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a_hammett
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Previous Post My 14 Year Old Daughter Is Pregnant
Posted: 08-16-06 18:31pm
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Well its been a few weeks since ive been
own her. Alot of people on her where very
negative to my post a few where very
supportive. My daughter is now 26 weeks
pregnant. The father is still giving us
heck. Monday night he came to my house
just walked in uninvited, it scared me and
I screamed. Well he sat on the couch and
was harrasing her about the babys last
name. He was constantly adrgueing with
her the whole time about it. He also gave
her $5 toward $20 dollars that he borrowed
from her a while back. Well we all sat
down to eat and he gets up and just walks
out and slams the front door. I told my
daughter he wasnt coming back tonight.
Well my sis n law and her husband where
having supper with us that evening. After
supper my sis nlaw and my daughter ran to
the store. While we where gone the boy
came back to my house my brother n law on
my front porch tells him my daughet isint
here right now and he responds back im not
here to see her im her to get my money.
He shoves his way by him in my house and
runs to my daughters room to get the money
and runs right back out the door. He ran
up our road and hid out in our woods.
When we pulled up my oldest son came
running out of the house and told us what
just happened. I begin to yell and say im
so tired of his crap and he always keeping
u upset. Tommorrow I will file a
restaining order. Well he heared me and
came out yelling and got up in my face and
said I heared everything u just said. And
I said ive told u before and I mean it. I
told him to get away from my house and
yard and go home, he swung his arm back to
hit me, and when he did my brother n law
stepped in. The boy was very angry and
said u want a piece of me, I will kill u u
son of a b. He then picked up a huge rock
from my flower bed and was going to throw
it at him. I then yelled for my son to
call the police because he would not
leave. He was gone of course by the time
they got there. They said they could go
to where he was staying and tell him he
couldnt come back or we would just call
the police back and have him picked up for
tresspasssing. I told the police
everything that had been going on for the
past few months and they said they could
only do something about what is going on
now not the past. They told me I would
have a hard time getting a restaining
order on him at this time cause I never
called anything in before. They told me
to call in every time he did something so
it would be documenented and then we could
get a restaining order against him. They
told us it was only going to get worse if
we didnt do something now. My daughter is
over him totally but he still tries to
worm his way back in and keep her all
worked up. He told her this past weekend
he had been smoking ice and that he had
been up several days. He has always had a
bad side to him but ive never seen him
loose it that bad before. It is almost
like he has 2 different personalitys. I
know after dna he is going to get
visitation rights and it scare me and my
daughter really bad that he will be alone
with the child. But what can we do. We
are lost puppe in this and have know where
to turn if only I had of had heart a while
back to call the police on him and have
evrything documenetd. Im just scared of
him being alone with the baby. Hes even
threatend my daughter that he was going to
take her baby away after she has it.
Rrrrrrrrrr!!!!! This is a huge mess and
it is tearing me to pieces.
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Posted: 08-16-06 19:20pm
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Gosh im sorry to hear about that...Just
keep calling the police when he does these
things and make people watch him and see
what all he is doing like drugs and things
like that and take them to court with you
and use all that against him ...You can
prove with all that ...That he is unfit
and they will not allow him
visitations..Is they do end up giving him
visitation rights they will probably be
supervised..And limited
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sandyallen
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Posted: 08-16-06 19:40pm
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Tell the policeman everything! That he is
walking in your house taking things, doing
drugs, they migh bust him, gee wouldn't
that be great!
The best to you all!
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Ingi
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Posted: 08-17-06 00:28am
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Actually, that wasn't true, what that
police man said to you. You can file a
restraining order based on what you have
written here. The threats, walking into
your house uninvited, attempting to
assault both you and your brother inlaw.
Those things are called harrassment and it
is illegal. Go to the court house, fill
out the paper and file the papers. The
'worst' a judge will say is no. But a
judge will more than likely agree with
it.
Call the police every single time he shows
up. You have asked him not to, so make
sure to make a trail of evidence to his
harrassment (whether you do the
restraining order or not).
There is no way any family court judge
would let someone who is violent and does
drugs take a child for visitation. But it
will be up to you to make sure all this is
documented!
Good luck.
