Anyone around the ontario region know what
kind of goverment benefits a teen mother
in school can get? Or how much or
something? As it's looking right now i'm
going to be single through this and I
don't want to depend on erik's money to
get what the baby needs. I haven't
decided for sure if i'm going to stay in
manitoba or go back to ontario, but no
matter where I pick I would like to have
as little to do with erik as possible and
I already know about goverment benefits
available in manitoba now I just need to
educate myself on ontario's then pick
where is best to be... So help me
people.
By the way, if all goes right I get to
find out the gender in 4 days! But I
hear you have to pay 25 dollars per
picture of the ultrasounds, which i'll do
of course, but it's still totally
bullsh*t!
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diamondsz
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Posted: 07-20-06 22:29pm
Hun for ctb you should get 200$/month
automatically unless you go on welfare
which then you only get enough to cover
your rent go back to school and
daycare...
Talk to a social worker at ontario works I
thing they call it now or call
1-800-o-canada for info on your nearest
center...
Worst case condition I could possibly help
you out but thats a different story and I
know ur trying to be independant..
I was talking with my friend who just had
her baby 4 weeks ago who also lives here
(in manitoba) and she said she gets about
900 a month (which she can get until the
child is 5), and it's not like she's
living on her own and paying rent.
She's living with her parents... So I
thought that seemed like a huge amount and
that I probably wouldn't get something
like that in ontario. I would be living
with my mom but she doesn't make much at
all... I'ld like as little help from
erik as possible. I've been looking for
sites with information on ontario benefits
but i'm finding nothing... I don't think
I could do much on 200 as I would like to
go back to school and day care will be a
ton. Atleast there is a day care here
in manitoba right across from the school I
go to that is really cheap (like 50 a
month) as long as you are a student still
in school.
That really sucks girl, being a single
parent as I have heard is really freakin'
hard.
Not trying to sound like a cow or anything
but didn't you get pregnant on purpose? I
wish girls would reconsider getting
pregnant, and at least wait until they are
in a long and stable relationship, and
both have good income, other than that I
see no point in getting pregnant on
purpose, love is blind, and will f*ck you
over in so many ways!
I also think it's pretty normal to have
problems in your relationship when your
pregnant, my friend kirstin is the exact
same way, she's was a very hormonal girl
and just recently have became normal again
haha.
But hey, remember not to have anyone
negative around your baby, and you too
since your pregnant and all. Stress isn't
good for you or the baby so anytime your
man makes you mad, ignore him and imagine
cutting off his weiner because it'll make
you feel so much better.
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Posted: 07-21-06 05:40am
I have two friends who are single parents
both recieving 850 and their rent being
800 thats what I meant by cutting it
close, now ctb on low income salary ranges
actually 250+ a month.
If you are working you would also qualify
for daycare and maybe special housing for
teen moms like one of my friends and
therefore she has more money to spend a
month...Shes paying 525$/month for rent
daycare is absolutly free and shes making
1100$/month working/school as a teen mom
there are so many more advantages for
being a teen mom in ontario
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 07-21-06 13:31pm
The child tax is a canadian run child tax
so it won't depend on your province. If
you are a single mother and have low
income, your child tax will probably be at
the maximum (which is 250 I believe). And
I don't know if ontario has this.. But in
manitoba, you can get 80 dollars a month
while you are pregnant. I got it up until
the last month I was pregnant.
Also, there is the universal child benefit
now available to you. You can get 1200 a
year per child. That will come after your
child is born (its also federal so it
doesn't matter what province you are
in).
You can qualify for gst refund since you
will now have a baby, which could be about
150 every 4 months. When the baby is
born, they will give you forms ( both in
manitoba and ontario) to fill out the
child tax, universal benefit and the gst
refund.
I'm not sure what else ontario could
offer, tho I know here in my city, you can
get an automatic credit in highschool for
being pregnant. I got it and that could
help you get your education faster so the
job market is available to you. Maybe see
if the school in ontario has it.
Babyrae you say your city like it's not my
city also. :p
i'm in good old thompson, so like at the
most 20 minutes away from where you are
right now, haha.
don't be a doing it b*tch tanya, there's
no need to lie epsecially after you have
already said you werent using protection
on other topics but edited them.
If you don't use protection and you get
pregnant, that is getting pregnant on
purpose smart one.
Heh I moved to ontario I had to wait to
get my new health card to fill my
prescription I was off bc for like one
month. He pulled out and I didn't think
one month was enough to get someone
pregnant. That was careless but far from
on purpose. Thanks for you overly being
concerned with what went on with my
vagina, i'm flattered. I don't know why
you care so much... It's sort of scary.
