Made My Decision As to My Twin Pregnancy Posted: 06-30-06 04:54am
Well better late than never I have decided
that at the moment is not the right time
for me to have children and I have decided
on an abortion. I have an appointment
next thursday at 2.30. And im petrified.
Its such a scary thought but I dont feel
like I have much choice at the moment.
Thanks for everyone who has supported me
at this really difficult time
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toja
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Posted: 06-30-06 06:29am
Hi buzzybee. I am sorry that you had to
make such a hard decision. It was exactly
how I felt. When I learned about my
pregnancy I was about doing everything to
keep my baby (you said you don't think you
can abort your twins) and to make the
pregnancy joyful as much as it was
possible. Then, after some time my moods
changed to negative and I decided to have
abortion. And I had it 8 days ago.. I
even ran away from the first appointment
because got into panic but still did it 2
days later.
I just ask you, please make sure, that
your decision is not based on 1) other
people's influence 2) hormone changes. I
went through consideration regarding
abortion very carefully, I had many days
to think about it and had no pushing from
anyone, so decision was mine and only
mine. (this knowing helps me now).
Please make sure, that your arguments are
reasonable. You can share your thoughts
and fears here. I will help you as much
as I can. If want, send me a private
message.
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BuzzyBee
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Posted: 06-30-06 06:39am
No, no-one has influenced me at all, that
I am grateful for. This is completely my
decsion as fo rmy hormones, at the moment
they are telling me to continue with the
pregnancy, but I know that at this time
that would be a mistake. Xx
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toja
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Posted: 06-30-06 07:07am
buzzybee
wrote:
no, no-one has influenced me
at all, that I am grateful for. This is
completely my decsion as fo rmy hormones,
at the moment they are telling me to
continue with the pregnancy, but I know
that at this time that would be a mistake.
Xx
well I am glad to hear that it is
completely your decision. As for
hormones, they told me in opposite - to
terminate pregnancy, now with sober and
clear mind I don't think I would do it,
but put me in the same situation again,
and I would make the same decision.
Buzzybee, how old are you? You still
have a week for consideration, am I right?
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BuzzyBee
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Posted: 06-30-06 07:33am
I have till thursday. Im 20.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-30-06 14:11pm
Wow 20... I had my abortion at 20.... I
am 24 now =)
time flies so fast..
I am glad you are making the decision for
you, and doing what is best for you.
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toja
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Posted: 07-01-06 00:28am
buzzybee
wrote:
i have till thursday. Im
20.
you are very young honey, and all your
life is in the future. Be with us this
week, that I believe is very hard for you.
If you have any doubts, just share here.
If not, I am with you and will comfort you
when needed.... Take care.
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cherry88
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Posted: 07-01-06 00:51am
Hey buzzy it is so good you have already
came to such a hard decision in such
little time. I wish u so much luck on
thursday and make sure u come on here
before and after for any reassurance or
advice you need. The best to you hun!!!
*hugs*
and toja if 20 is young what does that
make me? Im 18 lol!!!
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toja
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Posted: 07-01-06 05:24am
cherry88
wrote:
and toja if 20 is young what does that
make me? Im 18
lol!!!
hey sweet cherry :) wow, you are 18! I am
27 already huh. I was surprised that you
are so young, because you look so mature
and experienced in your hard decision
making. For example, I thought that
caryfairy is older than she is because of
thoughtful advices she gave here.
Everyone here looks older... And I guess
I know why...
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cherry88
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Posted: 07-01-06 06:10am
toja
wrote:
hey sweet cherry :) wow, you
are 18! I am 27 already huh. I was
surprised that you are so young, because
you look so mature and experienced in your
hard decision making. For example, I
thought that caryfairy is older than she
is because of thoughtful advices she gave
here. Everyone here looks older...
And I guess I know
why...
lol, I like to think I am mature
sometimes, yer other times I can be pretty
immature! Which I reckons ok 4 my age!
Since ive only just turned 18! :)
yeh carifairy is the .Don at giving
advice! She knows everything!! So how r
u 2day toja? Oh and I think 27 is very
young :) (this means you too lisa!!!)hehe
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Carifairy
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Posted: 07-01-06 16:16pm
I am only about to be 24 in 8 days =).
