Being Single Stinks! Why Is It Hard to Get a Gf? Posted: 08-19-06 14:51pm
Why is getting a gf so hard to get?
I am 28 yrs old, living in the suburbs of
chicago and still today I haven’t had a
girlfriend and still haven’t had my
first kiss. I never even had a friend
that was a girl. Females don’t find any
attraction in me at all or never have any
interest in me or never given me a chance.
I don’t know why but I wish I knew.
Since last year I have been out with a few
girls only once and never been able to go
out with them again. They just lost
interest in me. I call them they don’t
pick up or I leave a message and they
don’t respond back to. That tells me
that they are not interested in me so I
give up on them. When I went out with
them, I thought they had a good time. We
had good food, talked, and laughed then
after that never was able to go out with
them again. I also got ditched a few
times when I went out with a few girls,
which really hurt. When I went out with
this one girl to the movies, she was
really nice and we had many things in
common and I though we will have a good
time. After the movie started she told
me she’s going to get some popcorn and
after time went by like 20 mins, I was
wondering what’s taking so long? Then
my phone vibrated and I got a text message
saying “sorry, I didn’t know you were
that short” I just felt sick after that.
I don’t get why in life it’s so hard
to get a gf? In the movie and tv shows
you see guys getting girls so easy and
girls smiling and approaching guys, what
can’t this happen to me in my life?
I am very honest, caring, fun loving,
sweet, active and very out going person; I
am not lazy at all! I am in good
physical shape. I can run the mile under
5 minutes and I workout everyday. I play
sports; the main sport I play is ice
hockey. I would think being in good
shape and working out everyday and even
playing hockey would at least attract one
female and find me somewhat interesting
but it hasn’t. I have been running and
playing hockey since I was small and no
females every approach me or at least say
a comment to me of my progress especially
if I win many big games.
I do go out; I don’t sit in the house
all day. I do go stores, book stores,
restaurants and places to get food, car
shows, and the park. I am not a big bar
person or club person at all, just never
was. I do go once in awhile but not a
lot. I can’t stand the smoke! It
makes my eyes itchy and red. If it
wasn’t for the smoke it would be so
awesome. Also I am not too much into
drinking but I do drink once in awhile but
not a lot. I have heard many people
having success with online dating so I
tried several online dating websites and I
usually get no responses back. I got a
few responses but somewhere fake profiles
and a few asked a few questions and I
responded back and never heard back again.
Some of these dating sites my profile
has been viewed over 1000 times and no
responses or emails back from any females.
In my opinion that’s alot of views!
Now I am trying craigslist personals, but
no luck yet. I find so many females with
a perfect match of interests as me, if I
find a female with the same interests in
me I respond and I introduce my self, I
tell what I enjoy doing my interests and
just simple stuff like that. And I send
it with my picture and no response back.
It’s so hard to believe that no females
out of a thousand who viewed my profile
has no interest in me at all. I don’t
understand? I am also on hotornot and my
rating is below average, it’s a 4.5,
even on that website I can’t get any
responses or doublematches. I am also
on myspace and I have over 100 girls as
friends and when I email them many of them
don’t respond back to me. I do get
some comments but it doesn’t go further
as I want to so I can’t at least get to
know them. I have notice many times if I
see a girl walking like in a store or
anywhere and I try to make eye contact and
smile they always never look me into the
eye, they just put there head down and
just walk away without looking at me,
this I really have notice alot happening.
I really think my problem of why I never
had a gf yet is my height and looks. I
have been told many times by girls why
they don’t want to go out with me, many
said I am to short and I have no physical
attraction. I have read so many online
profiles and majority of the women wants a
man who’s 5’8 or taller. I have
gotten a few responses from girls before
saying “oh I am kinda tall” “you
kinda short”, and I respond back saying
you being tall doesn’t bother me at all.
I know that height matters! Also a
girl wants a handsome guy that she find
attractive. I do have confidence in
myself, I like the way I am but females
don’t find any attraction or interest in
me at all.
