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JillMarie
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Joined: 24 Dec 2003
Posts: 3022
Location: Iowa
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Dead Post Dont Reply!
Posted: 01-16-04 17:24pm
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I know some of us got pregnant cause we
wanted to and for some of us it just
happened, but i'm trying to find something
that will hit home with these young girls
who want babies so bad. I was in the
same place they were when I was 15 and I
got what I wanted-a baby. I wish that
there was something I could say to these
young ladies to let them know how hard it
is and make them look pass the cute
clothes and see the spit up and stinky
diapers to put it nicely! If you have
and ideas please post them so that maybe
it will show them how hard this really is.
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4921
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 01-16-04 17:28pm
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I have an idea, have them listen to a baby
screaming for a really long time! Thats
not cute! I had to drive home with my
family and the baby was upset and I was
stuck in traffic and she screamed almost
the whole time! I mean scream! And then
kristen was crying because she was
thirsty! So both of them crying at the
same time while stuck on the road for over
an hour! How annoying could that be. I
can only imagine if I had to have that
when I have kids! I had such a headache,
then the baby took a mean you know what,
and it stunk! Thats not cute either! Lol
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pInKpAnThEr
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 626
Location: Indiana
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Posted: 01-16-04 17:30pm
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Well I never wanted it..And I had dreams
for myself..Which I am still making
happen
but when ur pregnant ur guna be a mommy
..Just tell em, put urself in your mothers
shoes..Shes raising u and has such big
dreams for u and for a baby to have and
raise a baby its really tough.
Just that things will change forever and
unless theyre completely content with
their life as is...Its only guna make it
harder..
Dont get me wrong its a blessing and a
joy, but its really hard.
And I am totally rambling but maybe u got
something outa what I said...
Bah-i jus went to the doc. And im all
excited about my ultrasound,sry if im not
all there..Im giddy!!
Yay!
Love mol
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mommabear16
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Joined: 16 Jan 2004
Posts: 1222
Location: illinois
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Posted: 01-16-04 20:33pm
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I'm 15 and this baby was definatly not
planned. But I agree with you...I wish
that I could open the eyes of young teens
and just make that relise that its not
easy and stuff. At my high school over 30
girls are pregnant...Sadly....Only 10 -15
wont have an abortion.
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 01-17-04 09:17am
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JillMarie
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Joined: 24 Dec 2003
Posts: 3022
Location: Iowa
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Posted: 02-06-04 12:36pm
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I just wanted to bring this back up so
maybe some people will read it and
understand that having kids is not about
cute clothes and trips to the park. Them
are the rare moments!
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 02-06-04 12:58pm
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Babys are adorable.. Everyone knows
that. .But for u teen girls wanting a
baby... Did u think about what it also
involves? The not so cute stuff?!
- no more parties
-no more child hood
-no more doing things your friends can do
- being completely depended on from the
baby.. If u mess up (which teens are
still normally aloud to do) then u hurt
the baby as well! So basically you cant
make mistakes in judgement etc, u have to
become an adult.
- work work work- gotta save up every
penny for your baby.
- if u live with your parents, they are
gonna ride your ass and basically, u'll
still be the young kid, they will just try
to run your life by telling you how to
raise your kid (only trying to help)
- what about prom? Dances?
Boyfriends? (cuz yes, boyfriend, alot
of the tiem do leave once the kid comes a
long) late curfews? Going out?
Clubs when u hit 18? --- nope, your
friends will be out doing this, u'll be
indoors changing diapers and trying to
sleep, do your homework etc. While your
baby finally decides to stop crying, and
take a nap.
- what about college? Your career?
Homework.. School... U have someone
elses future to think about now, so yours
just might have to be put on hold.
This is only some of the many tuff
consequences of being a teenage mother.
Im not trying to scare the many of us
teens who are pregnant now because we all
know what were in for, im not saying
theres not good things too cuz there is.
But u know what, we did something, and we
will live with it. Why try to create
this hard lifestyle? Wait till u grow
up!!!