But because I did not have a baby when I
was 18 or 20 (when I got pregnant), I was
able to get a good college education. I
am still in college too, I love learning,
and want to further educate myself =)
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cherry88
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Posted: 07-01-06 22:11pm
carifairy
wrote:
i am only about to be 24 in
8 days =). But because I did not have a
baby when I was 18 or 20 (when I got
pregnant), I was able to get a good
college education. I am still in college
too, I love learning, and want to further
educate myself
=)
well happy birthday for 7 days!!! :)
and the bit bout getting your education
e.T.C good on ya girl! Theres so few
women left theses days that dont just have
kids and become a stay at home mum. (i.E
the easy way ouy)men and women are equal
these days, its a shame some women and men
are stuck in the 50's :roll:
lol
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toja
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Posted: 07-19-06 10:57am
Buzzybee, how are you today?
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HappyBaby
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Posted: 07-20-06 07:09am
I think she said she was going on holiday;
perhaps that is why she hasn't posted
lately? I hope so anyway.
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cherry88
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Posted: 07-20-06 22:17pm
She went away for a weekend ages ago.
She hasnt been back for ages.
You'd know that if it wasnt for everything
getting deleted.
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Birch
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Harsh Reality Posted: 08-22-06 11:53am
I may get blasted for this, but I believe
it's important enough to talk about.
I am on an abortion support site. This
one is for women only who have had
abortions to talk about their experience
and how to cope with it. It is not for
debate, or for pregnant women who are
questioning their pregnancy.
Buzzybee is on there. I know this,
because she has the same handle, is from
the same location, said that "buzzybee" is
always her handle because it's her
nickname, and had a twin pregnancy she
recently terminated. The timeline lines
up exactly as well. The chances of this
being someone else is pretty nill.
I bring this up not to ostracize buzzy, or
call attention to her decision, or
dehumanize her, or criticize her, or any
of those negative things people will jump
the gun about.
I bring this up because it is important
for women who are considering abortions to
know that many women who have already had
abortions know what they are talking about
when they tell you something. This is,
as buzzy said in the other forum, a lesson
learned too late.
She completely regrets her decision.
She, to summarize, wishes anything to
still be pregnant with her twins. She's
do anything to have them back, wishes she
didn't listen to people, etc.
These may be feelings of regret only
brought about by hormones, or these may be
feelings she would never of had if she
hadn't of had the abortion. She may
instead feel very resentful of the twins
for interrupting her life. Who knows?
The point is, women, and I am completely
pro-choice by the way, there is a very
high risk you will regret the decision to
have an abortion. Not everyone will,
certainly, but you may. And since I am
staunchly pro-woman, I beg, plead, and
beseech you to shut out all other
influences, and make a clear decision
based on you- not anything else. Not
your parents, not friends, relatives,
boyfriends, husbands, society, religion,
education, finances, anything.
I bring up buzzy b/c it's here in black
and white that she was all for it, and
felt okay with it, and now she is not.
If you wish to doubt me about her example,
then use myself for one. I was okay with
it, now I am not. I am not a gooey,
pro-baby, diaper toting, kid loving person
at all. I have never wanted kids.
Also, I am highly educated, intelligent,
and introspective. I thought I too was
okay with this desicion, b/c it was the
"best" decision. Now I am convinced I
was wrong.
Again, because I am pro-woman I ask for
women to do for themselves what is best,
and I ask that they take serious time to
consider this decision. Do not rush!
Take your time, think, go off by yourself
for three days and be away from
influences. You owe yourself three days,
at least.
Only love,
birch
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Carifairy
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Posted: 08-22-06 11:56am
Not true..She was not 100% for it.
She posted in her previous post "i feel
like I have no choice"
for women who know that they truly want an
abortion, they are unlikely to feel
regret.
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Birch
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Posted: 08-22-06 14:31pm
Regardless, it still stands for itself.
She felt she had no other choice, as may
many that read this, and yet she wishes
now that she had made a different choice.
My point is that you owe it to yourself
to take time to make such a decision.
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Posted: 08-22-06 14:58pm
birch
wrote:
my point is that you owe
it to yourself to take time to make such a
decision.
i don't think many women do rush the
decision whether or not to abort a
pregnancy.
No-one can tell you how you're going to
feel following an abortion, something that
seems like the best decision at the time
may cause you more hurt than you realise
but its not a definate either way
i know which site you're talking about so
i'm pleased buzzybee is receiving support.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 08-22-06 15:39pm
I am considered fairly well off
financially, yet I still had an abortion,
and I have no regrets..
Some women just know that they want an
abortion, so they are less likely to have
problems with regrets.
