Hello, I got married to my husband who was
a long lost first love since I was 16. We
shared a few years from 16-18. Then we
lost contact and I met someone else to who
I gave 8 years of my life. I am 27 now, I
reconnected with my my first love who is
now my husband when I found out he was in
prison. I have never dated a criminal and
now I am in love. We married while he was
incarcerated cause I strongly feel I love
him,we have currently been reunited for 3
years and been married for almost 2 years.
I am scared cause I really love him,
however all we do is argue. Now because
things are so bad where he is I can not
even visit him until feb. I am scared and
lost. I feel like I really love and need
him.. What am I going to do, he is upset
at me right now because, he thinks I am
with someone else and for the first time
ever, did not call me to say good night or
check on me this morning. I am so scared
but do not want to feel like I am begging
him by writing him or asking him to call.
I need help.
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kissofangel20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 248 Location: ,
Posted: 08-21-06 07:55am
You need to get some self respect. My
husband would pull that crap when he was
deployed (army) and it drove me nuts. I
finally told him if he accused me one more
time not only would I go out and do it I
would divorce him and he would never see
me again. I was not going to keep
defeding myself for something I wasn't
even thinking of doing. And I most
certianly wouldn't do it with him gone.
Needless to say he straightened himself
out and after the second time we went
through it he's never said anything of the
like to me.
He either loves and trusts you or not.
You've done nothing wrong, get out and
find yourself something to do for fun.
Try out some new hobbies. You have to
have a life ....Living is supposed to be
fun. And just tell him that your not
going to argue with him about it nor are
you going to defend yourself for sumthing
you've not done.
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Emma2
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 4406 Location: Montreal, Canada
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Posted: 08-21-06 08:05am
Wow, this is a very whining and pathetic
post! Yeah, do get some self-respect and
remind him that you are not the one
responsible for his criminal activities
which caused him to be locked up and to
shut his mouth and deal with what he has
made for himself. I really hate when
people say " I feel as if I love him" you
either do or dont and thats it!
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-21-06 09:57am
Yeah,he put himself in the predicament,and
just because he feels insecure does not
give him a reason to talk to you like
that.You should ask hi this, if he loves
you so much that he could marry you,why
does he now feel he can't trust you or
that you are cheating on him?If e doesn't
trust you maybe you should not have been
married in the first place.What would give
him this idea?
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