Joined: 27 May 2006 Posts: 319 Location: Gastonia, NC.
Single Pregnant Women Posted: 06-30-06 18:33pm
So who here had to go thru it alone? The
pregnancy without the baby dad or a man in
your life?
This is my first baby and im gonna have to
do it so I just want to here from other
women that have done it too.
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mlc1974
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Florida
Posted: 07-01-06 08:49am
I was a single mom of two. Unless you
have family to help its going to be very
hard. I had my parents, worked a full
time job and cared for my boys at night
when I got home. I was very tired. It
got stress full for me at times but thats
when your family and freinds come into
play to give you that time you'll need for
yourself. I hope everything works out for
you.
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Jen UH biOtch
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jun 2006 Posts: 80 Location: TEXAS =] waiting to go back to tha CHOCOLATE CiTY
Posted: 07-01-06 09:07am
I went threw the first 2 months with my
babys father... Then we split up... He
came back when I was 7 months for a week
and we split up again... And so I went
threw 98% alone... And the birth was just
me.. And since its been just me. Casey
says he is going to come down here but..
I dont know.
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MamiClaudia
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2006 Posts: 319 Location: Gastonia, NC.
Posted: 07-01-06 10:25am
I am four and a half months preg. And we
are split up, I dont think hes going to
end up being anymore then a child support
check. I found out hes been sleeping with
his other babys mom and me at the same
time, and all this other caca. So im
scared now, need to go get tested for stds
again. But im so fed up with him, finding
out hes with her didnt even hurt me, its
just the baby im sad about. Is it true I
can get him to sign child support papers
now? And what about him signing the birth
certificate, whats with that if he dosent
sign do I have to do a paternity test to
force him to?
i am four and a half months
preg. And we are split up, I dont think
hes going to end up being anymore then a
child support check. I found out hes
been sleeping with his other babys mom and
me at the same time, and all this other
health question. So im scared now, need
to go get tested for stds again. But im
so fed up with him, finding out hes with
her didnt even hurt me, its just the baby
im sad about. Is it true I can get him
to sign child support papers now? And
what about him signing the birth
certificate, whats with that if he dosent
sign do I have to do a paternity test to
force him to?
hahahahahahahahahahaha
you can't get child support until the baby
is born, you'll give them the fathers
name, they'll call him in for a dna test
and if he doesn't come in a warrant will
be issued for his arrest. If the test
comes back him being the father, he'll
have to pay child support, and if he also
misses payments he'll go to jail. That's
how it is in the state of missouri.
You can't force anyone to sign a birth
certificate, they either agree to do it or
they don't.
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8004 Location: Missouri, United States
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Posted: 07-02-06 00:09am
Yeah the state of missouri, ahahahha
right. My dad is thousands of dollars
behind, and they always threaten him with
jail.. He still doesn't pay it, they'll
set a court date and put him on probation.
It's a never ending cycle, they'll
garnish his wages and he'll quit that job
in a few weeks and get to a new one, same
thing over and over. Hes such a panzy. I
hate it here.
yeah the state of missouri,
ahahahha right. My dad is thousands of
dollars behind, and they always threaten
him with jail.. He still doesn't pay it,
they'll set a court date and put him on
probation. It's a never ending cycle,
they'll garnish his wages and he'll quit
that job in a few weeks and get to a new
one, same thing over and over. Hes such
a panzy. I hate it
here.
really?
My brother and sister's dad (we have diff
dads) he got his leg chopped off because
he got it stuck in a hay thingy, and when
he's late on a payment they tell him to
either pay or he'll go to jail.
My dad is a psychotic abusive f*ck whom
i've met once and said nothing to him. I
have a man that I call my dad who has
raised me since I was 2 and I consider him
my dad all the way, my parents got
divorced and we still talk on the phone
everyday.
I'm a single mom. I was "with" my ex
until I was about 7 months pregnant or
so...And then we broke up and now my
daughter is 3 and a half months old. He's
never seen her, and I wouldn't change that
for the world (unless of course he was a
decent person). When we were "together"
he never helped out or was any kind of
support system, so I still feel like I did
the whole pregnancy on my own. All he did
was cause more problems then he was worth.
I wish we had broken up sooner, to be
honest, I think I would have been so much
happier and been able to enjoy my
pregnancy to the fullest.
If he is missing out that is his fault.
Don't feel bad, your baby will have as
much love as it needs through you and your
family/friends.
Atleast with me, I would much rather be
single and alone for the rest of my life
then be with someone and not be truly
happy. I think your baby would be a lot
more unhappy too if it was raised in an
unhappy household full of cheating and
lies. Children are very perceptive, and
he/she would pick up the tension and
unhappyness right from birth (even while
it's still in the womb it can sence your
feelings and react to it!).
i'm a single mom. I was
"with" my ex until I was about 7 months
pregnant or so...And then we broke up and
now my daughter is 3 and a half months
old. He's never seen her, and I wouldn't
change that for the world (unless of
course he was a decent person). When we
were "together" he never helped out or was
any kind of support system, so I still
feel like I did the whole pregnancy on my
own. All he did was cause more problems
then he was worth. I wish we had broken
up sooner, to be honest, I think I would
have been so much happier and been able to
enjoy my pregnancy to the fullest.
If he is missing out that is his fault.
Don't feel bad, your baby will have as
much love as it needs through you and your
family/friends.
Atleast with me, I would much rather be
single and alone for the rest of my life
then be with someone and not be truly
happy. I think your baby would be a lot
more unhappy too if it was raised in an
unhappy household full of cheating and
lies. Children are very perceptive, and
he/she would pick up the tension and
unhappyness right from birth (even while
it's still in the womb it can sence your
feelings and react to
it!).
good advice kimmeh!!
I'm not with the baby's father because as
some of you know he's in a better place
but I have a father figure for brayden
whom I think is great. We have been
together for a really long time off and on
( my choice) and I am starting to feel
really good about it. He loves brayden a
lot and plays the daddy roll to the
fullest.
Being a single mom would be hard & I
hope i'm never in that situation.
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caseywasey17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 86 Location: England
Posted: 07-15-06 13:55pm
Im 17, 30 weeks pregnant and will be a
single mother.
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JRogato
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2006 Posts: 23 Location: Oregon USA
to Those Going It Alone Posted: 07-15-06 21:16pm
It's a hard thing to do, probably the
hardest thing you will ever face. My bf
left me when I was 7 weeks pregnant with
my son and I had to do it all by myself.
I was expecting my mom to be there and be
a support but she moved when I was 5
months pregnant. I had undiagnosed
bipolar disorder at the time as well so
was coping with the wonderful mood swings
that come with that and had severe ppd
(post partum depression) as well as post
traumatic stress disorder. I was lucky
enough to have a couple of very good
friends who would occasionally help by
watching my son for me for a couple of
hours so I could try to get some rest.
He had severe colic for the first 10
months and I wouldn't have gotten through
it without them.
I hope for you girls that are going it
alone that you have friends and/or family
who will help. I'm sending all of you
good wishes.
Post script
i realized after I first posted this that
it wasn't very encouraging. I don't want
to scare those of you who are going it
alone but I don't want to give you a false
idea of how hard it will be. What I
didn't say is this: it may be the hardest
thing you will do, but every time you see
your baby smile, hear it laugh or teach it
something new, your heart will burst with
joy. The most rewarding experience on the
face of the planet is to raise a child and
see it do well. Hang in there.
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