If I ignore you and choose not to respond
to you that's obviously not enough, cause
you seem to think it is your business.
So how about you explain how your
boyfriend got you pregnant with your
daughter "without you even knowing". And
don't start with the hole in the condom
crap if that is what you are going to pull
because a little hole wouldn't do that.
So unlikely. And any big hole could have
been noticed. So tell me how the hell a
boy gets you pregnant without you knowing?
Since there really isn't any excuse and
you are responsible for your own body,
it's a bit of a lost cause. But
entertain me.
Btw I edited almost everything I posted
when that crazy lady was on here reading
all my crap, read the dates. I really
wanted to actually get advice on the topic
but you just couldn't turn away trying to
prove something. If I ignored you that
should have been enough for you to stay
out of it.
And as far as adding in stuff about
keeping my baby away from negative people
and that it's common to have problems in
relationships, I didn't ask your advice on
any of that and it annoyed me. It has
nothing to do with ontario benefits.
lmao, there's no need to get all
defensive, i'm not trying to argue with
you.
And actually he's not my boyfriend so
obviously you don't know what your talking
about. He wanted to get me pregnant, and
the hole in the condom don't work?
Hahahaha yep your right, it doesn't work
thats why I have a daughter, nice.
Since you wanna pull out all the personal
crap, which I haven't even done to you.
"oh tanya give me a little baby" sound
firmiliar? You got pregnant on purpose
and admitted it on another topic and now
you've got yourself in a sh*t hole.
I wasn't trying to be mean to you at all
and you insult me like that. I'm not the
one that's going to be a 16 year old mom
who is looking for state benefits because
her boyfriend got scared & ran away.
Not using protection .P.E.R.I.O.D. And
having sex is taking the chance of getting
pregnant on purpose. Tell me how the hell
you can have sex without a condom and not
even think about getting pregnant? A
month at that! You're obviously not
educated enough to know pregnancy can
happen anytime and the pulling out method
doesn't work, so you are definitly not
educated enough to be raising a baby.
I wasn't trying to fight with you &
you get a little attitude and smart off
and start talking about my personal life,
hah as if yours is so much better.
You weren't trying to start with me yet
you kept it going when I brushed it off
and made it obvious I didn't want to talk
to you? Haha... Right. You don't have
your story straight and no that quote
doesn't sound familiar haha. And you
have had two kids "accidentally" and blame
it on another human. Yeah I was
careless. Not once was it said "give me
a little baby tanya" or did I try. Yet
you seem to think you know so much about
my life... I don't need advice from
someone with two babies. Erik ran off
did he? I broke up with him because he
got caught by the cops with a stolen car
and he's involved with drugs. Once again,
think you know everything about my life do
you? Boohoo I don't want a guy like that
around, that's my business not yours.
And i'm not 16. Stop talking to me
because you don't know anything about my
life and I don't feel like talking to
someone who's had two babies who sits
around like she knows everything, after
she admitted to handling her son while
high "it's not like i'm so messed I can't
carry him or anything". I'm not grown up
enough to take care of a baby? You
aren't selfless enough to give up drugs
when you have a kid. You aren't grown up
enough to drop your attitude. You aren't
grown up enough to not assult someone for
a few dollars. Clean up your own life
because it is far from acceptable before
you judge other peoples. Would it kill
you to walk away since you don't have any
advice i'm looking for? Please dalicia,
hearing anything you have to say just
makes me tired. Do you live in ontario
or know anything about what I was trying
to find out? Nope... Thanks though.
Bye.
I have never blamed anyone for my 2 kids,
I love them both and I am glad I had both
of them.
Drugs? You say it as if i'm sniffing
things up my nose. Have you ever been
high on weed? Have you not been able to
perform normal tasks while on it? Because
I am fine on it, it makes me relax. Weed
grows out of the ground, meth,coke etc has
chemicals in it along with everything
else. How can you complain to me about
weed when there's so much worse than
that?
Sandra, how can you not think about
getting pregnant when not using
protection? It's so freakin' obvious.
I would have rather gotten pregnant twice
due from being on the patch & my ex
putting a hole in the condom than to know
I had sex without protection when I knew I
could get pregnant.
My advice to you tanya- you got pregnant
on purpose deal with the consequences.
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Ingi
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Posted: 07-23-06 14:51pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
i have never blamed anyone
for my 2 kids, I love them both and I am
glad I had both of them.
