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awkwarddepressed
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Girlfriend Doesnt Give Enough Head
Posted: 08-23-06 10:15am
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Hey, does anyone have any advice on how to
get my girl to give me more head? She
does it very rarely and I kinda would like
it more. I dont like to ask cuz then its
like im putting her on the spot. I just
wish she would do it more on her own.
Every once in a while she'll say that she
feels bad and that she should do it more
but it doesnt change anything.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-23-06 10:35am
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Maybe she just doesn't want to and you'll
just have to get over it.Your lucky any
way cause most the girls I know wont give
head at all.Not all girls like doing it
and if they do,they don't like having a
penis shoved down their throat all the time.
Do you do the same to her?
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Birch
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Posted: 08-23-06 10:45am
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When I read something like this, I always
wonder if it isn't my own boyfriend
writing in. :)
i like to give head, but I don't like to
do it as much as he wants. I mean, he'd
like it every night, right? How often do
you want her to perform it? What is your
idea of "very rarely"? She might think
otherwise, you never know.
Make sure you're clean. Maybe shower
right beforehand. That helps me! Be
vocal. I like to do it more when I know
he really enjoys it.
Give her pointers; maybe she doesn't think
she's good at it?
I think this is very important: tell her
that there's no pressure to "make" you
ejaculate. If she thinks the pressure's
off, then she won't feel obligated to go
forever, and might enjoy it more. Of
course you want to ejaculate, but you
might have to go without a couple times so
she understands that you're sincere about
it.
Of course, tell her when you're about to
come so she has options! Many girls
don't like to be "surprised" by a mouthful
of semen. Have you tasted your semen
before? If not, why? You can't expect
a girl to lap it up and be disgusted by it
yourself. :)
try doing "69". Not my favorite thing, I
like to concentrate on one thing at a
time, but maybe you can start by 69 and
then give each other head separately.
Watch porn together.
I hope this helps! Good luck.
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awkwarddepressed
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Girlfriend Doesnt...
Posted: 08-23-06 10:54am
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I didnt say I wanted it all the time.
More than once a month would be cool
though. And im very patient, im not a guy
that shoves it in. Shes not down with
that.
Oh and to answer your question, yes I do
go down on her all the time and I enjoy
doing so (i made the mistake of telling
her this, so she kinda uses this against
me by saying that she doesnt really like
giving head whereas I do). She gets it a
little less than usual lately cuz the pube
situation has gotten out of control (and
she got mad when I commented on the fact
that its hard to do when ive got to keep
pulling hair off my tongue) and I do a
much more thorough job when its better
maintained. If she cant grasp this fact
thats her problem. She gets it wayyyyyy
more than I do.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-23-06 11:00am
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Wow,if I were you I would stop doing it so
much.Maybe she'll start missing it and
tell her "well,you don't do it for me so
i'm not doing it" and sdon't let her use
that excuse "you like to do it more than
me".Just say "well I don't like getting a
mouth full of hair!" and see what she
says.Other than that there isn't much you
can do besides what the above poster
said,that you can do about it.
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BigMike
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Posted: 08-24-06 21:07pm
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Lmao!~
just wait till you get married and have
kids, you'll never wear the much loved
"tonsil hat" again!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-25-06 09:31am
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| bigmike
wrote: | lmao!~
just wait till you get married and have
kids, you'll never wear the much loved
"tonsil hat"
again! |
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Moo
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Posted: 08-25-06 09:47am
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I agree that more than once a month is
hardley being demanding but as it
obviously bothers you then I think you're
going to have to bring it up with her -
don't be harsh or demanding but maybe just
mention that you love it when she goes
down on you and maybe you'd like it to
happen a little more frequently.
Unfortunately talking openly is sometimes
the only way around things like this.
If she's desparately uncomfortable doing
it then ask if there's anything you can do
to make it better for her etc...
Good luck!!
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pauly boy
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Nah...
Posted: 08-28-06 17:52pm
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Wait until 2 or 3 kids come along and the
only head youll be getting is a sore one
lol x nite
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flipper
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Posted: 10-13-06 12:09pm
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I think it really depends on the woman.
I've been married for almost 10 years, and
I give head a few times a month (some
months are more productive than others).
Maybe your girlfriend thinks that it's
boring? I have to get pretty turned on
first before I want to do it. I feel
very sexy and "in charge," and usually
suck on his fingers first, which drives
him mad, and makes me want to do it more.
Sometimes it's fine for it to be all
about him, but others I need some action
too. I hate 69 though (too distracting),
so fingers are fine for me and then I get
off after he does. Maybe you just need
variety. Location? If she's always
doing it in the same place at the same
time of day (or night, whatever) then that
could get old after a while. Also, she
might just not be turned on enough before
she gets propositioned. Women need to be
warmed up, and it doesn't just have to be
all about sex. During the day make eye
contact with her, talk to her, touch her
hair or her back when you walk past her,
sneak a kiss. If that doesn't put her in
a lovey-dovey mood then you may have to
trade her in (kidding).