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pixie2007
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Posted: 08-17-06 03:10am
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You have witnesses to his anger issues, so
if taken to court he would more than
likely have to be supervised during
visitation. Also, if there is speculation
that he is a druggie, he should have to
take mandatory urine screens to show
whether he is a fit father or not. By
the sound of it, he's not....I'm having a
hard time dealing with my ex right now in
a somewhat similar situation. My ex will
never be granted rights because he has so
much against him that he would be wasting
his time. He kicked my car in when I
left him....Anyone who acts out like that
should not be within 100 feet of a
pregnant woman or a child. Plus....Screw
his last name and his demand for his money
back from a pregnant girl. If he took
this to court he'd have to pay so much for
than $5 at a time, and there would be no
demanding it back! I wouldn't worry
about him...He seems like a dumb kid. I
wouldn't worry about it, he needs to stay
away from your daughter though because she
doesn't need to deal with that stress.
He's revealed his true colors right before
you and its your word over his!
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a_hammett
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Posted: 08-17-06 07:53am
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Thank all of you for your support. I pray
that we are on the right track now. Im
hopeing that this will open his parents
eyes and get him the help that he needs
before its too late. Its like he has a
split personality or something .
Sometimes hes a very sweet kid but then
his anger turns him into a monster. Ive
never in my life seen anything like this.
I have started writing eveything down. So
far he hasnt came back and he hasnt even
tried contacting my daughter by phone.
Thanks again. I will keep u all updated.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 08:08am
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Why do you keep letting him in your house
as if it were a shopping mall? Do you not
lock your doors? I would have called the
cops at that every moment and not let him
go into my house and start rumaging
through my property. Get rid of this
loser once and for all, he's a cancer in
your home and it wil only get worse!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-17-06 10:21am
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I agree with everyone else,you already
have so much against him you could go fill
out the paper work for a resttraining
order right now.You shouldn't have to wait
until he coms back and does something
else.What if he does something worss next
time?
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chrissy721
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Posted: 08-17-06 12:07pm
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She shouldn't have to lock her doors. If
they ask him to stay out, he should
respect that and stay the hell out. Yea,
what you've said here is plenty to get a
restraining order. I got one for a guy
that used to call me all the time and show
up at my work. I didn't have to prove
that he did it or anything. I did have
people there to back me up though
(witnesses) now he can't come within 1000
feet of me.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 12:09pm
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I dont know where you all live but my door
is always locked. We dont live in the
50's anymore and doors stay locked in my
world.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-17-06 12:17pm
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| emma2
wrote: | | i dont know where you all
live but my door is always locked. We
dont live in the 50's anymore and doors
stay locked in my
world. |
uh huh,thats what i'm
saying.Just cause we shouldn't have to
lock our doors doesn't mean we
shouldn't.Yeah,they should have the
respect to stay out but they don't so you
have to prevent them from coming in
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chrissy721
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Posted: 08-17-06 13:17pm
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I live in amish country. Guess it's not
as important here. We do lock our doors,
but don't have to. Most ppl here don't.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 13:31pm
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| chrissy721
wrote: | | i live in amish country.
Guess it's not as important here. We do
lock our doors, but don't have to. Most
ppl here don't. |
in big cities and subarbs everyone locks
their doors and when you dont your a freak
for not doing it.....Scary stuff happens
in the cities and I could never dream of
leaving my door unlocked..But that isnt
the point. The point is why is he allowed
to enter the home as if he was a welcome
guest .....As if he has rights to do
whatever he pleases. No one enters my
home without asking me 1st and if they do
the cops are immediately called
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 08-17-06 13:37pm
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I don't know, something here doesn't quite
ring true.... Anyway, the police are
incorrect, you do not need documentation
before you can file a restraining order.
I have one against a relative that broke
into my house and attacked me. I didn't
even file a report once I got rid of him I
went directly to the night court got an
emergency restraining order that lasted me
through the weekend and then on monday
morning went to the family court and got a
regular restraining order. They never
asked me for documentation or witnesses.
However documentation of these incidents
will be useful in building a case against
him to deny him custody or visitation of
the child.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-17-06 13:47pm
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Thats exactly the way it works here in
canada. You cant get a restraining order
for past things that were never reported
but only for that specific incident.
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a_hammett
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Posted: 08-17-06 14:08pm
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I live in the country and all my relatives
live all around me. I have another 8 year
old and a 14 year old son. They are
always in and out of the house . I do
lock my doors in the evening when everyone
is in for the day. Its hard to keep them
locked with the kids going in and out.
