Husband Gone 28 Days a Month..lonely Posted: 08-05-06 13:35pm
Can you relate? I mean I have been
married to my husband for almost 7 years
and I am sooo inlove with him... I miss
him like crazy, but I am allso missing
companionship in our relationship..
Sometimes I find myself wondering about
other men.. I know it would kill my
husband if I had ever had an affair.. But
the more he's gone the better men are
looking..It's getting harder and harder
for me to stay focused.. He works off
shore and I can go weeks without hearing
anything from him.. And I begin to wonder
what it is what I want..I try to never go
out to put myself in an awkard position..
But I did go to dinner with a girlfriend
and found myself talking to a handsome
man.. And becoming very aroused by him..
If it weren't for my girlfriend I would
have cheated... Is this normal.. How can
one person stay so faithful in a marriage
when the other partner is ever there.. I
want to be a faithful wife..I hate
cheaters but now I think I am beginning to
understand that side of the fence and it
scares me..I love myhusband soooo much but
I am so lonely for attention... Any
advice? Oh you can only use a vibrater so
many times till you actually need the real
thing. :twisted:
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Anbrowing
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Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Puerto Rico
Hi Posted: 08-05-06 16:10pm
I've been married for only a month but I
can defenetly tell you about lonlyness
there's a whole lot of that for soon sinse
my husband is working for the goverment.
Anyways,during our three year relationship
my husband made trips with hus dad to
japan or mexico and forgain places for a
month. I missed him sick! What I tried
to to was go out with my friends
"girl-friends" and just have some innocent
fun and keep myself ocupied doing
something I liked,painting,drawing or
making a little something for when he
comes back. It's about looking the
possitive side of it, some people are
together all the time and they really just
get sick of each other. It's healthy to
miss and have some time appart from each
other. Try to do things you couldn't do
with him because he didn't like or
something like that. Spend time preparing
something for when he comes back. It's a
great feeling to see your husband after a
while,it's like a dog waiting for his
master the whole day and when they see you
they literaly pee themselves of emotion.
I think that keeps a marriage strong. If
you ever thing about cheating think how
bad things will turn if he finds
out,because eventually will and all the
things you build together will come down
and you'll loose the man of your life.
Think of guilt.
Wish you look and look for stregth in god
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Lesa3201
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Joined: 05 Aug 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-05-06 17:57pm
Thanks for your reply.. I do keep myself
busy..I am a full time student ..Fulltime
mother to 3 kids..And work after school at
my youngest son's daycare.. I have plenty
to do to keep myself busy.. My husband
and I made promises we wouldn't go out
without each other.. But it's ok to go to
dinner with friends on occassion.. I do
not go out clubbing, dancing, anyplaces he
doesn't want me to go...I respect his
wishes on that.. We went to a nice
resturant my friend and I and I had a
glass of wine some one sent over a shot (
place was like a ruby tuesday's or an
apple bee's resturant that sells full
bar..I am not to big of a drinker but
after my second glass of wine and that
shot I found myself being very
flirtatious..I called it starved for
attention.. It was innocent..But I
flirted big time.. By the end of our
dinner I had his number and was really
thinking about calling...I opted not too
especially when my friend took the number
and ripped it up..Lol
my husband is gone 28 days and home 12
.. Sometimes I get to talk to him and
some times I go weeks without knowing
anything.. It's really lonely.... I mean
this has been going on 8 months now and I
miss him...
True our sex life has more passion,
and the lust for one another is extreme...
But maybe I just need to clear my mind of
unpure thoughts... And just
breathe...He'll be home wednesday.....
Breathe :p
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Lesa3201 Posted: 08-05-06 18:41pm
It almost sounds like you have the 7 year
itch (ha! Ha!) I know that a relationship
like that can be difficult as my ex was
gone 7 months out of each year and I could
not be with him, but he started cheating,
I hope like heck it does not start
happening to you or visa versa, I realise
that it is difficult being without the man
you love but just keep telling yourself
that how much fun it will be catching up.
I now have a man that does not cheat and
treats me great. I am glad that you did
not make the mistake that you would have
probably would have regretted, I know that
their was a time or two that I was tempted
too, we are only human!
All the best to you and yours!
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Anbrowing
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Puerto Rico
You're Welcome Posted: 08-05-06 21:59pm
There it goes the positive side! The
passion that you guys have when you get
back together. So many other couples wish
to have that spice in their relationship.
Stay away from the drinks. That's the
easiest way to make mistakes. Beleive me.
Really,really don't ever do that again.
Thank god you had someone there to prevent
anything.