Drugs? You say it as if i'm sniffing
things up my nose. Have you ever been
high on weed? Have you not been able to
perform normal tasks while on it?
Because I am fine on it, it makes me
relax. Weed grows out of the ground,
meth,coke etc has chemicals in it along
with everything else. How can you
complain to me about weed when there's so
much worse than that?
Sandra, how can you not think about
getting pregnant when not using
protection? It's so freakin' obvious.
I would have rather gotten pregnant twice
due from being on the patch & my ex
putting a hole in the condom than to know
I had sex without protection when I knew I
could get pregnant.
My advice to you tanya- you got pregnant
on purpose deal with the
consequences.
not a debate or anything ;) but cocaine
grows out of the ground too.
Haha, so what does he poke holes in
condoms ahead of time, then he's putting a
already unwrapped condom on his dink and
you aren't wondering about it?
Or does he stop right before you are about
to, unwrap it, get a needle and poke a
hole? The "he got me pregnant without
me even knowing" thing is bullsh*t and you
know it.
It's the most retarded thing to sit around
argueing about since i'm already having a
baby and I got pregnant months ago and
nothing said now is going to change the
past.
The thing about drugs is how the hell will
you tell your kid not to start smoking
dope? The other thing about kids are
you are suppose to want to be a better
person because of them. I know i've
already changed completely and my baby
isn't even here. And once it is I won't
think about smoking pot because i'll have
a reason to straighten up in every aspect
of my life. Where the hell is your self
control? Are you going to be okay with
it when your son is doing the stuff you
do? The drugs, assulting people for
money, and going around with a disgusting
attitude?
I couldn't imagine having a beautiful
baby, something i'ld wanna live as good a
life for as I could because of, and then
just going and getting high everyday.
"gee son you were so important to me I was
high while taking care of you everyday."
"you were so important to me I did
something illegal every day because you
didn't make me want to be a better
person". If I learnt my mom was on pot
every day of her life i'ld be disgusted
and think I wasn't important enough for
her to change for.
You get what you give in life dalicia and
even though I made a mistake by being
careless because I thought I could afford
to risk it I know i'm a good person and I
will do fine and always try to do the
right thing. Can you say the same about
yourself? Can you go to bed at night
thinking "i was high all night while my
baby boy needed me" and be settled with
"well pot doesn't stop you from performing
daily tasks"... Do you consider the care
of your son a daily task? Like driving a
car, cleaning the kitchen?... Do you
feel like a good person after assulting
someone? Do you feel like you want your
son to be like you? I know i'm a good
person atleast. I know I would never
for one second think of myself while I
have another life depending on me and go
smoke up. Please dalicia, this thing
called karma, is going to come back to hit
you hard one day. I promise you, all
the negativity you put out and surround
yourself with will come back. And for
that I feel really sorry for you.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 07-23-06 15:04pm
Jesus dalicia I thought you two were
friends, whats this about turning on her
and telling her not to be a b*tch and
stuff when you're getting in her personal
business. Its her business how she got
pregnant and no one elses. Im not trying
to jump on the bandwagon but this is
getting blown way out of porportion and
it's stupid. Maybe she didnt expect to
have problems with erik when this
happened, the point is shes trying to
support her child, the benefits are there
so why not take the help?
Wheather she got pregnant on purpose or
not its nobodys business, she didnt ask
for anyone to attack her personal life so
that should be dropped.
Not trying to start a fight but maybe if I
wouldnt have opened my big mouth none of
this would have even be .S.A.I.D!!!
haha, so what does he poke
holes in condoms ahead of time, then he's
putting a already unwrapped condom on his
dink and you aren't wondering about it?
Or does he stop right before you are about
to, unwrap it, get a needle and poke a
hole? The "he got me pregnant without
me even knowing" thing is bullsh*t and you
know it.
It's the most retarded thing to sit around
argueing about since i'm already having a
baby and I got pregnant months ago and
nothing said now is going to change the
past.
The thing about drugs is how the hell will
you tell your kid not to start smoking
dope? The other thing about kids are
you are suppose to want to be a better
person because of them. I know i've
already changed completely and my baby
isn't even here. And once it is I
won't think about smoking pot because i'll
have a reason to straighten up in every
aspect of my life. Where the hell is
your self control? Are you going to be
okay with it when your son is doing the
stuff you do? The drugs, assulting
people for money, and going around with a
disgusting attitude?
