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Posted: 07-24-06 15:44pm

I have a serious problem. My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. I live in georgia, right by the florida border, but she lives all the way in iowa. She used to live in my town, but then her family moved up there. We told each other we will still try to keep it going. We talked almost every day on the phone or on msn messenger. Lately she started pressuring me into sex. I, being stupid, told her that I will do whatever she wants, because I loved her.

A few weeks ago, my girlfriend and I had sex while I was visiting her. I immediately regretted doing it and had a bad feeling. She called me up the other day telling me that she thinks she is pregnant. I have no idea what to do now. I am so nervous I can't sleep and I have no appetite. I am so worried about the future, about what I am going to do if she is pregnant. Right now, I am going into my senior year of high school and she is going to be a junior. I realize that this could mess up our lives, but she doesn't understand the gravity of the situation. So far only a few close friends know about it, but if my parents found out, they would kill me. My life as I know it would be over. I am worried about her too. I tried talking to her about what we are going to do, but she tells me that she isn't worried about that. She says that what she is worrying about is if I will stay or not. I don’t know what to do. Right now I am feeling a little bit used and betrayed because I feel she pressured me into having sex. I am trying to calm down, but I can't. All I have been thinking about is what is going to happen. I know that my parents cannot find out or my life is over. But at the same time, I know that the more I hide it, the more it will come out.


Our parents don't know each other personally, and hers didn't even really know we were going out, so I am not too worried about them telling my parents. My girlfriend told me that she will say that it is another guy. But even if they do not tell my parents, my girlfriend still has friends here in ga. Some of her friends' parents are friends with my parents, so I am worrying that if they find out she is pregnant, they will put one and one together and think that I am the father. Then they will tell their parents, and their parents will tell mine. I feel bad for thinking about leaving her now, but I do not see a way that I can still stay in contact without my parents finding out.


This whole situation has gotten me sick, I fear for our futures. I cannot stop thinking about what she is going to do. Having a baby in high school could be devastating. This is all I think about anymore, I am so scared right now. I am usually not the kind of guy that cries, but a few nights ago, I didn't sleep, I was crying in my bed for the entire night. I am so confused and do not know what to do. Please, if you have any suggestions on what we should do, please tell me.


Edit: I forgot to put this in there: she does not want an abortion, so that option is out.
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Posted: 07-24-06 16:17pm

When you had sex did you use a condom?
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Posted: 07-24-06 16:30pm

Yes, I used a condom. Oh, and we were virgins before this.
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Posted: 07-24-06 16:33pm

If you used a condom properly and checked afterwards to make sure there was no leaks then chances are she is not pregnant. I think you guys need to sit down and talk about your future.

Good luck with everything.
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a guy

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Posted: 07-24-06 16:50pm

I tried to talk about our future, but she doesn't want to talk about it. The main reason I am so worried is that she is showing many symptoms of pregnancy.
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Posted: 07-24-06 17:48pm

Hunny if you used a condom--properly..Then chances are she isnt pregnant

she is probably scared that you are going to leave her ...And she is trying to scare you--she is probably lying to you..Or else she is just scared being that it was her first time--all the symptoms are in her head..

Tell her how you feel and also let her know ...That if she is making this up ..Then you guys are done for sure..Because thats nothing to joke around about..
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a guy

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Posted: 07-24-06 18:07pm

I am really good at telling if she is lieing, and I don't think she is. We just finished talking and she is telling me that she is feeling better, so I guess I will just have to wait and see. I am trying to convince her to go to a clynic to be tested. She told me that she would try to go, but I don't know if she actually do it.
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a guy

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Posted: 07-24-06 19:03pm

I don't think it has been long enough for her to have missed her period. In the excitement, I forgot to even ask that. But she has told me that she has an upset stomach, her back hurts, her appetite has been off, she is having mood swings, and she has been unusually tired. She plays golf, so we are hoping she is sore from that or a cold. But the funny thing is that she never gets sick. She told me that she hasn't been sick at all over the past five years, so I am still worrying.
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Posted: 07-24-06 19:43pm

If she hasn't missed her period, she wouldn't be having symptoms like that. Wait until she misses her period before you start panicking.
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~*~Jillian~*~

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Posted: 07-24-06 19:47pm

Anyone can get sick at anytime...Regardless how long its been since they have been before--so maybe she is just coming down with something..

And other things that could be causing these so called "symptoms"...Is her stressing and thinking she is pregnant ...

Considering that it was both you guys "first time"..There is always that first thought of omg..What have I done..Is she pregnant? ...Or her thinking omg am I pregnant?...I remember thinking and panicking about the same thing...After my first time..So just relax and dont worry about it ...Because she is more than likely *not* pregnant..--just make sure next time you end up having sex ..You arent pressured into it..Only do it when you feel the time is right...
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a guy

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Posted: 07-24-06 19:58pm

Thanks a ton guys, I really appreciate the help. Now I just have to wait.
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~*~Jillian~*~

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Posted: 07-24-06 20:17pm

Your welcome...
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a guy

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Posted: 07-27-06 17:01pm

Thanks for all the help and encouragement, everyone. Turns out I was worrying for nothing, the test came out negative.
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Posted: 07-28-06 07:02am

Well the next time something like that happens you need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions and step up.You were thinking about leaving her because of it?Thats really lame
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