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awkwarddepressed
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Head
Posted: 10-13-06 15:56pm
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Should I be asking for it, or shouldnt it
just come natural?
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Kia
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Posted: 10-13-06 16:07pm
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Asking once is ok - asking over and over
again is not.
If she doesn't want to do it or doesn't
like doing it then you can't make her do
it - either you love her for herself and
live with it or head is more important and
you find a girl who likes doing it.
Btw the worst turn off is a man who isn't
clean ugh - even at the end of a working
day it can be a little "unfresh" down
there - cleanliness all the way.
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MEUVOREOS
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Suggestions
Posted: 10-13-06 16:26pm
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May be a man out there can lighten us on
how they like on getting head
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diamondsz
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Posted: 10-14-06 14:22pm
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Have to comment on two things
one im married and nothing has gone down
hill/lack off.....
Second off, if she refuses to go down but
you are doing it constantly, then you need
to stop it is not fair that she gets it
all the time and you dont......
On another point she does need to shave if
she wants it done pubes are actually not
clean an collect dirt I think you need to
phrase things differently!!!
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Kia
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Posted: 10-14-06 14:28pm
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| diamondsz
wrote: | | second off, if she refuses
to go down but you are doing it
constantly, then you need to stop it is
not fair that she gets it all the time and
you dont |
i'm going to disagree with you on that on
hun.
It's totally wrong to blackmail her into
giving head if she isn't comfortable doing
it.
If you are happy giving oral and she isn't
then it's up to you to give it but if she
isn't happy doing it then you should
respect that.
Sex is about respect not about receiving.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 10-14-06 14:38pm
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| kia_breizzze
wrote: | | diamondsz
wrote: | | second off, if she refuses
to go down but you are doing it
constantly, then you need to stop it is
not fair that she gets it all the time and
you dont |
i'm going to disagree with you on that on
hun.
It's totally wrong to blackmail her into
giving head if she isn't comfortable doing
it.
If you are happy giving oral and she isn't
then it's up to you to give it but if she
isn't happy doing it then you should
respect that.
Sex is about respect not about
receiving. |
but it should also be a give and take
sitiuation as well, im not saying
blackmail but if she enjoys it and she
doesnt want to give any to her man how
would she feel not have it?
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Kia
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Posted: 10-15-06 05:08am
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That to me is irrelevant and a very
chauvenistic (sp) approach.
No one should be made to perform a sex act
they are not comfortable doing.
If he doesnt' want to go down on her fair
enough, but just because he does go down
on her that is no reason to make her feel
guilty or pressured into doing something
she is uncomfortable with.
My fella is not comfortable going down,
never has been and never will - I respect
that and he pleasures me in other ways.
I'd not dream of saying "i'm not giving
you a blow job because you won't go
down".
I give head because I want to not because
I want something in return.
***added***
read your post again and I think I see
what you are getting at so to put it
another way - yes, pleasure for pleasure
is fair enough.
But that doesn't mean giving head for
going down, there are plenty ways to
pleasure your partner.
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Posted: 10-15-06 09:07am
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I think that is a case by case call. Some
people are selfish in the bed, and need a
wake up call. So not going down on her
might work for him if his gf is such a
girl.
Other girls are just prudes, and no matter
what will not go down on a man. So the
guy not going down on the gf in this case
would not help.
So akward has to decide that one for
himself, and I feel both of you are
right.
If it was me, I would not go down on her.
If it does not work, then I have the
future choice to go down on her or not.
If I kept going down on her and she does
not change, there will always be that
question.
Personally I think she is being selfish.
I think for mostly everyone, oral sex in
the beggining was gross. But we acquired
a taste for it. She should get off her
ass and catch-up.
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Kia
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Posted: 10-15-06 10:53am
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What good reason is there to make someone
give head if they don't like it.
Sex is not a tit for tat thing it is
sharing pleasure - and giving head is not
the only way to give pleasure.
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momentaryhigh
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Well
Posted: 10-16-06 15:48pm
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Well now...
Have you tried buying her some flavored
lube? Flavored condoms even? It makes
teh job much more tasty. I don't really
give a **** myself, I love doing it for my
man. It makes me feel sexy. But for some
girls, it makes them feel uncomfortable
and dirty.
Speaking of dirt...Would you go down on a
girl who hasn't showered for a couple
days? No. And guys have the same problem
with odors. Nothing is a bigger turn off
than tasting sweat and urine when you're
trying to get into teh mood. And that's
another thing, I know some girls who won't
give head unless they are turned on. So
warm her up first. Let her experiment
too. Just make her feel comfortable. And
if all else fails.........Break a couple
of your ribs and do it yourself! Lol. Jj
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