if you
could finish
school. |
i'm guessing she is done with school lol
here we finish compulsory high school at
16 (.G.C.S.E's).
You have the option to do 6th form or
college then uni but school is finished at
16 lol |
i ment university or college, cause she
said she had started college. : p sorry
here we just refer to it as 'school'.
Like when people ask me where my sister is
at I say "she's going to school in guelph"
and she's in university there.
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Kia
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Posted: 06-28-06 19:39pm
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Yeah :) I know you guys do it that way
haha lol if you said to a uni student here
that they were at school they'd be well
annoyed.
But over in the states you guys go to
school at lot longer (age wise) too
because you can like go back and get your
diploma and stuff can't you?
Whereas here you can do high school
qualifications after school leaving age,
but it doesn't count as "completeing high
school" - it's kinda wierd like a totally
different system :)
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Posted: 06-28-06 20:20pm
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Thats weird lol here we call "university"
college.. Well I do anyway i've just
never heard it refered to as university
before I got on here lol if we drop out or
whatever we can go back and get our ged
which is pretty much the same as a
diploma.. 90% of colleges accept students
with a ged lol
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-28-06 20:22pm
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| hcobrunette06
wrote: | | thats weird lol here we call
"university" college.. Well I do anyway
i've just never heard it refered to as
university before I got on here lol if we
drop out or whatever we can go back and
get our ged which is pretty much the same
as a diploma.. 90% of colleges accept
students with a ged
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but 4 year universities generally will not
accept a ged as your education.
Universities are the ones you 'apply' to
with a letter and usually an essay and all
your school academics, achievements,
etc.
College is like community college. Anyone
can get into a community college ;) it is
way more fun at community college. The
age gap is huge and there are a lot of
different kinds of classes you can take.
I loved college. ;)
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Posted: 06-28-06 20:28pm
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Lol I don't know what i'm going to do
about college.
I have to go to an acnm college and
they've got several, but none are where
i'm expected to live. I want to live in
nebraska because my whole live i've been
saying i'm going to, and now my family
expects it and my cousin that i'm very
very close to always talks about how
disappointed she'll be if I dont live
there with her after highschool, but I
have to get my bachelors degree which
would be 4 years.. So that's a long time
lol I guess I could do it over the
computer, they offer internet courses but
I think it'd be more fun to go to college
at an actual college.
Wow that was completely pointless. You
were just talking about you loving college
so I told you that I dont know what i'm
giong to do haha im a freak.
Sorry =)
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-28-06 21:33pm
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| hcobrunette06
wrote: | lol I don't know what i'm
going to do about college.
I have to go to an acnm college and
they've got several, but none are where
i'm expected to live. I want to live in
nebraska because my whole live i've been
saying i'm going to, and now my family
expects it and my cousin that i'm very
very close to always talks about how
disappointed she'll be if I dont live
there with her after highschool, but I
have to get my bachelors degree which
would be 4 years.. So that's a long time
lol I guess I could do it over the
computer, they offer internet courses but
I think it'd be more fun to go to college
at an actual college.
Wow that was completely pointless. You
were just talking about you loving college
so I told you that I dont know what i'm
giong to do haha im a freak.
Sorry =) |
internet classes = yuk! I took a couple
classes that way and they were nothing
like in class classes. In one internet
class, we had to form into 'groups' and
complete assignments. Like each person
had a different portion to do. And it
never failed that I got in a group with
someone who didn't ever do their part - so
of course, the whole group gets marked
down! Gah! Also, the teachers were never
as helpful as they were when you are right
in front of them!
If you go to an out of state college, it
will cost more.
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Posted: 06-28-06 21:58pm
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Yeah I know =( they've got one here in
missouri, but its in kansas city and
kansas city = bad so I really don't want
to live there.
I'm pretty set on what I want to be I
think, nurse midwife, I read up on it a
lot and they make a good amount of money,
at least thats what the website that I
read said. Lots of school though lol
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Posted: 06-28-06 23:19pm
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Why haven't you submitted your resume over
the internet?
If there are places that will hire around
your house why haven't you applied to them
already?
Is there a mcdonalds? Bk? Arbys?
Anything near you?
You aren't exactly a desireable hire, take
anything you can get and I suggest you do
it soon. I couldn't imagine that many
employers will be all that thrilled to
hire a pregnant 17 year old college drop
out who will need to take several months
off in a few weeks.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-28-06 23:22pm
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Actually, most fast food places will take
whatever they can get if they need the
help.
Good luck zan I hope things get sorted out
for you =)
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