Need Advice On This.......... Posted: 07-21-06 22:08pm
Ok guys, I need some advice on dating.
I've been with my boyfriend for about
three years. We have two boys together.
I love him, but i'm not in love with him
anymore. And I have that. When we
first met, I was so in love with him, at
least I thought I was. But now things
have changed. For one, we really don't
talk that much anymore, sex, it's pretty
much been thrown out the window. I fight
with him all the time. I think its
stress that puts me in bad moods. All
together I have three kids, and i'm at
homw with them all day long, and it jsut
really stresses me out right now, because
I son't get any alone time just for
myself. And I take it out on him, which
he doesn't really deserve. I seems like
we just don't connect anymore. I've
actually thought about cheating on him,
but then the thought goes away, because
i'm not that kind of person, and I care
about him to much. Then there's the sex
thing, i've tried to talk to him about it,
and alls he says is that he'll do better
by us having it more. Which that doesn't
happen either. I just don't know what to
do anymore. I just could use someone
elses advice, if you guys have any
suggestions, please let me know, and sorry
this is along post, I have more to say,
but thats pretty much the important stuff
thanks :(
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 07-23-06 05:55am
Yea, this is the real
world.........Relationships start off
strong....Lust...Passion...Euphoria.......
...............................Than come
the
kids.....................Responsiblities
and stress equals overworked tired
parents.................
.............Ya gotta get out there, get a
family member or babysitter and then get a
bit of a life for yourself. You need to
just have fun, or take a
course.....Something to show to yourself
your more than just a stay at home mom(the
most rewarding yet stressful job there
is!!!). The kids will benefit from a
happier mom too and so will the
bf......And tone down the ragging on
him.....You said he doesn't deserve it and
I doubt it puts him in the mood......
.....And oh yeah, you may want to have a
chat with the bf......My guess his
feelings have changed too?!
You had something before maybe you can
reignite the fires! :)
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sherry24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Apr 2006 Posts: 188 Location: indiana
Posted: 07-23-06 08:00am
I don't think that his feelings have
changed, because if it did, then he
wouldn't show how much he loved me and say
things like that, if he didn't love me.
It's not like a b**** at him everyday,
it's like once or twice a week. I've
tried to talk to him, and he says things
will change, but they don't. I try
everything. He just comes home from
work, eats, and goes to sleep, leaving me
with the kids. I can't even get to take
a shower until like 9:00 at night, when
the kids go to sleep. I figure something
out.