But since all this has happened I keep my
side doors and front door locked and I am
only allowing my sons to play in the back
yard right now. Just for precations. So
they have to come in and out of the back.
We also had our alarm system connected
back up. Its an old one so its not being
monitered right now. We are looking into
a new company and hopefully will have that
set up soon. But for right now if anyone
enters my house the alarm will still sound
and my family can here me and will be
checking on us cause they all know whats
going on. So far he hasnt done anything
since he has been caught for trespassing,
but if he does I will deffinetly be going
to get a restraining order. I am in the
process of writing everything down, but
its hard for me to remeber the dates and
times everything occured.
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iL0VEPiNK_08
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Re: Previous Post My 14 Year Old Daughter Is Pregnant
Posted: 09-11-06 21:11pm
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| a_hammett
wrote: | | well its been a few weeks
since ive been own her. Alot of people
on her where very negative to my post a
few where very supportive. My daughter
is now 26 weeks pregnant. The father is
still giving us heck. Monday night he
came to my house just walked in uninvited,
it scared me and I screamed. Well he sat
on the couch and was harrasing her about
the babys last name. He was constantly
adrgueing with her the whole time about
it. He also gave her $5 toward $20
dollars that he borrowed from her a while
back. Well we all sat down to eat and he
gets up and just walks out and slams the
front door. I told my daughter he wasnt
coming back tonight. Well my sis n law
and her husband where having supper with
us that evening. After supper my sis
nlaw and my daughter ran to the store.
While we where gone the boy came back to
my house my brother n law on my front
porch tells him my daughet isint here
right now and he responds back im not here
to see her im her to get my money. He
shoves his way by him in my house and runs
to my daughters room to get the money and
runs right back out the door. He ran up
our road and hid out in our woods. When
we pulled up my oldest son came running
out of the house and told us what just
happened. I begin to yell and say im so
tired of his crap and he always keeping u
upset. Tommorrow I will file a
restaining order. Well he heared me and
came out yelling and got up in my face and
said I heared everything u just said.
And I said ive told u before and I mean
it. I told him to get away from my house
and yard and go home, he swung his arm
back to hit me, and when he did my brother
n law stepped in. The boy was very angry
and said u want a piece of me, I will kill
u u son of a b. He then picked up a huge
rock from my flower bed and was going to
throw it at him. I then yelled for my
son to call the police because he would
not leave. He was gone of course by the
time they got there. They said they
could go to where he was staying and tell
him he couldnt come back or we would just
call the police back and have him picked
up for tresspasssing. I told the police
everything that had been going on for the
past few months and they said they could
only do something about what is going on
now not the past. They told me I would
have a hard time getting a restaining
order on him at this time cause I never
called anything in before. They told me
to call in every time he did something so
it would be documenented and then we could
get a restaining order against him. They
told us it was only going to get worse if
we didnt do something now. My daughter
is over him totally but he still tries to
worm his way back in and keep her all
worked up. He told her this past weekend
he had been smoking ice and that he had
been up several days. He has always had
a bad side to him but ive never seen him
loose it that bad before. It is almost
like he has 2 different personalitys. I
know after dna he is going to get
visitation rights and it scare me and my
daughter really bad that he will be alone
with the child. But what can we do. We
are lost puppe in this and have know where
to turn if only I had of had heart a while
back to call the police on him and have
evrything documenetd. Im just scared of
him being alone with the baby. Hes even
threatend my daughter that he was going to
take her baby away after she has it.
Rrrrrrrrrr!!!!! This is a huge mess and
it is tearing me to
pieces. |
i have a reply... Im sixteen and my
fiances mom is ignorant and keeps saying
the baby is not his... So she took me and
my mom to court and got a injuction which
kept us apart for about a week then we
broke it... Then the courts dropped it...
Just take it to a county attorney or
civil court... If this is what you want
and your daughter wants it should be
granted!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-05-06 14:26pm
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Do not give that child his last name...
She will regret ti forever trust me it
makes things so hard and gives him so many
rights he doesnt deserve
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Lilypad
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Posted: 10-17-06 22:49pm
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Wow what a story!! What a nightmare! I
pretty much agree with everybody so far.
Get that restraining order asap or at
least try. Lock those doors and be on
your guard, this guy is unstable.
I wish you all the best and hopefully
someday this will be all behind you.
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