Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Dating Site Posted: 08-22-06 18:43pm
I'm going to invite you all to join
okcupid.Com, google it up for the link -
it's free, and not really sex oriented,
most people don't even mention it in their
profiles, it's just a way to meet people -
my profile is under imperfecti.
I've made a few friends locally, a couple
of them are married people, just friends -
I haven't actually had any luck finding
potential partners, but then I live in the
middle of nowhere, so you might do
better.
Anyway, it's a pretty cool site, they have
tests you can take to determine
compatability, and you can even make up
your own tests - have fun!
I also posted this in the "single and
unhappy" forum, i'm not associated with
this site in any way other than being
member, I just like the site.
My sad story is, that I got a divorce, and
took sole custody of the kids, the mother
is simply too unreliable - it's had it's
rough times, but I haven't had any regrets
at all that i'm doing the right thing.
The one liitle problem: I can't get out,
i'm pretty much stuck here at the house -
I have the days while they're at school,
but the oldest has downs, and it's been
tough trying to find a baby sitter
although he's a pretty gentle little guy.
Anyway, i'm not getting any younger, and
not to sound desperate or anything, but
i'd like to be in another relationship
before I die - so any thoughts or
suggestions, i'm all ears.
If, for instance, there are any pregnant
women with no place to else to turn, we
could help each other out - I don't mean
it to sound so sleazy, but if nothing else
it would be someone around so I could get
out - i'm a responsible adult, not a
predator, and i've raised these kids from
babies virually alone - so I hope nobody
takes it the wrong way.
I can't seem to find any single parent
groups around here, and i'm not sure what
to try next, short of accosting every
woman I see in the grocery store who isn't
wearing a ring.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-23-06 06:29am
You could always try starting your own
singles group in your area.....Get people
to register through the local paper(?) and
then when you have enough bodies get it
rolling.....Chances are there are other
people in the same boat as you. Nothing
like face to face meetings......Not sure
if I buy this whole online dating
stuff......As anyone can pretend to be
someone else and it's sooo
impersonal......Probably a little to easy
to dump someone.......Just sounds like a
disaster waiting to happen?!?
Keep looking for the babysitter......And
when you find her.......Treat her like
gold so she don't run
away...........................In the same
situation......2 children.......Youngest
with autism...........
Congrats on being a great
dad!......................But you deserve
to have fun too.....................The
ladies ain't gonna find you if you don't
go out there...................So first
step.....Leave the house. :)
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-25-06 10:42am
Aww,you sound like a great guy and a great
father too! You shouldn't have any
problem meeting a woman! Like spirit
said,and you know you just need to get out
of the house every once in a while.Are
there any sitters in the newspaper you can
call?Why don't you ask the mother for help
with him?They are her kids too ya know.She
should take some responsibility
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-25-06 11:01am
Uh, the problem is not hat I don't want to
get out of the house, it's that I can't,
trust me, if I could I would, and I do,
every chance I get.
Their mother takes them when it's
convenient for her, and I can't just drop
them off, I don't want them over there if
she's drinking.
So far singles site have been the best
solution, not everybody is for real of
course, but on the other hand, you're not
really losing anything if it doesn't work
out, wasted some time emailing back and
forth.
Main problem seems to be there's
relatively few women locally in the 30 to
40 age range, I live in a relatively low
population density area of the country.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-25-06 11:10am
singledad
wrote:
uh, the problem is not hat I
don't want to get out of the house, it's
that I can't, trust me, if I could I
would, and I do, every chance I
get.
oh sorry if you
misunderstood,i wasn't thinking you would
not get out,lol I know its that you
can't.Thjats why I said something about
your x taking them.Does she have any
visitation at all where she has to pick
them up at this said time or what?
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-25-06 12:51pm
No mellisa, she has visitation, but only
takes them when it's convenient for her -
sunday nights or during the week usually,
which I have to put up with or they
wouldn't get to see her at all. She is
usually drinking on the weekends, and is
generally in no condition to take care of
the kids.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 08-25-06 13:53pm
singledad
wrote:
no mellisa, she has
visitation, but only takes them when it's
convenient for her - sunday nights or
during the week usually, which I have to
put up with or they wouldn't get to see
her at all. She is usually drinking on
the weekends, and is generally in no
condition to take care of the
kids.
aww,how sad is that?She's
a mom,i would think she would want to take
care of her children.Was she like this
before you had kids?
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-25-06 14:32pm
It is sooo sad to see a female do that to
her own children, not just to the regular
child but to the down's syndrome child as
they are soo loving and ask so very
little. I should not be judging your
ex-wife maybe she does have a disease with
her alchohol but it is still sad and maybe
she has post partum syndrome but I would
not want to leave her alone with them
either, if that is the problem, I hope she
gets the help she needs and you find
someone that will make you happy and I
hope that you can find a good babysitter,
someone that you can trost so that you can
start having some breakes that you
deserve! Have you thought about moving
closer to town? You sound like a super
good person!
I wish you and your children all the best
and I wish I was there to help!
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-25-06 22:50pm
Thanks sandy, it is sad, and hard having
to try and explain it to the guys
sometimes. My mother in law (exmil?) is
very supportive and so is my family and
that helps.
I'm living in the most densly populated
are in this part of the country - the
nearest city of any size is about 200
miles away. There is probobly sombody
nearby, I just haven't found her.
I'm lucky enough to have a job that allows
me time to take care of the kids, so i'm
pretty much here indefinitely.
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