Dating After a Separation Posted: 08-01-06 12:57pm
I separated from my husband of 15 years
(20 years together) in july 2005. Our
seperation was mutual and amicable.
I met a wonderful man whom I love
tremendously. Once in a while out of the
blue, i'll call him by my husband's name.
Its not something I do consciously or
intentionally, his name just comes out of
my mouth and then I realize what i've
said. What puzzles me is that I don't
even think about my ex-husband.
My boyfriends makes a huge issue out of
this and I don't know what to do. Help?
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-01-06 13:21pm
After 15-20 years I can understand it
happening but a lot of people just do not
understand, maybe you don't use names. I
have done that before and I apologized and
they were still upset and I just said that
I was sorry that I am human and I make
mistakes and I do not want to fight over
it, if they were to turn it around they
might make the same mistakes, we might be
upset but if we love them we forgive them,
everyone makes mistakes, it is not as if
you are having a fling with your ex, like
you said you barely think of him except
that he is your ex and that you are happy
that you have him now(this other guy) and
their is no reason to be jealous or
insecure about it, you are sorry and it
was a mistake and that is about all you
can say about it! Maybe someone else has
some better answeres.
All the best to the both of you!
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uliteupyourlife
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Canada
Thanks Posted: 08-01-06 13:38pm
Thanks sandy. I feel the same way...Its
nice to see someone on the same page as
you.
