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yadig4th
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Why Can't I Have An Orgasim??!!
Posted: 08-12-06 17:05pm
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:cry: hi, I am 24 and I have been having
sex since I was 18. I have had 2 sex
partners, one my ex and the other is my
current boyfriend. Ever since I have been
having sex I have not had an orgasim, well
not sure. I have a child so I guess I
have had at least one orgasim before. My
problem is that I only get arroused when
my partner has oral sex with me, when we
have sex I try to stay in the mood but I
can't because the feeling goes away and it
has always been like that. When I feel
like i'm about to have an orgasim it never
comes out. My vagina is always wet during
sex but I can't have an orgasim. Can you
please help me. Tell me what I should do,
I have thought about buying some sexual
enhancements pills but i'm not sure that's
the right thing to do. How can I have a
real oragsim and continue to have them
often.
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Shelly22
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Posted: 08-12-06 17:41pm
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Oh sweety don't worry! You're perfectly
normal you know! I can't have an orgasm
unless I do it myself. Don't tell my
hubby ;) lol and actually just because you
have had a baby doesn't mean you have had
an orgasm. The orgasm assists in
conception for it lowers the vaginal wall
to the well of semin, once the male has
ejaculated. But it isn't a necessary
step in the process. Try talking to
your husband about it, and try different
ways and techniques of have intercourse.
Use toy's and other such things to assist
as well. Just promise your self to not
do anything that makes you uneasy, or that
doesn't feel right. And trust me when
you have an orgasm... You'll know!
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Kgirl16
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Posted: 08-15-06 23:17pm
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Vibrator.
No joke.
Get him to use it on you, while performing
oral sex.
Tip of the day ;)
worked for me!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-15-06 23:40pm
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Just a question... Why did you say "i
have a child so I guess i've had an orgasm
before"?
I really hope you don't think that getting
pregnant has anything to do with an
orgasm... A lot of women get pregnant
without orgasms. The two have nothing to
do with each other.
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Emma2
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Re: Why Can't I Have An Orgasim??!!
Posted: 08-18-06 13:22pm
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| yadig4th
wrote: | | :cry: hi, I am 24 and I
have been having sex since I was 18. I
have had 2 sex partners, one my ex and the
other is my current boyfriend. Ever
since I have been having sex I have not
had an orgasim, well not sure. I have a
child so I guess I have had at least one
orgasim before. My problem is that I
only get arroused when my partner has oral
sex with me, when we have sex I try to
stay in the mood but I can't because the
feeling goes away and it has always been
like that. When I feel like i'm about to
have an orgasim it never comes out. My
vagina is always wet during sex but I
can't have an orgasim. Can you please
help me. Tell me what I should do, I
have thought about buying some sexual
enhancements pills but i'm not sure that's
the right thing to do. How can I have
a real oragsim and continue to have them
often. |
many women cant achieve orgasm while
peneration but rather just oral sex. You
need to find the right position in order
to stimulate your clitoris druing
intercourse. And by the way you comment
about having at least one orgasm because
you have a child doesnt make any sense.
You do >n.O.T. Need to have an orgasm
to become pregnant...If that was the case
no one would ever be pregnant and rape
victims would have orgasmed? Lol sorry
that was just funny!
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yadig4th
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Re: Why Can't I Have An Orgasm??!!
Posted: 08-18-06 21:18pm
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| yadig4th
wrote: | | :cry: hi, I am 24 and I
have been having sex since I was 18. I
have had 2 sex partners, one my ex and the
other is my current boyfriend. Ever
since I have been having sex I have not
had an orgasm, well i'm not sure. My
problem is that I only get arroused when
my partner has oral sex with me, when we
have sex I try to stay in the mood but I
can't because the feeling goes away and it
has always been like that. When I feel
like i'm about to have an orgasm it never
comes out. My vagina is always wet
during sex but I can't have an orgasm.
Can you please help me. Tell me what I
should do, I have thought about buying
some sexual enhancements pills but i'm not
sure that's the right thing to do. How
can I have a real oragsm and continue to
have them often. |
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sweetaspie555
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I Can't Orgasim And I Have Tired Everything
Posted: 08-21-06 12:27pm
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I have had two different partners both
serious boyfriends and neither ever made
me orgasim. My current boyfriend and I
have tried everything. Oral doesn't do,
masturbation, or intercourse. We have
even tried toys. And it's not that sex
doesn't feel good. I am always turned on
but I just never reach the peak. Is there
something I should know about?
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TreatYourBodyRight`
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It's All In the Mind!
Posted: 08-21-06 12:38pm
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I promise you it is all in your head. You
are thinking about it way too much. I
used to do the same thing. I always had
"false" orgasims, until I finally decided
to tell my husband the truth. Next thing
you know, I was done worrying about trying
to have one and started having them! You
have to be in the mood. I promise, if you
quit worrying so much it will happen!
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nick justice
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I Can't Either
Posted: 10-14-07 13:20pm
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I am 25. I have had 3 partners. The first
a man. the next two women. I have never
had an orgasm and I don't know what is
wrong with me. My partner is completely
upset that she can not make me orgasm. To
the point where she does not even want to
try anymore for the disapointment of it.
It is seriously hurting our relationship.
I also bleed when I have sex. I have been
to doctors and they have no explanation.
I don't know what to do. I don't know what
is wrong with me. Please help....
Also, she thinks i am to uptight. Could
that be? I am as relaxed as i can be i
think...
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-14-07 13:31pm
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Nick- you're a woman, right? I just wanted
to make sure, the name threw me off.
You do need to be relaxed and let it
happen. It might take a while for you to
figure out what works for you- try using
different positions, toys, methods, see
what works. If you bleed, that's fairly
common from not using lube or simply
scratching (fingernails are more harmful
than they look!)
If NOTHING is working, it is possible that
there could be a mental or physical cause.
It might help to see a sex therapist.
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nick justice
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Nick Again
Posted: 10-14-07 13:51pm
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Yes. definatly a woman. my partner is
upset about this and says she has never
had a problem before. she is definatly
more experienced than me and very
frustrated. Any hints on how to talk to
her about this so that she will be willing
to try these other things. I think she
takes it kind of personal that she can't
make me orgasm. Also even when I touch
myself I don't think it feels like it
should. I guess I am not very sensitive.
Is there anything I can do to get more
sensation?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-14-07 14:09pm
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Try to go about it in the way that you are
asking for her help- since she is
experienced, and a woman, (what a great
situation to be in!) she is in a great
position to help you get to know your body
and help you learn what works.
But if you feel that you really have less
sensation than you should, you should see
your doctor/sex therapist.
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bobanis
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Difficulty Having An Orgasm
Posted: 12-18-07 20:22pm
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I recently got involved with another woman
(woman on woman) and neither of us have
been so sexually stimulated - it's so
intense, the kissing, the touching, the
oral sex...but neither of us can have an
orgasm w/o a vibrator (which has even
become difficult). WHY?? it make no
sense! Is it possible that we
overstimulate each other???
Help
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-18-07 21:02pm
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Some women just can't have orgasm without
vibrators.
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bobanis
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Posted: 12-18-07 21:26pm
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I know that some women do require a
vibrator, but it is not typical for either
of us --- requirring a vibrator. And it's
getting worse - difficult even with a
vibrator.
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Aunt WeeWee
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Posted: 12-19-07 14:31pm
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Jus relax & don't think bout it. Try
diff. positions. Me on top works best 4
me. U may need 2 B N a position where U or
him can stimulate ur clit. I also noticed
when my bf and I do a lot of 4play B4, I
orgasm more, and it's more intense.
Hope I was sum help!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!
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