This who situation of me never having a gf
or kissing a girl really puts an impact on
me every single day that I never had any
experience, having fun or a relationship
with a girl. I have always wanted a gf
since I was a teen. I remember when I
was a teen and never having a gf didn’t
bother me at all because I was still
young. Today since I turned 28 in may it
just hurts and I am almost 30 and
sometimes I just think that I will be
single for ever and never be able to share
my life with a female. I don’t want to
think that way but the days and years are
going by fast and I am getting older each
year. Every single day when I wake up
it’s always in my mind and doesn’t go
away. Thinking about girls and having a
gf being able to go out and have a good
time and being able to talk everyday to
each other. It’s so hard not to think
about it everyday. It sometimes affects
me at work by not concentrating and
thinking “i can’t believe I am 28 yrs
old and never had a gf or kissed a girl
yet” or hearing guys talking about
their girlfriends. Or going out anywhere
especially to the movies and seeing guys
with their gf. I have heard so many
times before “don’t look for them,
they will come to you” like when?
Still today I never been approach by a
girl.
Sometimes I ask myself what does it take
for me to get a gf? I don’t get it at
all! I am nice person who’s, caring,
outgoing, fun, sweet, honest, loving,
active, athletic, good physical shape, so
why can’t I get a gf? The 3 important
key things, which I believe why I never
had a gf yet and reason why girls never
find me attractive, never want to get to
know me or never give me a chance and
losing interest in me is. 1. Height (
I am 5’5) 2. Looks (my looks are
somewhat average) 3. My voice, I have
been hanged up on the phone many times
before. To me what I have been through
and seen many times its all based on looks
and appearance, and height. The first
impression a girls sees is what you look
like, if shes doesn’t like the way you
look you won’t get a chance, happened to
me so many times. I don’t reply for
hot models, because I know they won’t
respond to me, I like average girls who
enjoys the same interests as me.
I wish I knew the problem so I can change
so I can get a gf or so that girls find me
interesting. I can’t change my height,
my voice or looks. I have tried
different hair styles except shaving my
head bald. I do dress neat a normal. I
am clean all the time, I bathe everyday
and brush my teeth after I eat. And I
use cologne, bod man all the time. I do
go out, stores, parks, etc.
Is it possible that I could be single for
the rest of my life? Was I born to be
single forever? It seems like it to me,
I don’t want think it that way, but the
way things have been happening and having
no gf since my teenage years and now being
in my late 20’s and almost 30 yrs old
and still nothing at all. It’s just a
weird being 28 and never having a gf, to
me it feels like that I am missing a big
part of my life and my manhood. I just
can’t beat the odds!! I wish I can
beat the odds but its so dam hard!
I wish I could experience what its like to
have a gf and to have someone that cares
about you and knowing you have someone to
talk to and have a goodtime with. I
would give up anything just to have a gf,
I would give up my pride and joy my 90
mustang gt, which I like so much and put
some much into that car.
Any suggestions what I can do or change?
If you were in my shoes, what would you
do? What do you think my problem is?
Why can’t I get a gf? Why don’t
girls find me interesting? Why haven’t
I ever been approached by a girl or even
kissed a girl?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-20-06 06:53am
Oh c*ap, that's a
toughie.................You sound good to
me....Maybe a tad desparate.......But
considering you've never had a gf, that's
probably understandable.
5.5 ain't bad, i'm 5.6 and definitely
won't discount someone for a lousy 1
in.......But I know how some women
are?!...Guess you tried poofing up the
hair and shoes with a little height?
As for the voice that can be changed
too.................I'm a sucker for those
deep low sexy voices...............But
really how much you got to change and
still be yourself?
Although I agree that you probably can
find a gf anywhere.....Most people find
long lasting relationships from the
traditional places such as work, school
and even church. In these places you and
potential gf have had time to really get
to know each other.....................I
would put my eyes down and ignore you too
in public as i'm not interested in getting
picked up by a total stranger.
Also try pumping up your "profile":
"i hope this message brings a warm welcome
to your face, and gives us the opportunity
to get to know each
other."................
"single: ambitious, confident, loyal,
honest, passionate, romantic, supportive,
down to earth with a good sense of
humour...............(your info, dreams,
goals etc.)..................
..............I'm hoping to find a
fulfilling long-lasting relationship with
an ambitious, healthy, intelligent,
attractive woman, loyal to her values and
to those who value her. A woman of
action, with a good heart and sense of
humour. Strive to make things happen!
Not sit and wait for things to appear out
of nowhere. Let me take you where no man
has gone with you before.
I leave you with these thoughts. Let's
make a trade? A little piece of me for a
little piece of you. Genunine friendship
that can never be measured, this I promise
you.