Sorry, mines long!@
* im also going to post this seperatly to
the teens wanting to get preg*
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Jaydensmommy
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 1705
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:08pm
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You know I was just thinking this the
other day....If I was a younger girl who
wanted a baby and I came into this
particular forum, I would say we all make
motherhood seem so fun and awesome! Has
anyone else realized that? I mean we are
all excited about what our babies did
today, what we bought them, our
ultrasounds and such. Which isn't a bad
thing for us..But to a young girl who
wants a baby it sounds like so much fun!
I wish I could invite them girls to stay
with me for a week!!! It won't be as
much fun as they think. And even if they
can handle it for a week...Whos to say 18
years of that?! Don't get me wrong, my
pregnancy was pretty much planned, and I
wouldn't trade jayden for anything in the
world. And I have said many many times,
I have accopmlished more in my life thank
I probably would have if I didn't have a
baby, because I have to for my daughters
sake. Times can get tough. I mean I
cannot explain how tiring it is. Like in
the mornings after you have stayed up all
hours of the night with the baby and not
to mention trying to get dishes and
laundry done. I dread waking up at
7am!!! But I can count on that every
morning! So..After I drag my butt outta
bed I have to feed and bathe jayden half
asleep!!! By the time the afternoon
rolls around I am exhausted!!! But I
cannot lay down to take a nap because
jayden isn't ready to nap yet. So I have
to force myself to stay awake and cheer up
to play with my daughter. Finally she
may lay down for a nap...And so do i.
But she dosen't take long naps, so I get
maybe a 2 hr nap. Which now when I wake
up I am still tired because I didn't get a
decent nap. Eeeeck I hate that feeling
when you are so dang tired, but you can't
sleep because baby is up. I could go on
and on about all the cons of having a
child at a young age, but I try not to
look at it that way because like I
said...My daughter is my world and I
wouldn't trade her for anything ever in
the entire world. It's just not as easy
as it looks or seems. So all you young
girls out there..Take my advice and enjoy
your teen years. You have the rest of
your life to make a family, but you don't
have the rest of your life to be a
teen/child.
~sara~
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kitty_55
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:17pm
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Hey,
i know you are trying to scare girls to
not preggie. I have taken care of my mya
my old bestfriends baby she is 16 months
old. I know its not all fun. She sh*its
her dipair I clean it. She pukes I clean
it up. Some girls dont understand it is
hard. It is one of the hardest things
you will ever have to do. But some girls
are ready for it like me. So just dont
say younge girls wanting to get preggie
cuz its all nice and cute. Most of them
do know what it is like. If you put your
mind to it you can do anything you want
to.
Alison xoxo
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KariM18
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Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:19pm
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How old r u kitty? And r u pregnant? I
really dont think anyone can possibly know
just how hard it is until they have one of
their own.
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:22pm
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No I am not preggie I am 16. You cant say
I dont know how hard it is. I took care
of mya everyday, with sonja her mother.
Her mother sonja did nothing for her. She
would go out and party and get drunk and
f*ck random guys. I am not like her what
so ever. I dont drink I dont party I
would give up my life for a baby. I
think a baby would be the best thing that
could ever happen to me. I know I am
younge and I know how babys are and stuff.
I am not gonna go out and sleep with any
guy. I know what it is not to have a dad
in my life.
Alison xoxo
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:27pm
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So u want one right now????
I understand u mite have taken alot of
care of someone elses kid.. But its
still not the same. I babysat for a
family every single day, watched the kids
for like 8 hours each day.. Took care of
them a ton. .But its still not the same.
And at 16, no one can really be ready
until they have to force themselves if
they are put in the situation. Sorry, my
mind cant change about that. Im just so
sick of hearing all these posts of 14, 15,
16, and 17 year olds planning to get
pregnant right now.. If they think their
mature, they can wait. God I just wish
they all would finish highschool before
making babyplans..
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kitty_55
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:34pm
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I am not planning to have one. If I do
end up getting preggie I wont get an
abortion. I am not going to go out and
f*ck every guy I see. When I do have sex
he wears a condom. I sleep with the same
guy since sept. I have had sex with one
other guy since than and he wore a condom.
I am on b/c too. It might not be right
for your life having one so younge but it
is right for other people. If I do get
preggie b4 I finshed highschool I will go
to school where their is a baby sitting
centre in the school.They take care of
them while u r in classses. How old r u
anyways?
