I am male, 19, very soon to be 20, and I
have no life. All I do is go to school
and work. I do good in school and
preparing to be an accountant, but I
wonder if it is all worth it if I have no
one to be with in life. I have very
little friends, never been to a party,
never dated, never done anything fun in
life. I have never socialized outside of
school. The only time I go out is to play
basketball on sundays with a couple of
people, but other than that I have no
life. By not having a life, I am
beginning to feel very lonely in life with
no friends and no girlfriend. I
constantly see people going out with
friends and girlfriends, while I just sit
at home hoping one day that I can be like
that, but sadly I dont think it will
happen. Maybe I was meant to be alone in
life. I know some part of me being lonely
is that I am shy and have a hard time
accepting my image. I am shy around
anyone but I totally lose it when I am
around girls. I can never have a
conversation with anyone because I
constantly think they are judging my
appearance. I am 6'3", skinny, wierd nose
becuase I broke it, still have some acne.
My wish is to have friends to go out with
and one day have a girlfriend in life, but
being 19 and never been kissed, never
dated, never gone out, I some how doubt
that I can ever be with someone. Out of
all of this, I was wondering if anyone has
any advice for me to help me get over my
appearance and for me to be able to talk
to people, especially girls. I just want
to be like a normal person my age and that
is to have fun. Thanks for anyone who
gives advice.
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 60
Posted: 08-03-06 21:28pm
You answered your own question. You said
you dont do stuff, dont socalize, etc so
what you need to do is do the reverse and
do the opposite of what you're doing. Btw
yes there are people who are ment to be
alone in life but you aren't one of them
so go out and do stuff and you will notice
a change.
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cupid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jul 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 08-09-06 16:35pm
Read this book "frog into princes" by
richard bandler. It will help you break
your patterns. Key is you need to apply
what you read.
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trying_to_cope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 31 Location: Seattle
Posted: 08-29-06 16:16pm
I have heard interesting things about that
bandler book but haven't read it. I
might go to the library today and track it
down. Another good book to help break
patterns is "been there, done that? Do
this!" by sam obitz. Www.Tao3.Com also a
good person to listen to on the radio is
roy masters, he gives interesting advice
on how to break patterns. His site is www.Fhu.Com
