I Don't Want My Mom In the Room Posted: 08-23-06 15:15pm
My mom wants to be in the delivery room
with me and my husband. But I don't think
I want her in there. Me and my husband
have talked about it and he said he thinks
it should be a bonding time between me him
and our first child. Whats your guys
opinions? Am I being selfish that I don't
want her in the room with us?
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Sarah020406
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Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 86
Posted: 08-23-06 19:26pm
You are definatly not being selfish!!!
And dont let anyone push you in to making
a decision you arent happy with. My
husband and I didn't want anyone else
there either (lets face it there are
enough people seeing you in all your glory
without adding your mum to it). If you
have problems telling her that you don't
want her there then do what my husband and
I did, we didn't tell anyone when we went
to hospital, my husband rang them all not
long after and said that it all happened
too quick :-)
giving birth is a very personal thing and
I know that for me I just wanted it to be
us there, it was our baby being born and
we didn't want anyone else to share that
experience with anyone else and so we had
some time to adore our baby in peace
before everyone else turned up, and a bit
of privacy!
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diamondsz
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Posted: 08-23-06 19:41pm
I dont think you are being selfish but at
the same time I had my mom with me the
first time and it was very reassuring she
helped me stay away from pain meds and
told the nurses to bug off when I didnt
want them around. If my mom wasnt there
I would have had my baby on a chair in
that case I appreciated it, with my second
child im happy my mom wasnt there it was a
bonding between me and baby and the nurses
werent in face all the time thank god.
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amandaduke
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Joined: 11 Feb 2006 Posts: 12
Posted: 08-23-06 22:32pm
Why would you have had to have you baby in
a chair?
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jeannine_29
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Joined: 28 Jul 2006 Posts: 117 Location: Granite Bay, CA
Delivery Room Posted: 08-23-06 23:55pm
Hi there. In my opinion, it is up to you
and your husband whether your mom is in
the room with you while you deliver! I,
personally had my mom in the room with all
3 of my deliveries. She was actually
very good, sweet and helpful. My ex
hubby appreciated all her help I think!!
On the other hand, it is a bonding time
with your, your hubby and your first baby!
Can I ask why you dont want her in
there? Is she an over bearing type?
Etc? My mom is very over bearing, but I
was amazed how she was in my deliveries!
Good luck to you guys and congrats on your
baby!
Jeannine
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amandaduke
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Joined: 11 Feb 2006 Posts: 12
Posted: 08-24-06 07:35am
There is some conflict between me and my
mom.. She trys to be nice but yea I guess
she is a little over bearing.
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jeannine_29
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Joined: 28 Jul 2006 Posts: 117 Location: Granite Bay, CA
Mom In Delivery Room Posted: 08-24-06 22:28pm
My mom is very, very overbearing! She
wants everything her way, or no way at
all! That is why I was so very surprised
how good she was in the delivery room
with me!! She kept her mouth shout and
even had a wet washclothe for my face and
lips. I was truly in shock! Lol
jeannine
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 08-25-06 16:41pm
Is this your moms first grandchild? I
dont think that you are being selfish, but
think of it this way. If the child that
you are having is a girl, and she was
going to have a baby wouldn't you want to
be there for her? That is how someone put
it to me one time. Do what is best for
you and your husband, but dont let anyone
make the decision for you. Think hard on
how you feel not your husband and not
anyone else. Good luck to you.
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Sarah020406
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Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 86
Posted: 08-25-06 22:19pm
My mum and I have a great relationship we
are more friends than mum and daughter but
giving birth was one thing I didn't want
to share with her and she was happy with
that as she didn't want to see me going
through child brith. My husband also
didn't want her there (or anyone else) and
I had to respect his wishes aswell, it
just so happened that they were the same
as mine. At the end of the day the
decision is yours to make and if you get
to the hospital and decide that you do
want her there then (as long as she
doesn't live too far away) you could
always get your husband to give her a
call.
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every_ready?
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Joined: 27 Feb 2006 Posts: 28
Posted: 11-13-06 18:54pm
I was in the same situation. But I told
me mom that this was something that I just
wanted my husband and myself to do. Your
mom should respect that, and you should
stick to what you want so you don't regret
anything after.
This is your delivery, and you should have
it the way you want it.
Good luck
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mom2jka
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Joined: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 40
Posted: 11-16-06 16:06pm
I can't imagine not having my mom there,
but we are really close. I think it is
up to you and your husband and if you
don't want her there, then I would just
tell her. It is your baby and your
labor-make the decision that is best for
you and your baby.
