i dated my ex-girlfriend for exactly 2
years before she broke it off. However,
before that she/we made the decision to
move across the street from me and 2 weeks
later it was over! Then 2 weeks after
that she starts seriously dating someone
else. All of this has been very hard to
understand for me. This spring
everything I did was never good enough and
she was always angry or irritated with me.
All of this drove me to the point where
I thought I could never make her happy and
I was also frustrated. I am a very
patient person and thought she needed time
to think and asked her if she wanted to
take some time to herself. I of course
did not want to see that but wanted her to
figure out what she wanted. As soon as I
stated that she made her mind up and it
was over for her. Early in our
relationship she had told me that she was
diagnosed with bipolar by two doctors,
however, a third doctor stated she had
been mis-diagnosed. Her sister, who she
is very close with and everyone else
cannot understand what she is doing and
believe that she needs to be on
medication. Whether or not they are
letting her know this or she will not
listen I am not sure. I always thought
that she was just emotional but looking
back at her moods I "believe" that it was
more than that. I am not trying to
justify the relationship but searching for
an understanding. At one time she wants
to by a cabin together or own something
together and be with me all of the time.
Then when we break up she says that
everything that I do annoys her and I am
not affectionate enough. She states that
I am too content with my life and she
needs more. I believe that I am happy
and have everything that I want or need.
All of that was hard to understand and
still is because I tried to be the best I
could but it was never good enough. She
stated she was living "my" life and not
hers, yet she loved everything that we
did. Their are many other examples that
lead me to beleive that she is
experiencing hypomania, however, I am not
a doctor but I know her life style and
what she is doing because we live across
the street from each other. I do love
her very much and I guess my question is
what happens if she is experiencing
hypomania and then starts to turn to a
"normal" mood? All of her decisions the
past few months have me completely
confused and searching for answers.
Maybe their are none.
i dated my ex-girlfriend for exactly 2
years before she broke it off. However,
before that she/we made the decision to
move across the street from me and 2 weeks
later it was over! Then 2 weeks after
that she starts seriously dating someone
else. All of this has been very hard to
understand for me. This spring
everything I did was never good enough and
she was always angry or irritated with me.
All of this drove me to the point where
I thought I could never make her happy and
I was also frustrated. I am a very
patient person and thought she needed time
to think and asked her if she wanted to
take some time to herself. I of course
did not want to see that but wanted her to
figure out what she wanted. As soon as
I stated that she made her mind up and it
was over for her. Early in our
relationship she had told me that she was
diagnosed with bipolar by two doctors,
however, a third doctor stated she had
been mis-diagnosed. Her sister, who she
is very close with and everyone else
cannot understand what she is doing and
believe that she needs to be on
medication. Whether or not they are
letting her know this or she will not
listen I am not sure. I always thought
that she was just emotional but looking
back at her moods I "believe" that it was
more than that. I am not trying to
justify the relationship but searching for
an understanding. At one time she wants
to by a cabin together or own something
together and be with me all of the time.
Then when we break up she says that
everything that I do annoys her and I am
not affectionate enough. She states
that I am too content with my life and she
needs more. I believe that I am happy
and have everything that I want or need.
All of that was hard to understand and
still is because I tried to be the best I
could but it was never good enough. She
stated she was living "my" life and not
hers, yet she loved everything that we
did. Their are many other examples that
lead me to beleive that she is
experiencing hypomania, however, I am not
a doctor but I know her life style and
what she is doing because we live across
the street from each other. I do love
her very much and I guess my question is
what happens if she is experiencing
hypomania and then starts to turn to a
"normal" mood? All of her decisions the
past few months have me completely
confused and searching for answers.
Maybe their are
none.
....Sorry, I wish I had answers, but do
not. But do have a question that goes
with this... Maybe u can answer.
..How long does a hypomania episode last??
I mean, could it be months???...Or just
weeks??... And if it is months, do they
not realize what they just did??... Do u
think she's resenting leaving u??? =(
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butterfly34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2006 Posts: 3
Question/answer? Posted: 08-25-06 06:19am
I guess that would ultimately be my
question as well. Maybe someone out
there knows...
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Snowshredder102
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2006 Posts: 6 Location: N/A
Posted: 08-29-06 02:12am
Sorry man, I know partly how you feel kind
of like with my ex girlfriend, I knew she
had some sort of mental illness after I
saw some of her mood swings/episodes and I
didn't really start to think about it
until after our relationship. Your
girlfriend probably is bipolar but who
knows, it might be something else. Though
I can't fully understand what you going
through because I am probably much younger
than you :/ goodluck =)
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butterfly34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2006 Posts: 3
After the Fact Posted: 08-29-06 09:46am
It does suck, you think you are dealing
with something else and trying to work
through those issues, however, in
hindsight you find out what you are doing
and would do in a "normal" relationship
does not and will not work.