I couldn't imagine having a beautiful
baby, something i'ld wanna live as good a
life for as I could because of, and then
just going and getting high everyday.
"gee son you were so important to me I was
high while taking care of you everyday."
"you were so important to me I did
something illegal every day because you
didn't make me want to be a better
person". If I learnt my mom was on
pot every day of her life i'ld be
disgusted and think I wasn't important
enough for her to change for.
You get what you give in life dalicia and
even though I made a mistake by being
careless because I thought I could afford
to risk it I know i'm a good person and I
will do fine and always try to do the
right thing. Can you say the same
about yourself? Can you go to bed at
night thinking "i was high all night while
my baby boy needed me" and be settled with
"well pot doesn't stop you from performing
daily tasks"... Do you consider the care
of your son a daily task? Like driving
a car, cleaning the kitchen?... Do you
feel like a good person after assulting
someone? Do you feel like you want
your son to be like you? I know i'm a
good person atleast. I know I would
never for one second think of myself while
I have another life depending on me and go
smoke up. Please dalicia, this thing
called karma, is going to come back to hit
you hard one day. I promise you, all
the negativity you put out and surround
yourself with will come back. And for
that I feel really sorry for
you.
it's easy actually, he wanted me to get
pregnant i'd come over to his house us
both knowing we'd have sex but i'd always
make sure he wore a condom. I'm not sure
how he did it but if I would of done it to
someone, I would of opened up the condom,
sliced the tip off and stuck it back in
the wrapper, us knowing we were going to
have sex is the reason it didn't dry up.
Condoms don't dry up fast, take one out
and let it sit.
Brayden will be whoever he wants to be.
He's going to do drugs regardless and all
I can do is tell him not to do it. Weed
isn't a big deal to me. I don't smoke it
24/7 and if brayden decided to try it or
do it, i'd rather him do it in our house
instead of out with his friends risking
the chance of getting into trouble with
anything.
Weed doesn't affect how I do things, it
doesn't affect me taking care of my son
because I am a very good mother, I know
that. I clean house, I work 2 jobs and I
go to school. I get high once a day and
still am able to do my normal daily
routine. So smoking doesn't affect me in
anyway possible.
I'm not saying your pregnancy was a
mistake, I was just asking why you lied
and you get all defensive and start
talking about my personal life. Ya know?
I don't care what you say about me and all
my friends love my attitude, online &
in real life if you don't like it that's
fine. You don't have to talk to me, but
when you type to me you can only expect me
to reply back.
Brayden has it good, from chris and I
both. He gets everything he needs and
even tons of stuff he don't. I live in a
nice 2 bedroom apartment and have 2 cars.
I'm not living off the state but am only
doing what I promised brayden when he was
in my belly, and that was to do everything
for him, that I couldn't for my
daughter.
Just because I have a strong opinion &
I voice it a lot doesn't make me a bad
person, neither does smoking pot. Weed is
a herb that you smoke, I don't even smoke
ciggs. It's something that I do to relax
when brayden is taking a nap, when i'm
done with school & work and when my
house is spotless.
I wasn't trying to start a fight with you,
and I wish you would of told me what you
thought of me when we were cool, how bad
of a parent I am for smoking weed and etc.
People seem to let it all out when
there's a misunderstanding. That's what
makes me different from you, I won't think
bad about someone and not tell them, i'll
tell them straight up and wont wait until
a fight comes in.
jesus dalicia I thought you
two were friends, whats this about turning
on her and telling her not to be a b*tch
and stuff when you're getting in her
personal business. Its her business how
she got pregnant and no one elses. Im
not trying to jump on the bandwagon but
this is getting blown way out of
porportion and it's stupid. Maybe she
didnt expect to have problems with erik
when this happened, the point is shes
trying to support her child, the benefits
are there so why not take the help?
Wheather she got pregnant on purpose or
not its nobodys business, she didnt ask
for anyone to attack her personal life so
that should be dropped.
Not trying to start a fight but maybe if I
wouldnt have opened my big mouth none of
this would have even be
.S.A.I.D!!!
are you kidding me? She started saying
things about my personal life first, all I
asked if she got pregnant on purpose, and
how the hell can you go off and say it's
not my business how she got pregnant when
you're the stupid b*tch who told me what
erik said "ohh tanya give me a little
baby" you have a problem with talking
about people behind their back.
She lied, thats my problem. She said she
didnt get pregnant on purpose when not
only did she tell you, but she wrote it on
another topic and erased it.
And actually, tanya and I agreed not to
argue anymore, we were never friends.