Age/race unimportant"
say what's in your heart
iwishiknew..............Cause if you
don't, you may get the
girl.............But she'll probably be a
dud. :)
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raziel1687
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2006 Posts: 33 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-22-06 22:50pm
You need to give me your myspace so I can
see exactly what you look like and how you
present yourself so I can see what exactly
is wrong with you. One thing that I can
see already, that you talk too much lol
that's a really long post and you were
repetitive quite a few times. I've heard
that guys who have sex more produce more
pheromones which makes them more
attractive. So maybe it's the fact that
you produce like zero pheromones so
therefore noone finds you attractive. Cuz
it's really all about attraction otherwise
there would be no point in them getting
with you if they weren't attracted to you.
You should try making friends that are
girls first, and not just dating them
first when you just meet them.
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endlessnameless
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-22-06 23:38pm
Hey, well let me tell you about the height
thing, doesn't matter. Because i'm 31
and in the exact same vote as you. No
girlfriend, no sex, no love, still a damn
virgin. Somebody send me some rope. I
happen to be over 6 feet tall and I still
can't get no one. But then again i'm a
skinny tall redhead guy so not exactly in
demand. It hurts a lot more when you get
to 30, I feel completely helpless and I
can't even fake being happy now.
That girl that did that to you in the
movies is heartless. I have similiar
experiences too. I tried online dating
and met 2 girls. The first girl I tried
to go out with stood me up 3 times.
Never met her in person. The next girl
stood me up 2 times. Never met her. 5
times in a row. I don't try a lot to
pick up girls because its so scary, its
not fun for me. I might get the guts
once every few years but always get put
down, usually not as harsh as that girl
did to you. I always get hit with the
boyfriend bomb, and now since i'm older,
the married bomb.
I also have a myspace, of course in that I
manage to make myself look like an average
person but guess how many hits I got in
over a year. 125 hits. And who knows
how many of those are mine. Sometimes I
get a message and 99 percent of the time
its spam. I am careful who I pick to
send a message to and don't do it very
often. And I can't just send someone a
message saying, hey you're hot, something
they hear all the time, I would rather not
send a typical message which mostly ends
up getting me to the friend category.
And I won't stand for that, I refuse to be
a listener to some girl who wants to dump
on their boyfriend to me.
But at least you got a car and sound
successful. I got fired from my job, had
to move back with my parents, have no
money and now no forseeable future. So
now in order for me to even think about
getting a girlfriend, I need a job, a car
and my own place. You know how long that
will take. A good year pending on how
crappy the car is and if I pick to live in
a closet somewhere.
So trust me, you not alone in being in
this situation.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-23-06 06:58am
In your situation, i'd be more concerned
about getting my life back on track than
getting a girlfriend. Many people define
themselves by their jobs and once that is
gone by retirement, job loss, demotion etc
they become lost. Get back on the
workhorse.......You'll feel better for
it.....And you don't want to have to
explain a large unemployment gap on your
resume. Also that's what parents are
for..................The rough
times......As long as it's tolerable, stay
as long as you need to, to get back on
your feet......................
As for the car......My car's newer than my
beaus and I get paid more than
him.....................So we ain't all
about material things, ok?
As for the girlfriend
thing............................One thing
i've noticed as men get older at least in
the person to person thing...........Is
that they are so gun shy that they
basically wait for the girl to come to
them..............I can't speak for other
women but that's a big .N.O-.N.O for
me................
.......You mean to tell me after all these
years......You still can't talk to a
woman?!? What are
we?..............Aliens? :)
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endlessnameless
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-25-06 03:30am
spirit
wrote:
in your situation, i'd be
more concerned about getting my life back
on track than getting a girlfriend. Many
people define themselves by their jobs and
once that is gone by retirement, job loss,
demotion etc they become lost. Get back
on the workhorse.......You'll feel better
for it.....And you don't want to have to
explain a large unemployment gap on your
resume. Also that's what parents are
for..................The rough
times......As long as it's tolerable, stay
as long as you need to, to get back on
your feet......................
As for the car......My car's newer than my
beaus and I get paid more than
him.....................So we ain't all
about material things, ok?
As for the girlfriend
thing............................One thing
i've noticed as men get older at least in
the person to person thing...........Is
that they are so gun shy that they
basically wait for the girl to come to
them..............I can't speak for other
women but that's a big .N.O-.N.O for
me................
