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tex21

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Joined: 13 Aug 2006
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Posted: 08-13-06 08:07am

Right i'll start from the beginning. I am being told by friends and family that I should seek medical help but because it's not a physical problem I feel like a total fool seeing a doctor so I came here for advice. I ll give you a bit on my background.



In december 2005 I got married to my girlfriend of 8 years should be the greatest day of my life right - wrong three days beforehand she gets a letter that she has cancerous cells and needed to go back to hospital. We get married, two weeks later I lose my job at the railway agency it's two late to sign on before christmas and I end up with no money for my kids for christmas. The day before new years eve I collapse and I am rushed into hospital with ruptured blood vessels in my left lung and it had filled up with blood 24 hours more and I would have been dead they take me down for a operation on the tuesday and tell me it will be a routine operation and should take 2 hours but when I wake up its 24hours later I am in intensive care and I can't move tubes all hanging out of me (i am still having nightmares about this to this day) I find out that my oesophagus had ruptured and was leaking poison into my body and I had crack two ribs. I was kept in hospital for three weeks. I was told that I couldn't do my beloved railway work. And I should look at another career ever since this operation I can't sleep properly I keep having nasty flash backs. Then to top this all of because of my difficulty finding work I am being threatened of losing my house and on the 5 august my birthday my uncle who was more like a farther figure to me died of pancreas cancer people are telling me I should seek help all I wish I could do is lay down and die I am sick and tired of fighting and I don't think i’ve got any fight in me anymore. What should I do? Ive gone from a happy family man to a burnt out empty shell. What doctor would want to listen to me.
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Spirit

Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006
Posts: 387
Location: Canada

Posted: 08-13-06 08:34am

Right, you've had a run of bad luck.....It is not the end of the world.....Although sometimes it seems it would be easier to "check out". Remember you got the girlfriend and your children to consider.......Treat the family doc as a middle man, go in there with the intention of seeking the help that you really need. Your family gp knows little about the help that you need but can refer you to someone who hopefully help you. If not, no one says your stuck with this person....Keep looking.............Life is tough for most of us....Although some seem to sail thru it with out a care in the world......For the most part, horrible things can happen and it's up to us to turn the tides in our favour......................Get a plan of action into effect, otherwise your just letting life happen to you........I wish you well and know if you hang in there...It will get better....Tyfa.....Turn your fate around. :)
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