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K Girls Im Back In the Game Posted: 08-14-06 13:05pm
Well I sat hubby down and told him he has
6 months to enlighten me/us getting help
as a family unit not just him, he agreed
and for two days now has been beyond
exceptional.
He brought me to dinner and we talked
before going to bed, funny I guess he
didnt know how I felt although I kept
telling him and telling him cause I would
get angry. Well deal number one was his
friend is not allowed here till he cleans
up his act and we are not to have anyone
over for two months, instead we will be a
family unit going out all as a family.
Deal number two no more of this I dont
want to cuddle I dont mean to sound harsh
but he only wanted to do stuff when it
benefitted him and I said sorry everytime
you say no I will remind you of our talk
to the point of me possibly leaving.
As for the kids/cleaning no more of me
doing everything he is on parental and im
up for promotion so I need my energy to
put 120% to get to a higher position which
is withing arms reach. Oh and he will
be getting fixed he is not the one who is
going to make the choice for us to have
more children we will make that together
and I think 2 is enough.
He will raise the kids in his culture
during the day, I will speak french to
them during the night and during the
weekend we will speak both. No more of
the name calling the kids dont need to see
it and I will kick his @ss out my door,
yes we all get upset but >h.F that was
enough.
So we're on a good start lets hope it
stays that way just a quick update
btw im feeling lucky today (im buying a
ticket lol)
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-14-06 13:22pm
I'm glad things are going good for the
time being! I hope it stays this way. So
are you totally forgetting the other guy?
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 08-14-06 15:54pm
I hope everything stays happy and works
out. Altho I dont think its fair to make
him get fixed before you decide if its
gunna work because if its better for both
of you to move on he might decide he wants
more with whoever he might get with. Ya
know?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-15-06 06:02am
macysmama
wrote:
i hope everything stays
happy and works out. Altho I dont think
its fair to make him get fixed before you
decide if its gunna work because if its
better for both of you to move on he might
decide he wants more with whoever he might
get with. Ya
know?
i agree
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8004 Location: Missouri, United States
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Posted: 08-15-06 07:54am
Me too, I think if you're gonna have him
get fixed you should too. Thats only fair
if he can't have kids you can't either,
right?
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 08-15-06 12:19pm
Well hopefully you guys can work through
things...I know that we arent in your
shoes..And dont know exactly how you
feel..But him being your childrens father
...There is always going to be that
connection--although if you arent happy
then there is no need to live that way
..Because your children can tell when
mommie isnt happy ...Just take time and
think through things ...Because the last
thing you want to do is jump into
something and then regret it..--i dont
think you are exactly"in love" with this
other guy from your work ...I think you
are just confused and are needing someone
to comfort you the way your husband doesnt
..And this other guy is making you feel
comfortable ...Therefore he is your
shoulder to lean on and that someone to
talk to when you need to vent..Who wouldnt
want that:)...But jess dont listen or do
what someone else tells you to do
..Because only you can make you
happy...--do what your heart tells you
..Good luck..And we are all here if ya
need us ;)
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diamondsz
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Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3173 Location: , Candyland-Canada
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Posted: 08-16-06 12:31pm
melissa_20
wrote:
macysmama
wrote:
i hope everything stays
happy and works out. Altho I dont think
its fair to make him get fixed before you
decide if its gunna work because if its
better for both of you to move on he might
decide he wants more with whoever he might
get with. Ya
know?
i agree
i need 4 weeks recovery time if I do that,
I would have to give blood before hand
cause im low on iron and platelets he made
the descion to go im not forcing it I just
want him to get it done earlier...
Anyways past few days have gotten better
he wakes up when I get home and we chat I
love it...
Jill you are so right about you comment
its more of I had someone strong to fall
on he has a girlfriend but we flirt all
the time but I think we kinda get along so
well that sometimes we think we want each
other and we dont usually only like that
when there is trouble in one of our
relationships.
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