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:38pm
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Well; thats good. .It sounds like u have
a head on ur shoulders and are careful
etc. So thats really good to hear.. But
no I dont think its ''right'' for anyone
this young. .But I agree, if u, or
anyone, does end up pregnant, I am against
abortion as well. I am 18, im 4 months
pregnant. Unplanned. Was on birth
control but I guess there was a loop hole
and I somehow ended up pregnant. Even im
young to have a kid.
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:43pm
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U r only 2 years older than me. You are
saying its bad for me having a kid? What
about you?? It just angers me off ppl
saying younge girls having babys are bad.
I do think girls who r 14 and younger
having kids r bad. Every person is
differnt. I know and so do many other ppl
my mom my nana even christina thinks I
would be a good mother. If I end up
getting preggie I will do anything I could
do make it have the best life ever.
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Jaydensmommy
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 1705
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:46pm
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Kitty I thought the same way as you are
right now....I went of birth control
purposley...Jaydens father and I pretty
much planned it...And I was wrong about
everything I thought. It is hard. How
do u plan to go to school and raise a
child??? And my bf makes tons of money
therefore I dont have to work and I get to
stay home and enjoy my daughter. Not
everyone is as lucky as I am to have
someone like that. And even so...We
still have problems making ends meet at
times.
~sara~
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:48pm
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Umm first of 2 years does make a
difference. .I graduated a year ago
from highschool.. So theres one big
difference. Second of all I was on
birth control.. Not trying to have a
kid at all, not wanting to have a kid at
all. If someone ends up pregnant young
then yes they should have it and take care
of it and im sure they can be a good mom.
But planning it or wanting it at a young
age is way different. I even think 18
is young to have a kid.. I feel young
to have a kid.. But at least an 18 year
old is out of school. That makes a
biggger difference then u think . But
like I said, my pregnancy was way
unplanned.. I didnt want a kid right
now at all and u and other 16 year olds
and other highschoolers saying their ready
for a baby, I think thats just immaturity
right there. But once again to remind u,
im not saying young people can make good
moms cuz I know theres wonderful good moms
here.. But a planned young pregnancy is
different then just excepting the
responsibility of unplanned consequences.
Sorry if u feel like people are gangin up
on u.. But ive been hearin this all too
much.
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Jaydensmommy
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 1705
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:51pm
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Also kitty....How are you going to
financially raise a child?! My fiance
makes over 20 dollars an hour and I was
making 15...Its still financially hard to
raise that child! You have no hs
diploma...Let alone a college degree of
any sort. What do you think your going
to do??? Believe me I thought the same
friggen way as you are right now! I
raised my niece from 2 days old which
means I was about 14-14 yrs old until
now...I still do and she will be 5 in
june. Its hard! I don't care how old
you are...No one is totally prepared for a
child. Things come up..Do you have your
own vehicle...Or a license for that
matter? What happens when your car
breaks down and you need a couple hundred
dollars to fix it otherwise you cannot go
to work or school. Do you realize how
hard it is to breastfeed...And my
daughters formula is now 13 dollars a 12
oz can! She goes through several cans a
month!!! Baby food...Oh man don't even
get me started. It dosen't seem
expensive at 50 cents a jar...It ads
up!!!
~sara~
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:53pm
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Their is this school here that has daycare
for your baby. It doesnt cost u anything.
I am just saying if I do end up getting
preggie I will be happy but I am not gonna
go out and try to.
I just think everyone is differnt and
belives the own thing. 2 years does not
make a differnt what so ever. I will be
gradding next year. I will have a career
in hairdressing cuz the school I go to now
they will pay for it. I know babys are
hard. I am not saying they are easy or
anything. I am mature enough to take care
of one. Most likely I wont end up being
preggie till I am older. I just think no
one should tell anyone what is right and
what is wrong.
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-06-04 14:56pm
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Why does everyone think I am planning to
have a kid? I am not! I am just saying
what is right for you may not be right for
other people. If I do end of getting
preggie I will get a job I would do
anything to get money. I would have
support from my mom and my nana.
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