I have been with my fiancee' for 19
months. He has 2 children by another
lady that lives in our city. We just had
a son in march. My problem is that she
calls for things that do not pertain to
the children. She calls hi to pay her
bills. Instead of him telling her no, he
tells her he will try. Then he gives her
the money. I try to talk to him and let
him know that these things bother me. He
tells me that they are friends. I stress
to him that he can not take care of two
households. Her children come to my
house and destroy it. She does not want
me to say anything to them. He does not
support me at all when it comes to
disciplining his children. What should
I do?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-02-06 06:38am
Is he paying child support?If so this
should be enough and if it is not, it is
up to "them" to increase it. Like it or
not your fiancee has a past and your going
to have to learn how to deal with
it.............."all" the children need
their father. If my beau blew his kids
off to spend time with me, I would lose
all respect for him. Sorry it's a fact of
life.....Daddy makes kids....Daddy has got
to take care of kids....He .D.O.E.S. Have
two households.
Being friends is much better than being
enemies.....Although I do agree you should
get him to stand up for you in your own
home......He should be the one giving out
the rules but if you do occasionally(try
not to be overbearing, as they are
children and children can be messy and
disruptive) he should be on your side
completely.......Children can sense a
weakness in a relationship and will play
each of you against each
other......Why?Because they are children.
Lighten up, you can have fun with them
too, even if they are not your biological
children. :)
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drama29
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Clinton NC
Reply to Spirit. Its Not the Kids He Is Taking Care of Its Posted: 08-02-06 23:31pm
spirit
wrote:
is he paying child
support?If so this should be enough and if
it is not, it is up to "them" to increase
it. Like it or not your fiancee has a
past and your going to have to learn how
to deal with it.............."all" the
children need their father. If my beau
blew his kids off to spend time with me, I
would lose all respect for him. Sorry
it's a fact of life.....Daddy makes
kids....Daddy has got to take care of
kids....He .D.O.E.S. Have two
households.
Being friends is much better than being
enemies.....Although I do agree you should
get him to stand up for you in your own
home......He should be the one giving out
the rules but if you do occasionally(try
not to be overbearing, as they are
children and children can be messy and
disruptive) he should be on your side
completely.......Children can sense a
weakness in a relationship and will play
each of you against each
other......Why?Because they are children.
Lighten up, you can have fun with them
too, even if they are not your biological
children. :)
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