I Really Need Some Advices! Posted: 08-16-06 15:54pm
Hi everyone, I have married to my husband
for 2 years now, after 1 1/2 years of
dating. I was pregnant when we got
married. My son is now 1 and 1/2 years
old. Our marriage didn't have a good
start since I was pregnant, so we didn't
have a honeymoon, lots of sex, and all of
that. He always try to be a good
husband, because he said he did not want
our marriage to end in divorce like his
parents'. He never gets mad at me, he
tries to do nice stuffs. We did not have
a lot of sex since we got married, because
he has been so busy with work. He is
always tired when we go to bed, and
lately, our sex life has been improved:
we have sex once a week on weekend. I
totally understand his situation. A few
months ago, I found out that he looked at
porn on the internet. I was very upset,
so I confronted him. I made him promise
not to do it again, or I will be very sad.
And he did promised. Until this
morning, I checked his email account, and
I saw some evidence of him having an
account on some sex websites. Besides, I
also found out that he has opened a po box
at a post office close to his work.
Sometimes I was kidding about buying a sex
movie so we can watch together. He
always denies, and says that he is not
interested, and sex movies are bad for
you.... I am very confused and upset
right now about two things: he is
watching porn even though he promised, and
why did he have a separate po box?
Everyone, please tell me if this is normal
for a guy to do? I don't know much about
guys, so I need some advices, please!
Should I confront him this time, or should
I just keep it to myself? I am afraid if
I confront him, then he will be more
careful about it next time, because
apparently he didn't do what he promised.
What should I do? Is it ok for me to
feel angry at him? Thanks.
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Fairy Godmother
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Hi Posted: 08-16-06 16:08pm
Yes, of course you should be
angry..........How can you trust someone
who has broken their promise? How can you
trust someone who has lied to you and
makes all kinds of excuses to cover their
own ass? Relationships are based on trust
and when one partner doesn't hold up their
end of the bargain, what can you base that
relationship on? Can you get a key to his
other mailbox? Not sure why women put up
with men like this, but they do....And the
drama goes on......Not here, I say, life
is too short to be taken advantage
of.........If this man is not going to be
honest and open then tell him to hit the
highway. Its so obvious that he is hiding
things from you.........
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lyndsey2000
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Joined: 16 Aug 2006 Posts: 4 Location: CA
Posted: 08-16-06 16:15pm
Since I just discovered it this morning,
so I am still in shock. I have no idea
where he puts his key or any stuff that he
didn't want me to see. This is not the
first time he lies to me. I know for
fact that he hides a lot of stuffs from
me, but I try to be understandable,
because he is a very quiet, and nice
person. So I dont' know where I should
stand this time. Thanks for your advice.
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Fairy Godmother
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Stand On Your Own Two Feet! Posted: 08-16-06 17:56pm
Stand up for yourself and your son. This
is not going to stop. The lies and
deception will only get worse.......... I
would confront him with what you have
found out. Be forwarned that he will be
on the defense and brace yourself, you
will hear every excuse in the
book...........Could you not go to the
post office, ask hte postmaster to please
get your mail, your husband forgot to give
you the key? Not sure if they will give
you the mail. You can bet your ass, i'd
be looking for that key. Its called
prowling. Its bout hte only way you will
find out the honesty truth, because he
sure as hell isn't gonna tell
you............ You can not continue to
live like this. It will eat away at
you////////////