.......You mean to tell me after all these
years......You still can't talk to a
woman?!? What are
we?..............Aliens?
:)
well of course you do not understand, you
have not lived in my shoes and that of
people like me. Its so simple to you
isn't it. Why don't you try living the
next 30 years of your life without any
love or affection. Tell me how it
effects you. How long do we live
anyways. Losing 30 years is a big
portion isn't it.
And yes, I cannot talk to women after all
these years. I can talk to women sure,
but to get to the next level, that I can't
do. Like that 40 year old virgin movie
says, I think I have put the women on a
pedestal that is unattainable by me.
And I don't think having, a place of your
own and your own car and a job makes you
materialistic. I can't afford to be
materialistic and people that usually say
they aren't materialistic are people that
can't afford to be materialistic.
And with my job, well even when I had a
okay job I couldn't hide how sad I felt
sometimes when I worked and got to wonder
if that had been a reason why I got fired
in the first place. So it seems like a
catch 22. I need a girlfriend to be
happy and excel at my job and to feel like
an actual human being and also I need a
job to be able to have a girlfriend to
take her out, to be independant, to have a
car and money and all of that. So
without a job I can't get a girlfriend and
with a job without a girlfriend i'm so sad
that it effects my job performance and I
get fired.
Damn you lucky no namers that don't have
to deal with this. Sucks to be and ugly
health questions don't it.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-25-06 09:02am
Your right, I don't
understand..................I don't
understand how someone can think so lowly
of themselves that they think they can not
possibly be worthy of a human connection.
I don't understand how people think that
it's all about looks and how much dough
you have in your bank account. And I
don't understand how people can say all
women want is a man who has looks, a fancy
car and who must be taller then them.
For me................Not
important...................What's
important is how someone makes me feel
about myself.......Am I happy around this
person?Or do they bring me down?
In this day and age, anyone can be
materialistic.....................It's
called a credit
card............................I call
myself "futuristic"....Always looking
ahead.
I agree that you probably could "really"
use a girlfriend..........Depression
studies have shown that a person that is
"married" or "attached" in some way has
shown improvement. But my suggestion is,
to correct everything correctable first
and then worry about the unattainable(in
your mind only I believe).
Whether you realize it or not
................You have put up walls,
because of all the hurt and
lonliness..........Maybe unintentionally
but people can sense it.....
And I don't give a @#%! What anyone
says..............I .D.O. .N.O.T believe
your ugly!!!!!!!!!!!!
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mflair2000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 1 Location: to
Posted: 09-10-06 13:39pm
Wow, it seems like you are putting alot of
pressure on yourself..In my opinion, take
some of that $$$ you have saved and and
book an hour with a really hot "service
provider" (escort) and get over the whole
first time...With that weight off your
shoulders you might look at things from a
new perspective and not get so frustrated
some might take offense to the above; but
I was in the exactly the same position you
were in @ 25..And it ended up helping me a
great deal
then improve your inner game, maybe read
some of david deangelo's work to find out
what you might be doing wrong.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 09-10-06 15:28pm
You need to start learning to like
yourself more and get rid of the
short-male complex. There is someone out
there for you don't let some of these
women get you down that want to go after
different types of guys, it is there lost,
hold your head high!
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Posted: 09-11-06 03:50am
Some men are naturals, unfortunately, you
are not. So I will put the answer on a
plate for you:
Yea I hear u man im single too im 26 years
old im male but its horrible aint it when
u cant get a girlfriend I just feel like
there is something wrong with me coz girls
wont go out with me ive been told im good
lookin aswell but I cant get a girl to go
out wiv me ive had sex loads of times but
ive only ever had 2 girlfriends before
anyway just keep trying you will get there
soon and I wish u good luck with your
quest try to stay positive bye bye
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nightangel73
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 2381 Location: North Carolina
Thanks: 11
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Posted: 09-15-06 06:17am
johngamefreak
wrote:
yea I hear u man im single
too im 26 years old im male but its
horrible aint it when u cant get a
girlfriend I just feel like there is
something wrong with me coz girls wont go
out with me ive been told im good lookin
aswell but I cant get a girl to go out wiv
me ive had sex loads of times but ive only
ever had 2 girlfriends before anyway just
keep trying you will get there soon and I
wish u good luck with your quest try to
stay positive bye
bye
if you are good looking and you can't get
a girl something is wrong with your
personality. I once dated a guy who was
gorgeous but was so dumb I stopped dating
him.
