a Question For the Mommies!

I'm a new mother, so this might not be the norm, but...

Nothing ever gets done around the house. Ever. You just kinda learn to do as much as you can, and the rest will just have to wait. :(

(drives me nuts. I'm a neat freak!)

the rest of my "off" time is spent sleeping, really.

I get some down time once trey is in bed and my house is clean, I then grab my book and a smoke and head outside! Or I watch bb7-lol

Well my free time usually is here on ehealth..Because its really the only intersting thing to do..

I usually do the things I need to do while he is napping or is down for the night..

When I really really need some time to clean up really good or do something that is going to take longer than an hour I let grandma watch him for me...Which is actually good because he gets to spend time with someone other than me and jonathan..

But as for being busy ..Yeah babies/children are a 24/7 job ...Life is alot different with them in your life..

Once you have a baby your life pretty much stops because it now is revolved around your child. Like when I want to take a shower I need to do it first thing in the morning before everyone wakes up or when their dad gets home. Cleaning the house is always a non stop thing around my house. As far as free time the only free time I get is when im on here or when I go grocery shopping.. That is about it. There will become a you time again.

It was like that at times. Most of the times I would put her in her carrier and buckle her up and take a shower. And the only time I really couldnt do anything is when she was hungry or needing changed or sick all of the normal stuff. When they are babies it is alot easier than when they become toddlers and wont take naps and the terrible 2's and getting into everything and etc. Sometimes I dont think one is any different then 2 3 or 4 or 5 or 6...

Life is alot easier with one. If the child has a nap during the day then that is your free time. If the child goes to bed you have time to yourself. With 2 it is harder cause if one naps during the day the other may nap at another time or not at all. I have a 17 month old, 7 month old and 5 months pregnant with no.3.
When my 2nd was first born I found it easy as he just slept most of time and I was big headed that it would be an easy ride. Then he started being more demanding and it was harder but i'd still say its really ok- I must have good kids! Lol. They both take afternoon naps together and both go sleep at 7.30 pm til 8am.

With no.3 on the way I know I won't have a moments rest until they are all in bed. The moral of the story is the more kids you have the harder it gets to have free time!

I wouldn't change it for the world though. I love giving all my attention to my kids.

Yes, life turns upside down when baby comes....The only time I am able to get things done is when the baby takes a nap and even then...There are times when I am so tired that I nap with the baby too! (and don't get my chores done.)

sometimes my mom will watch my son one day on the weekend and I try to get everything done that I am able to.

Mel you still get time to do things...

Dont worry, if I want to walk I take the kids with me if I want to bike then they come with me or even rollerblade, alot of people have been more understanding to parents and jogging strollers are the bomb.

Whne I need a few minutes to do dishes I put cam in his exercauser and gate up both entrances basically make so the kids cant leave the living room while I do dishes there is so many ways around things. The frist 2 months after having a kid are hard though cause you are literally burnt but it all gets better with time.

Poor tazzy, I just could not imagine having six, not much .Tazzy time at all, just having two was difficult enough. I used to be a neat freak too and after having kids I learned to sleep when they slept and would just try and tidy. I used to love to iron, I gave that up, I worked though and I think that was my time and I had a super lady that would would come in and do most of the cleaning and take care of the kids, I got lucky their as some of thes people you hire don't want to do anything but she was paid well to which might have made the difference but my babies were always glad to see me come home just as much as I was glad to see them, tired or not! When they were school age it always seemed that we always had a houseful of kids!

When you first bring the baby home...Everything is crazy. You sleep when the baby sleeps because they aren't on a sleeping pattern at all. When my daughter hit about 8 weeks she started sleeping through the night...Which helped so much! Now she is almost a year and I do things with her all the time. But if I need time to do things I can get some of the chores done when she is napping or at night because she goes to bed about 8. If I really have a lot of errands to do and I am in school so I have homework she will go with grandma. Its great if you can just get a break sometime but it is so worth coming back home and seeing a huge smile on their face because they missed you:) its really not bad its more rewarding than anything...I guess you just need to be ready to give up your freedom....But who ever is ready?

Well as for getting things done around the house you need to do it when you get a chance, when they are sleeping, or else it will never get done... Somedays, my son doesn't sleep very much so I have a front pack and I put him in that and do my house work, as for free time, there is no sure thing when you have a baby.... They are 24/7 care and you don't get much time

Sandyallen, I do agree there. But now or days you cant trust anyone to take care of your kids. You have to be afraid of everything. Abuse, kidnapping, lack of supervision and etc. I have heard and seen alot. I just dont trust anyone anymore and sometimes you cant even trust family.

I totally agree with you there! I don"t know what ever happened to those good ole days where you could trust people, even strangers, people weren't afraid to work or do their job and you could trust them but I know that they are long gone, although their are those you can trust out their but after being burnt it is hard to trust or hearing ont the news or reading the newspaper about something bad happening, it can even be scary taking them to pre-school as their are negative things that have happened there, it really must be difficult for a single parent or being a child who's parents both have to work and yet I do know that tgeir are a loy of good pre-schools out there! It is just that people and times have changed so much from the time when I was raising my kids.

Bb7 rocks!!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband is good to me...... I sleep in everyday..... For now anyway, since i'm technically on bed rest!

Well ok I have a 14 month old son and im pregnant again. I never really get a break except for when "daddy" takes him every sunday for a few hours for his visitation but then again we just broke up the day before I found out I was pregnant again so I have not had many of those days!! Its a non stop cleaning process with a child!! When I first had him and even still now I have to decide what to do with the hour or so I have while he takes his nap....Do I clean or can I run around like crazy all morning making sure I do it as he goes along so it caught up...And if so...Do I shower? Do I myself take a nap because only being 10 weeks pregnant I have been really sleepy lately, or do I enjoy the "downtime" and watch a little t.V...........Everyday this is the decision I face and everyday I try to mix it up a bit but when he finally goes to bed at 7 its the same thing only I have as long as I can stay awake to do things I didnt get done during the day. Bottom line if you get tierd during the day and he/she goes down for a nap dont kill yourself trying to get stuff done, there is always after he/she goes to bed...Take a rest, reeeeeeeeeeelaaaaaaax!!! Its the key to being able to put up with some of the crazy things the baby does!!