Ok so 3 girls flirted with me at the same
time and I didn't do much, I dont know how
to flirt back! Anyway been single all my
life and never been on a date yada
yada...I dont think about guys like I
think about girls but maybe i'm gay or
something? I don't do anything, period!
All my life i've hung around guys like
95% of the time and don't know what to do
around girls..Can't talk to them unless I
work with them (but even them it's
limited...) or have known them for a
while. I can't take this anymore, i'm
tired of being single when all I ever see
if everyone else having a woman and hell I
havn't had a friend in 10 years. Please
don't say "you dont have to date or have a
girlfriend to have a good time" because
obviously you've done it and had one and I
havn't and not helping. I really can't
take this pain for much longer, if I have
to go another year being like this plus
everything else that's happened in my life
(check my depression thread in depression
forums to know what else I mean) i'm going
to fuggin kill myself for the last time!
People don't like hanging out with me
either...For instance my job, been there a
year hung with 1 person and just 1 time
now he keeps just saying "we gotta hang
out 1 of these days" and he knows how i'm
feeling and said he keeps saying that but
does nothing so he's just playing games
with me obviously. I've had it! I'm
tired of problem after problem only to get
worse and worse and can't talk about my
problems to people because....Nobody wants
to even be around me! Back to the work
thing...A person who's been there a day
hangs around the staff after work and it's
been 1 maybe 2 days tops! I've been
there a year and...Nothing...They just use
and abuse me so to speak.
The more I think about it, the more I
realise i've been put in this world to
suffer alone and miserable, atleast poor
countrys have eachother, so then I take
whatever pain i'm in even if it lasts a
long time and just keep going through it
even if it hurts too much because, I have
to suffer, it's what i'm used to so it's
how I will live (like a kid who was always
beat by his dad..He was used to it and
thinks this is how it's like so he grows
up like that), and how I was born to live,
and i've been able to handle lots of pain
better then most people because of
it...Obviously if I wanted help I would
have already gotten it! I can't take
being alone anymore...It's too painfull!
I can't take it!!!!!!
Not sure if this is supposed to be
here..But this is being single..And
unhappy so I put it here.
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raziel1687
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2006 Posts: 33 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-22-06 23:23pm
First off, are you even attracted to
women?
And I see that you do attract women. So
that's not your problem
and then you say "i do nothing...." well
look, there's your problem. Fix it. Take
some class that deals in developing social
skills or something. If you don't do
anything, of course you are gonna be
single for like the rest of your life.
And it especially takes work to be in a
relationship, since it's hard enough for
you to start a relationship, it'll be even
harder to keep it going. So my advice is
do something and find a way to learn
social skills. Go to that guy who keeps
sayin ya'll should do somethin, and
suggest somethin to do.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-25-06 23:04pm
Dude, you might be used to it, but it
doesn't mean you can't change - it just
takes a while to change gears sometimes -
you just need to hang around more girls,
any girls, all girls, quit worrying about
sex, just socialize.
Use creative visualization, try dialogues
in your head - don't use them like a
script but you might think of things you
can say later on. Go in chat rooms, you
can talk there and not worry about making
faux pas.
I get a little weird myself when I don't
get enough social interaction for a while,
although on the plus side I sometimes go
on very productive creative jags during
those times - you just gotta go out and be
around people more and it'll get easier,
take classes or something, you need a
change for sure.
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Re: Question Posted: 09-25-06 17:31pm
down
wrote:
i'm going to fuggin kill
myself for the last time! .
