Extremely Low Self Esteem And No Friends Posted: 08-28-06 02:49am
Hello everyone
how are you all doing today? I
basically joined this forum as I had
chronic bad breath and was hoping to find
a cure and came upon this message board so
I thought I would post here. It kills
me to say that my low self esteem is due
to my parents. Ever since I was 12 they
have been telling me:
- how ugly I am
- how worthless I am
- how they wish they never had me
- how they wish god would take people that
are useless in this world instead of
taking good people
- how they are ashamed of me
- how I have no talent
- how I will never be happy in life
- how everyone hates me
i am currently 20 and believe that every
word they say is true. I spend all my
time on the computer chatting. I really
seem to enjoy doing that. I have no
real friends even though I go to college.
This is due to my bad breath. I have
suffered from it since the age of 14 and
there is nothing anyone can do to get rid
of it. I guess that is another reason
why I am so unhappy. On top of that I
suffer from a skin condition where I am
covered in dark spots from head to toe and
nothing can be done about that either.
I really do not know what I want from my
life :( and I am constantly depressed.
The only life I have is my life online (
i'm madly in love with someone online
(even though I met him many many years ago
and no longer talk to him) - yes I know
it's pathetic )
i also suffer from severe mood swings.
One minute i'm happy and the very next
minute i'm either crying or being a health
forum to someone(online of course). I
really do not know what is wrong with me
or why I was made this way. It is said
that everyone is there for a purpose but
am I there for purpose? I don't think
so.
When I am around peopel I seriously feel
liek i'm goign to die because I start to
sweat and feel all sick. I hate it. Its
worse when i'm only with one person. Even
thinking about it makes my heart beat
faster.
I've also had a few jobs but noone seemed
to like me due to my horrible looks and
bad breath. I cry almost every day and
i'm just constantly depressed. I don't
even know why I am posting here but yeah I
just felt like talking to someone.
Thank you to anyone that bothered to read
this. I hope you have a good day.
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pineystein
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2005 Posts: 3 Location: massachusetts
Low Self Esteem Posted: 08-28-06 17:07pm
In my experience I find that low self
esteem comes from
the type of verbal abuse you described.
You are a victim of abuse. Do not let
them hurt you.
Find a therapist who specializes in abuse
victims
you will recover
good luck david s.
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ccris123
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 58 Location: Kentucky
Posted: 09-06-06 12:56pm
My parents did the same thing to me. No
matter how hard I tried or how good I did,
I wasn't good enough. I finally realized
that it was because I had succeeded in
surpassing them in everything I did. Now,
i'm stuck being stressed out all the time
by being a perfectionist. I'm so hard on
myself, I sometimes get annoyed with my
own criticism. As for the bad breath, go
see an ear nose and throat doctor.
Usually, it's something to do with an
infection in the sinuses or in your gums.
That part can be cured. And if you're
nice, then it shouldn't matter what you
look like. The more someone likes you,
the better you look and the more they
care. Trust me, I used to date a guy who
looked like mr. Burns off the simpsons.
I didn't see it until his personality got
ugly. I wish you the best of luck. We're
all here if you need us.
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shortygirl24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 09-06-06 13:52pm
Oh my gosh, it sounds like your parents
are treating you really badly and unfair
unfair! And that is abuse what they are
doing to you, it is not right for your
parents to sit and belittle you like that,
your much to good of a person to take that
from them, and the reson why you may have
low self asteem is beacsue of what tehy
are doing to you, the are planting all the
things in your head and making you think
that you a bad person, and your not!!!
Dont satisfy them by thinking that your
not good enogh,thats just only what they
want you to think.... Just show them and
prove to them that you are good enogh and
that you are smart... You really dont
have to be taking that kind of emotional
abuse, you are too good for that , and
nobody deserves to be treated unfairly by
their parents of anyone,yes and things
like breath could easily be fixed, people
should not just you beacuse of that, im
sure you would be a great friend, and that
is what they are missing out on ...Please
always remember that you do not have to
take this emotional abuse, what you
parents are doing is wrong..And you
deserve to be treated nicely and equaly by
everyone, and that your a special person,
no matter what!!! I used to have low
self asteem to but I got some help for it,
and im all better wich I hope someday too
that you feel more confident about your
self and see that your a great person
inside and out, and they are really really
wrong , please dont take abuse from
anyone!!! Not even you parents..You
deserve a happy life! And I hope that you
will get the happyness you deserve ~hold
your head up with confidence and smile
girl~ you deserve much better!!!!! Take
care :)
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006 Posts: 229
Posted: 09-06-06 19:30pm
Try and join a cbt group at your college
and learn how to be your own best friend
and see how unture and cruel all those old
messgaes your family put into you are and
not just keeping you down but are
exagerated to begin with and self
fulfilling. Once you learn how to catch
the thinking errors (in cbt) you will
build new pathways in your brain that
reinforce you and build your self esteem.
Good luck and I know you can do it because
I am doing it now and my family sucked a
lot like yours sounds like it does.
