rejected for adoption of a baby girl Posted: 08-28-06 10:34am
Yet again we we're up for a placement of a
baby girl due in oct and were rejected and
we are also 2nd on a list for a baby boy
due in dec. And as we've heard nothing
else for about two weeks we already know
we weren't picked. I'm not sure how many
more times I can deal with this. I can't
even go into the nursery anymore. The
door stays shut at all times. This is
getting to be too much...All the time you
read or are told about children being
taken into state care or babies being left
in bathrooms or dumpsters. And yet here
we are a loving stable couple who want
more than anything to have children and
can't and still after years of trying and
looking just can't get it to happen.
Just having a low day and needed to vent
some.
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 08-29-06 17:47pm
Dont give up. When the time is right and
no one knows when that will be, but you
will be blessed. Good things come to
those that wait..
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Baby_C
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 28
Posted: 08-29-06 17:54pm
tazzy d
wrote:
dont give up. When the
time is right and no one knows when that
will be, but you will be blessed. Good
things come to those that
wait..
tazzy is right, it will happen when god
thinks your ready for it too. Be patent*
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worried wife
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 8 Location: texas
Posted: 03-03-07 21:18pm
I know that there are people like you who
will give someones child a stable home.
And My daughter was adopted by a couple
who seems to be alot like you. They tried
and tried but she just could not carry to
term. And along came me. I was able to
bring pitter patter of little feet into
their house and as much as it still hurts
I know I made the right choice. They had
been waiting for a child for almost 11
years and I chose them because they were
the ones no one wanted to pick. Why I dont
know. If someone like me could pick them,
then your day will surely come. Just be
patient. God is preparing you the right
baby for your family. lots of luck.
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 03-03-07 21:28pm
I am a birth mother as well and if you
dont mind could I ask you a few questions
about the agency you are going through.
Why were you turned down? do they give you
any reasons? Do you submit a letter for
the birth mother to read that states who
you are, your back ground, and why the two
of you would like to adopt (except the
reason of that you can't have any of your
own) As a birth mother this is what the
parents had to do through the agency that
I had been with. If it isn't hard to talk
about I would love to talk to you about my
expierences and maybe I can help if you
would like so PM me any time. By the way
what a wonderful life you will provide for
a child that can not be raised by the
birth mother. children belong in a loving
stable enviroment and people like the two
of you allow that to happen. My boy was
adopted by a family 12 years ago and he is
spoiled rotten and I know I would have not
been able to give him that life. good luck
and again I would love to hear from you
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hope2121
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Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Posts: 37 Location: christchurch, new zealand
Thanks: 1
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Never give up! Posted: 09-25-08 18:03pm
Dont give up you wlll get the child that
is made for you, i know ts hard but just
keep applying and you will get a child, i
am an adopted child so any uestions ask
me.
Good luck
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LoriSam7879
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2008 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Posted: 09-26-08 21:41pm
Oh dear, this is hard to hear. I totally
agree... going through infertility for
over 7 years, I often think the same. WHY
on earth are there people doing horrible
things to their babies, and yet we would
LOVE to have one, but we can't.
(couldn't). How come they are the fertile
myrtles and pop out a baby every year, and
I can't? Its angering.... and it really
can get to you.
I am sorry for your loss, it is a huge
loss. Feel free to vent, grieve, do
whatever you need to do to get through
this. Keep the nursery shut, there is
nothing to be embarassed/worried about.
This is a hard road, you need to do
whatever you can to keep yourself strong
and to help get through this.
I also agree with the others, your baby
will arrive. God will bless you with the
one you were meant to have. Waiting is the
worst part, keep strong...
Lori