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DaManIam
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2006 Posts: 28
Confidence Posted: 09-15-06 08:47am
It all comes down to confidence.
Ever see an ugly guy with a hot
chick? Of course you
have....Confidence.
Ever see a short guy with a hot
chick? Of course you
have....Confidence.
As for the readhead ......Yes, most girls
dont dig the red hair. But the ones how
do, you got em!
Being smooth with girls is learned
behavior. Yes some guys just have it
but most develop it. The more you
expose yourself to conversions with women
the better you'll get. It all comes
down to comfort.
You only live once. Talk to as many
women as you can. Even if it's just a
chit-chat with the clerk at the corner
store while buying a gatorade.
you care too much
- the less you care the more they will.
Fact!
- stop being so serious. Women want to
have fun. Chill out!
- dont show all your cards....They'll have
the upper hand.
Befriend girls. The easiest way to meet
girls is when you in their circle of
friends. So when you meet a girl who
doesn't interest you or visa versa, don't
break off communications, she's you link
to more girls.
Btw....It's so much easier to pick up when
you're out would both girls and guys.
When other girls see you're out with
both...Their guard drops. It's instant
cred. That way you're not just a bunch
of guys gauking at women.
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Posted: 09-24-06 06:29am
nightangel73
wrote:
johngamefreak
wrote:
yea I hear u man im single
too im 26 years old im male but its
horrible aint it when u cant get a
girlfriend I just feel like there is
something wrong with me coz girls wont go
out with me ive been told im good lookin
aswell but I cant get a girl to go out wiv
me ive had sex loads of times but ive only
ever had 2 girlfriends before anyway just
keep trying you will get there soon and I
wish u good luck with your quest try to
stay positive bye
bye
if you are good looking and you can't get
a girl something is wrong with your
personality. I once dated a guy who was
gorgeous but was so dumb I stopped dating
him.
you use the word personality. This
suggests that one must have a "good"
personality to bag women. Understandable
- many break attraction down into
personality and appearance.
I don't break it down at all. If I
decide that my goal on a certain night is
to bag (and I don't mean tea bag ) many women, I
simply say "psychology my friend".
Sometimes, having something "wrong" with
your personality can play to your
advantage. An arrogant scum bag - an
ugly arrogant scum bag, can be a player.
There are plenty of this type around who
achieve success.
Now, let me be clear on this. Am I
suggesting that to be successful with the
ladies means having to play the arrogant
scum bag act? No. Hell no! I am
merely giving an example of a playing
style, because it works for many men.
Why is this?
If you are arrogant, you tend to place
yourself above women. Think of yourself
in this light enough, and you will start
to believe it. If you start to believe
without question, it will become you.
And hence, you are above women. Women
like to reach for something that appears
to be above them in this context.
An illusion at work? Perhaps. Magic!
But the point is, if you need affection,
you've got it. If you need a lot of sex
(who doesn't!), you've got it.
So don't put too much stock in having a
great personality if having one doesn't
quite cut it for you.
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 09-30-06 01:19am
spirit
wrote:
your right, I don't
understand..................I don't
understand how someone can think so lowly
of themselves that they think they can not
possibly be worthy of a human connection.
I don't understand how people think
that it's all about looks and how much
dough you have in your bank account.
And I don't understand how people can say
all women want is a man who has looks, a
fancy car and who must be taller then
them.
For me................Not
important...................What's
important is how someone makes me feel
about myself.......Am I happy around this
person?Or do they bring me down?
In this day and age, anyone can be
materialistic.....................It's
called a credit
card............................I call
myself "futuristic"....Always looking
ahead.
I agree that you probably could "really"
use a girlfriend..........Depression
studies have shown that a person that is
"married" or "attached" in some way has
shown improvement. But my suggestion
is, to correct everything correctable
first and then worry about the
unattainable(in your mind only I believe).
Whether you realize it or not
................You have put up walls,
because of all the hurt and
lonliness..........Maybe unintentionally
but people can sense it.....
And I don't give a @#%! What anyone
says..............I .D.O. .N.O.T
believe your
ugly!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am about average looking about 4.5 on a
scale of 10. Yes I know having a gf
would change my life..Its just not easy to
get one..Since hs I have been turned down
and women just don't find any attraction
or interest in me at all..I do go out..I
am not a bar person or club person..I
can't stand the smoke..I go to the parks
alot, the bookstores, stores etc..I am
also on many dating websites but no luck
yet..
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Simon_New_Zealand_01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Invercargill, New Zealand.
It's Not Hard to Get a Girl-friend. Posted: 11-07-06 11:28am
I can't get one either, but I have a few
mates who have a different girl-friend
everytime I visit them. They have a
smart-arse mouth, tonnes of
self-confidence, a quick witted reply and
a cheeky smile, and let me tell you, they
get all the girls. One guy I know, had a
chick jump in his bed when we were
drinking and was waiting for him to go and
medical question her, but he didn't want
to, he said she was "dirt". But I thought
she was hot. It's not that girls won't
hook-up with guys. It's more to do with
who you are, if a chick likes you, you
won't have any problems, but if you're not
one of these lucky guys (say 20% of the
population) with "the goods", i.E. The
personality, then your love life will be
quiet like mine.
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Mike55520
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 11-12-06 07:48am
Height does not matter, my brother, at 37,
is only 5.4. He also has 5 kids, from 3
different women, dude, I hate to sound
harsh, but your hight,your looks, they
dont mean anything to most women, of
course you need to be respectable looking,
have good hygiene, your problem isnt your
looks, its in how you approach it, maybe
your trying to move along too fast with
them, maybe your jumping the gun and
trying to get a little too affectionate a
little too early, dont be in a rush for
that first kiss,grope,medical question, or
hug because I garuntee you you will not
see them again if you do. Spend a lot of
time with them before even thinking about
these, and dont pick someone up simply
because you want sex, you will never find
someone that way. Remember, it should
never be about anything but making each
otherh appy. You start with talking.
Learn about each others likes and
dislikes, become friends, go on a few
dates, spend some time together, and if
all goes well ask her to go steady,if she
agrees
thats great. If not, dont be a jerk about
it, maybe she just isnt ready for a
relation ship, but if she says yes, dont
get over ambitios and immediately go for
her pants, not only will she smack the
snot out of you, but youll prolly wreck
your chances of a serious relationship,
some women will allow you some fun in
wonderland, but some would like to wait a
while, some even until marriage. Remember
sex is an expression of love between two
people, its not a status symbol. If you
arent getting laid dont get frustrated, if
you really really think you need it, take
that other persons advice and save up for
an escort.I personally dont approve of
prostitution , but as a guy I do
understand the frustration, I havent been
intimate with anyone in over a year, which
is probably more frustrating than never
having done it before.
Some women are just shallow, you need to
learn to pick these out of the crowd, if
you have self confidence issues, dont go
for these no matter how attractive you
find them.
Its not about looks, its about being
happy, not to sound harsh, but maybe you
should get a date with the less attractive
women, if your trying too hard or if your
not self confident enough often these
women will have the same problem as you,
and so will understand you better. Beauty
is on the inside, ignore nature, because
its wrong in the case of attractiveness.
You are still young dude, dont worry if it
doesnt come your way, you just need to
figure out what your doing wrong, which
from your posts I tend to think your
either coming on too strong, or trying to
get in her pants too fast.
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smileyface
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2005 Posts: 15 Location: California
Posted: 11-20-06 18:08pm
It's not your looks.Some women are just
blind to good men.My advice to you be open
to every good woman.It doesn't matter
where the woman lives,c in the
usa,color,size or weight be open to
women.
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Re: It's Not Hard to Get a Girl-friend. Posted: 11-21-06 18:58pm
simon_new_zealand_01
wrote:
i can't get one either, but
I have a few mates who have a different
girl-friend everytime I visit them. They
have a smart-arse mouth, tonnes of
self-confidence, a quick witted reply and
a cheeky smile, and let me tell you, they
get all the girls. One guy I know, had a
chick jump in his bed when we were
drinking and was waiting for him to go and
medical question her, but he didn't want
to, he said she was "dirt". But I
thought she was hot. It's not that girls
won't hook-up with guys. It's more to do
with who you are, if a chick likes you,
you won't have any problems, but if you're
not one of these lucky guys (say 20% of
the population) with "the goods", i.E.
The personality, then your love life will
be quiet like mine.
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